apparently I have unresolved animosity issues towards one of the attendees. My boss from 8 years ago came in late (so that hasn't changed) to the meeting and sat down. It was a huge shock since it meant he relocated and is now working at one of our customers as opposed to a completely unrelated industry. I'm reasonably sure he didn't see me from the way we were sitting and he ended up leaving early.
So 8 years ago I learned a great deal about duplicity, scapegoating, cowardice, and vicious political infighting because of him. I also learned a great deal about Exchange logging and the unfair advantage it gave me when dealing with his lies and the CIO he brown nosed. I won the 2 month long HR\IT fight but that really only gave me 9 months to find another job. Any prospects of a career at the company were completely shot and my annual review was unlikely to go well as the CIO made her feelings about me quite clear.
So I spent the first 20 minutes of the meeting mostly not paying attention while I looked up his job title, linked in profile and tried to see if this University published a public salary page (They don't). There aren't many things in my history that really bother me. Even if they were terrible or painful they lead to where I am today and I'm happy with the outcome. But this left a larger mark than I realized even if it was part of the path to where I am today. That CIO is probably the only other person I actually know well that would result in a stronger response. I guess I figured that was all behind me. Now I might run into at least one of them in a capacity where I have to interact with them. That would be....interesting.
So 8 years ago I learned a great deal about duplicity, scapegoating, cowardice, and vicious political infighting because of him. I also learned a great deal about Exchange logging and the unfair advantage it gave me when dealing with his lies and the CIO he brown nosed. I won the 2 month long HR\IT fight but that really only gave me 9 months to find another job. Any prospects of a career at the company were completely shot and my annual review was unlikely to go well as the CIO made her feelings about me quite clear.
So I spent the first 20 minutes of the meeting mostly not paying attention while I looked up his job title, linked in profile and tried to see if this University published a public salary page (They don't). There aren't many things in my history that really bother me. Even if they were terrible or painful they lead to where I am today and I'm happy with the outcome. But this left a larger mark than I realized even if it was part of the path to where I am today. That CIO is probably the only other person I actually know well that would result in a stronger response. I guess I figured that was all behind me. Now I might run into at least one of them in a capacity where I have to interact with them. That would be....interesting.