I have a girl problem...

[KennyTheGreat]

Hi there you peeps,

I like this girl a lot. I met her at the mall because I was with a friend that was friends with her. This was during christmas and I didn't speak to her. We both got invited to someone's bday party and then a day before the party i got her msn and we started chatting. We chatted A LOT. I found her a really neat person. This was like around Jan. 15th. After I saw her a couple times because we were all chilling after our exam, she does not goto my school. Then one of my friends told me to tell her how i felt and that i wasn't expecting anything from her. Her birthday just passed and I bought her a stuffed animal toy that sang. She likes it a lot. When i'm talkin to her on the phone she always turns it on and she always talks about it over msn. I'm a really shy guy and I was kinda shy talkin to her and stuff. Anyways, Last week, I slow danced with her twice at my school dance. That night when I got home, she didn't really talk to me much, and I didn't really talk to her much. Then I kinda got fustrated and then she wanted to talk and i was too tired to talk. I felt really sad, didn't know what to do. I was lying down on my bed and cried sometimes, ( I know i'm a pussy ) anyways. we chilled together on saturday, I only seen this girl like 5 times in real life. But then we started talkin more and more that day. I looked her right in the eyes for like 2 mins and I don't know, we had a moment ther. We looked at pictures in her wallet and then i asked her for one of her grad pics and she gave it to me. She is really pretty man. Then, we talked all night on the phone. She's like Kenny Do you Like Me? I'm like no, and she's like why you lying. Her friends tell her that I always talk about her or whatever. Then she says that i'm sweet that i like her and some other crap. Then she asks why i like her and i told her she was special, different and i liked talkin and chilling with her. I told her that girls like her are really rare these days. Then she tells me likin her is not right. Then she tells me that she doesn't feel the same way about me. I call her princess and she calls me frog or prince anyhow, I don't know what to do, she keeps asking me if she didn't talk to me for a month, would i stop liking her or not. I don't know, I just don't know what to do . I duno , I need some advice, I really like this girl.





Kenny

 

[Keego]

sucks, but you can't do anything about it. you fell in the friends pit

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

<< sucks, but you can't do anything about it. you fell in the friends pit >>

Pray it never happens. It sucks HARD

 

[tantos]

dude you sound like a pussy...crying over a girl you've only seen like 5 times in your life?

 

[Atlantean]

Unfortunately you may forever be stuck in the "just a friend and nothing more" zone, unless you do something so amazing that she falls in love with you.

 

[The Stigenator]

find a moment.. and kiss her..

and just before you do so.. tell her "here is where the frog prince becomes a prince" (smooch).

and you got a girl friend after that.

 

[Yzzim]

<< dude you sound like a pussy...crying over a girl you've only seen like 5 times in your life? >>


and you sound like an ass.

 

[monto]

<< find a moment.. and kiss her..

and just before you do so.. tell her "here is where the frog prince becomes a prince" (smooch).

and you got a girl friend after that. >>

playa in the house!

*takes notes

 

[Rent]

This is one thing I never understood about women. They just want to be friends. For what reason do you just want to be friends? Are you really so insecure that you can't get on with your life unless you know someone likes you JUST as a friend?

bah, I won't rant. Sucks to be you Kenny, I know that road. What should you do? Its really to feel the same way knowing she doesn't like you like that. Given enough time, you'll distance her in your mind and lose some of those feelings for her. Just sucks to wait and wait.

 

[Bluga]

<< Then she tells me that she doesn't feel the same way about me. >>



there it goes.

 

[linuxboy]

This is one thing I never understood about women. They just want to be friends. For what reason do you just want to be friends? Are you really so insecure that you can't get on with your life unless you know someone likes you JUST as a friend?

Conversely, for what reason do you want to be more than friends? Security in friendship is misleading. A friendship requires interaction and sharing, and some level of intimacy and trust. A committed relationship on the other hand has that plus cultural/social/legal expectations combined with erotic elements of desire. Security is misleading because it's never really there. There is trust but there is a great chance for a severance due to the generally fickle nature of humans. Moreover, a network of support and differing viewpoints provide needed stressors for a gradual change and development, which is crucial during the sturm und drang of adolescence and later periods in life. It's really a great coping mechanism and great way to reduce anthropological chaos. That does have to do something with security, but not the sort you indicated as affirmative feedback.

So I guess what I don't understand about men is why they think it comes down to sex and not a genuine desire to understand the world and remain curious about experience while trying to maintain personhood, health, sanity, and learning something in the process.

