I just said something really stupid to my boss.... why?

[Descartes]

We communicate w/ a few coworkers over AIM, and I had sent a message to what I thought was another coworker (not my boss) that read, &quot;<boss' name> gets damn pissy at times.&quot; What kind of a moron am I? Well, I had accidentally sent it to my boss!!

My boss and I are friends, and we talk all the time, but never have I expressed my level of perturbation directly to her. She was actually quite hurt, as we have a good working relationship, etc.. I feel horrible.

Any feelings on this?

 

[Yo Ma Ma]

Uh, oops. Maybe follow up with &quot;oh here's Descartes now, I think he wants back on his computer&quot;.

 

[RevVveD1]

Other than being reallllly careful next time? I really dont know.. that sux ... Hope she doesn't get to upset over it...

 

[kranky]

Learn never to put things like that in writing. I mean never, even in AIM. I think everyone's done it and learned the hard way.

 

[Total Refected Power]

Rule #1 of business

Never talk ill of your co-workers or boss. It will always come back to haunt you. You learned a valuable lesson.

 

[ChrichtonsGirl]

How about a heartfelt apology, telling her that when you sent the message you were angry about something (whatever it was), that you value your working relationship with her and you're very sorry that a careless remark you made upset her so much - make sure you stress that it was your mistake, that no matter how she acted or what you thought of it, you know you shouldn't have sent the message, whoever the recipient was supposed to be. Then assure her that if you have similar thoughts about her in the future, you won't undermine office morale by going to someone else with it, but will try to openly discuss it with her. Then hide from her for a few days.



TRP has it right. No matter how much you hate your co-workers/boss, don't spew it at work because it will always come back and bite you in the butt.

 

[DesignDawg]

Hehe. Sorry to hear that. It sucks, but it reminds me of when I did the SAME THING one time. It's really easy, when you have multiple windows open, to send the wrong message to the wrong person. I was talking to my dad and my friend at the saem time one time, and my friend was talking smack about something. My dad and I were talking about his new job. I acciedentally sent a message to my dad that said nothing more than SH!!!!!!!!T, BRA. (I don't really talk like that, I was making fun of my friend.)

Ricky
DesignDawg

 

[Athanasius]

Well, I guess you could try and read a &quot;Freudian slip&quot; into this. In other words, a Freudian analyst might say that, at your deepest heart-level, you said exactly what you wanted to say exactly to who you wanted to say it. Your conscious mind, which usually censors and practices careful inhibition, simply let one feeling that would normally be censored &quot;slip&quot;.

Well, I am not Freudian, but I would say, &quot;Make the best of it.&quot; Since it seems by your post that you really do believe that your boss is at times &quot;pissy,&quot; and since you seem to feel like you have a decent relationship with her, maybe you are the one who should dialogue with her about it.

There's always another job

Lesson Learned: If you won't say it to someone's face the way you are saying it to someone else, change the way you are saying it to someone else.

-or-

Resort to the &quot;Who accessed my computer?&quot; defense

 

[denali]

One time at a company wide meeting after the owner made a comment I said &quot;That's the stuipest thing I've ever heard&quot;.

 

[Descartes]

Thanks for the comments.

I did learn a lesson, and that's a lesson I thought I was mature enough to understand w/o learning it the hard way.

I always make a point to keep out of office gossip, and never badmouth coworkers. I guess I'm just appauled at myself for saying it. Time for some reflective thinking as to why I got upset in the first place.

 

[Taz4158]

It's easy enough to make that mistake. Just say you're having a bad day and hope she understands.

 

[Cheapster]

denali way funny. So what happened after that, any feedback?

 

[Turdorf]

In one of my final physics class the instructor refused to answer why one of my answers on a final was wrong. I said: What do you care, you get paid the same whether or not we learn or not. He didn't like that. I scraped by with a 'C+' in the class when I should have gotten a 'B'.

 

[fdiskboy]

Ouch.

The first rule of fight club.....errr, where was I....

 

[BDawg]

You shouldn't have sent the memo anyway. What if she were looking over the recipient's shoulder?

 

[Cheapster]

That reminds me when I was at a med school interview, there was a student involved in some of the questioning. I was smart enough to say, &quot;hopefully I get into this program before I loose all my hair&quot;, as I look at the student who is basically bald! Needless to say, I didn't make it in. I meant it as a joke b/c I'm thinning too, but went over like a lead baloon.

 

[Azraele]

Whoops.

Next time you talk to her, apologize. Then perhaps you could explain why you said what you said, even though it was never meant for her eyes. Or if you really want to try and spare her feelings, tell her you were having an off day and explain how sorry you were for singling her out.

 

[gittyup]

I use a tool at work similar to AIM to communiate. I accidentally sent my boss a message thar was intended for my friend. Luckily, it was not directed toward him. He was very cool about it writing back, &quot;I don't think this was meant for me, but good to know.&quot;. I was letting my buddy know about a good deal on a monitor or something....

People who are in charge of other people, have to realize that there is always some frustration from the employee towards their boss. I hope she just brushes it off....

FOr goodness sakes, be careful next time..

 

[madmacks]

my buddy did something similar but lucky for him it was april 1st and he was fast on his feet. he came back with, &quot;haha, got you... april fools. err, yeah&quot;. funny as h3ll.

 

[AncientPC]

A sincere apology is the most direct way at repairing a relationship most times. Don't try to deny you wrote that, but try to explain why sometimes you feel that way and comfort your boss by saying that it's nothing serious and stuff like that.

 

[Mday]

wtf does pissy mean?

does she go around pissing?

 

[AncientPC]

Not an exact definition, but

pissy: irritable, fussy, fastidious, short-tempered, etc.

 

[LordMaul]

you should have IMMIDIATELY said &quot;LOL just kidding...heehee&quot;

 

[andrey]

As they say in Russia: &quot;Word is not a bird. After the word is out, you can't catch it back.&quot; Sad, but true

I believe we all have done something like that at least once. I've done similar thing at my work also. I acidently IMed boss of my boss, saying couple &quot;nice words&quot; about our meeting and finishing up with me recommending him to get lai... in the near future. After a long conversation in his office I actually manged to stay at that job, however I learned an outstanding lesson of not putting in writing everything I think

 

[flood]

make it up to her.
sexual favors.