I did the breaking, why do I feel so down about this? I didn't feel our relationship was going to work out the way she wanted, so I had to end it. Now I feel like I was the one who was dumped. Can anyone share from experience, is this a normal feeling? Maybe it just takes time for the feelings to dissipate...
I just broke up with my g/f - why do I feel bad?
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hmm well, you loose a deep subconsious bond, you lose a chance for nookie, you loose face in the eyes of some peers, umm it'll hurt, especially if you were truly interested in her.. . if she wanted to get serious and you thought you didn't then man you stuck. .
<< I did the breaking, why do I feel so down about this? I didn't feel our relationship was going to work out the way she wanted, so I had to end it. >>
what happened to what you want??
Been there, mostly guilt on my part for making her feel bad. I feel your pain man. Almost everyone here past puberty has.
If you broke her heart then I know how that sucks. I left a girl when I went away to college and she was crushed. Made me feel terrible. She would send me letters like everyday about how she hadn't given up hope. I didn't know what to do, but after about six months, she finally moved on.
We had only been seeing each other for a month, and I told her I didn't want to continue the relationship once I went to school before we even started dating.
We had only been seeing each other for a month, and I told her I didn't want to continue the relationship once I went to school before we even started dating.
Why diditn you let her decide if it would turn into what she wanted??
Were you afraid she was gonign to break up with you first, so you saved face so she wouldnt be the first to end it?? If not and you cared about her and could see yourself with her then why?? Its never the right thing to listen what everyone else thinks, you have to live for yourself and make decisions that make you happy.
just my $.02
Nate
Were you afraid she was gonign to break up with you first, so you saved face so she wouldnt be the first to end it?? If not and you cared about her and could see yourself with her then why?? Its never the right thing to listen what everyone else thinks, you have to live for yourself and make decisions that make you happy.
just my $.02
Nate
oh yeah, once i hadda leave a girl when i moved away, but we kept in tuch for a month or so, and she came up to my house a time or two, then she drove her mom nuts, so her mom made her nuts, and she stopped bothering me for a while, then she got email and started writing me recently, though she has to use some one elses pc so, if she moves again i'll have peace back. it might hurt but its been 2yrs, i've gone on to a few differnt people, some farther than her and i got, some not, and now i think i've found some one permanent. . . and it's kinda like a skeleton in the closet now
She was looking for a relationship that was going to lead to marriage. I knew I couldn't provide her with that. I'm no where near ready for that. Plus, I just had not been happy lately. I think I made the right choice...I just feel crappy about it.
oh yeah, i know wouldn't want to be led along by a girl if i was looking for somthing serious and she wasn't or vise verse, if she wanted that kind of comitment and i wasnt ready for it with her. . i'd let her know, i feel i could handle the commitment, but you know who's the right one for that kind of seriousnes. i feel the girl i'm with now i could devote that much of myself to ,and it'd be worth it, but if she doesn't want to or can't or whatever, she'd better let me know.
Ahh now I understand the situation Draco.. good for you i say good for you. I agree its the worst bring drug along and trying to act happy. If its not there its not there. The reason you felt bad I think may possibly be because you cared and possibly love her, but your not in love with her. Anyway best of luck to you in the future.. I haev had many similar experiences as most of us have,,
Weird no women to put in there $.02
Lates Nate
Weird no women to put in there $.02
Lates Nate
ArkAoss
You don't "loose" any of those things. You "lose" them.
Why do so many people get lose and loose confused?
You don't "loose" any of those things. You "lose" them.
Why do so many people get lose and loose confused?
Well I sure know that I love Counter Strike. But seriously did you ever ask her what she wanted out of the relationship? Did you ask her to slow down, and live it up a little? I know how serious relationships can get. Hell i just turned 22 last week and I've been dating my future wife for 1.5 years now. And she has a 2 year old son. Kids....what else can i say but kids....
Draco,
that's because you're not one of those assholes and actually cared about your x and her feelings, and you did what you felt was right.
that's because you're not one of those assholes and actually cared about your x and her feelings, and you did what you felt was right.
It's quite normal to long for what we don't have. Now that you are apart you miss her. That will pass with time, especially if you go out with other people.
Why get into relationships if you don't want to be in relationship.
It's terrible to be loved. It stands in stark, intollerable opposition to everything we feel about ourselves.
It's terrible to be loved. It stands in stark, intollerable opposition to everything we feel about ourselves.
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