Cheers !

 

[Chrono]

sucks alright
i've landed too many times in that zone
i hope i'm not in the zone already...
shiznit
i gotta ask her out then... if nothing happens then i guess we're "friends"
heh
wish me luck with my situation
goodluck on yours as well kenny
but... nevertheless... do move on if she won't give you a chance.. you can always search

 

[d1abolic]

<< she keeps asking me if she didn't talk to me for a month, would i stop liking her or not >>

She is trying to figure out if you just want to sleep with her or if you really love her. Tell her that you will think of her every day even if you haven't seen her in years.

 

[alpineranger]

She probably genuinely doesn't like you, but you're fortunate that she tried to find a gentle way to let you know. Get over her, these things happen and if you can't learn to walk away you'll be in big trouble eventually. Just think of all that you don't have to deal with (and the money, time and emotional energy you'd be spending). It is my opinion that the people with the best relationships are those who are truly comfortable with themselves first - people who could live satisfied being single.

 

[Jfur]

You know, I am a woman, and I am just as baffled as you at her behavior. Why she would grill you about liking her and then say it was wrong is a mystery. She either a) just wants ego stroking and is going to lead you down a long, tortured path, or b)wants you to make a bold move and demonstrate how special she is so can either fall into your arms or feel even more special when she says no. Whatever happens, stay strong and if you do feel like she is pulling your chain it is best to avoid her for now (as hard as that is). BTW, what do her friends say about HER feelings towards you?

 

[Presence]

Forget about her man. All that girl is a big tease who needs attention, like Joe Dirt said " Keep on keepin on" hehe or somethin like that. Pretty sad when a girl needs to ask someone if they like them and then say well I dont like you. Thats just down right evil.

 

[Kadarin]

I'm going to look at the positive here and go out on a limb and say that I think she really does like you. However, she's not going to make it easy for you, so if you feel that you honestly have a real connection with her and you think she's really worth going after, you're going to have to go and do something that's going to get your feelings for her noticed. (Go to her front yard at 3am and play Peter Gabriel from a ghetto blaster you're holding over your head or something, I don't know..)

Tell her that you like her and want to go out with her, and ask her why she doesn't feel the same (if she indeed really doesn't).

 

[kami]

Sounds like she's playing games. Run. Run and don't look back.

 

[Buzzman151]

<< She is really a pretty man. >>




LOL.... so she's a man now

 

[Hammer]

You know if I hadn't seen you post before my Skoorb-dar would have gone off.

 

[Nitemare]

How old are you? I thought you were a kid until you mentioned the grad picture..

but anyways welcome to your first day of Women 101...

They don't know what they want so you can't possibly either..If you want to pursue it just remember you will be saying WTF more often then not. They are mysterious creatures and many a man go through their entire life and don't even remotely understand them.

Here is what Nitemare has learned about women in his 28 years of existence.

1. When she talks pretend to listen even if you don't really care.
2. Agree with her about everything except when she asks something about her looking fat.
3. Do not hit on her best friend or relatives.
4. After sex, cuddle and have 5 minutes of pillow talk before you fall asleep.
5. Never forget her birthday or your anniversary together.
6. Buy her gifts for no apparent reason, just to say you love them
7. Try to not fart and belch too much in front of her..this also goes about picking your nose and scratching yourself
8. Take her out to something she likes to do even if you could care less, occasionally.
9. If she spends alot of time on something, tell her she did a great job on it after she finishes it.
10. Tell her she looks nice and that you love her frequently.

 

[J Heartless Slick]

I have found it is best to believe a girl when she says she only wants to be friends. They may not be clear and straight forward about alot of things but usually they are telling you actually how they feel about this. If you do not go along with how she wants your relationship at best you will be behaving like a jerk and a loser.

If it does not work out the way you want with her, wait and you will meet someone else.

 

[Scarpozzi]

pics??

 

[ojai00]

<<

<< She is really a pretty man. >>




LOL.... so she's a man now >>



Hahaha, I just thought about doing that!! I think she's playing games with you. She asks if you like her, and you say no, then she asks why you're lying. But I think she was expecting a different reaction from you. When you gave her that "no" I think she said that you shouldn't...but good luck. Hope you get her.

 

[SpecialEd]

Move on dude... there are tons of girls you'll find your really like but they don't return the affection. You'll know it right away if a girl likes you, and this one doesn't fit the profile. I think shes just playin games now. if you don't get over her, your gonna get hurt BAD.