Is that what I said? No. The question is for you as well. Would you take on black cultural norms because they are the norms that would allow you, a minority, to fit in? Or would you continue your white traditions and cultural legacy.
The context of my question seemed to be missed. You seem to think that "white" culture is winning because of I guess luck, and "black" culture is losing because of bad luck. You believe that white culture is holding down blacks. Is that inherent to white culture, or a culture "winning"?
To answer your question, I would no do either of your options, but do what I do now. That is to say, I will speak my mind and do what I think is right. That is the reason I have been called racist, and a race apologist. I get called a liberal who hates freedom, and a conservative who hates the poor.
I don't pick a culture. I live my life the way I see fit.
I have a sister that is 1 year younger than I am. When we were in Junior High, she had a black friend who was going to have to move because her crack head mom was getting kicked out of her apartment. The girl was heart broken to have to leave all her friends. My mom offered to have the girl live with us and stay in the school with all of her friends. Her mom said fine and moved to the next town over.
After living with us for about a year, she started getting shit from some of her friends. By now she was a cheerleader and a 4.0 student. She was walking home crying. I asked her what was wrong, and she said she did not fit in anywhere. Her black friends said she was trying to be white by living with a white family, got good grades, and was a cheerleader on a team that was mostly white. Her white friends said she acted too ghetto. She did not want to stay in the school, but what else could she do? She could go live with her crack head mom, or stay with us and stay in the same school. Her black friends ended up talking shit and stopped being friends with her. Her white friends did not stop being friends with her, and eventually just stopped caring about her "ghetto" things. Both are shitty, but one is worse.
So I gave her my opinion and said fuck them all. Find people that don't care about roles and culture. She was smart, driven, attractive and could do anything she wanted. So, she pretty much did that. She did and said things and did not care. The people that stuck around accepted her, and that was that. The girl ended up getting a Yale law degree and married a Biologist. Her sisters are in and out of Jail, and I think her mom is nowhere to be found.
Point is, she did not follow a culture, and just lived her damn life just like I do. But, if I had to say which culture on the whole was better white vs black, I am going to say white in terms of economic success. There are a crap ton of factors that go into that, and I don't think that black culture is bad because black people are stupid or bad. I just think that their culture holds back their people.
Black people and the things they went through cant really be compared to other races. They were not the only slaves, but by far had the worst time of it. They were not the only group to deal with racism, but by far have had it the hardest from what I see. That does not detract from the fact that "black" culture, in what ever that may mean, is holding back many of the people that are part of it.
Black people are being killed by far more black people than anyone else, and its not because they are too dumb or poor to stop killing each other.