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Ilmater

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Short version:

Used to be good friends with this one family (my dad and their dad were friends), visited them maybe 3 or 4 times a year. They had 2 daughters, one my age that I hung out with when we went over there, but not any other time. Their dad passed away from cancer and they moved out of state (Indianapolis, I'm from near STL and I currently live in KC). We went to visit them not long after they moved, and that was between 10 and 15 years ago. That was the last time I've seen or spoken to them. My mom hears from their mom once every few months, and their mom is notorious for talking WAY too long.

Recently she asked for my e-mail address so her daughter could e-mail me. Sh1t.

She's got a husband or a long-term boyfriend, can't remember which, and she's like 15 hours away, so I'm sure she's not interested in me (I'm certainly not interested in her as I love my gf). She's surely changed TONS since I saw her last, as have I. So why does she want to talk to me? Is it wrong for me to wish she would stop e-mailing me? I don't care to spend time e-mailing someone that I'm certain I will never see again in my entire life to tell them "what's been going on."

Has anyone else here gone through this? What's the best way to get them to stop e-mailing you?
 
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Ilmater

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Originally posted by: Patt
Just don't respond.
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But her and my mom still talk.

Jesus, I just read her latest e-mail. She goes into detail about how she saw her mom's family for the first time in years this Christmas. I'm sorry, I know this is insensitive somehow, but why in the world would I care? I haven't seen her in 15 years. If one of you suddenly decided to post on here that they saw their mom's family for the first time in a few years, would you care? I certainly wouldn't. I have never met a single member of her mother's family. I don't know ANYONE they are related to outside their immediate family.
 
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dirtylimey

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Dont respond, if questioned say your new spam filter msut have accidentally flagged the mail as junk.

It really is that easy.
 
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NuroMancer

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Originally posted by: Ilmater
Originally posted by: Patt
Just don't respond.
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But her and my mom still talk.

Jesus, I just read her latest e-mail. She goes into detail about how she saw her mom's family for the first time in years this Christmas. I'm sorry, I know this is insensitive somehow, but why in the world would I care? I haven't seen her in 15 years. If one of you suddenly decided to post on here that they saw their mom's family for the first time in a few years, would you care? I certainly wouldn't. I have never met a single member of her mother's family. I don't know ANYONE they are related to outside their immediate family.
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She has no friends, and wants to get to be "pen pals" with you.
 
FoBoT

FoBoT

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Originally posted by: mundane
Post the emails, and have the responses crafted by ATOT committee.
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w0w, best suggestion i have seen in OT in a loooong time!
:thumbsup:

this could be fun for all, including the OP!
 
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Ilmater

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Originally posted by: FoBoT
your post got messed up, where is the short version?
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;) Sorry, that was as quick as I could explain the history. The longest part is just me mad.
 
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Ilmater

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Originally posted by: FoBoT
Originally posted by: mundane
Post the emails, and have the responses crafted by ATOT committee.
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w0w, best suggestion i have seen in OT in a loooong time!
:thumbsup:

this could be fun for all, including the OP!
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LOL! I won't post the whole thing, but I don't mind giving you the gist of what she said:

- It's really cold here. It's been snowing every day. I hope we skip Winter and go straight into Spring (see, this sh1t doesn't even make sense)
- Saw my mom's family that I haven't seen in years.
- Who are you rooting for in the Superbowl? I'm rooting for...
 
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markgm

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I reconnect with friends I haven't spoken to in many years, I am always happy when someone gets in touch with me too. Just send back a short reply answering whatever questions were asked. Pretend you adopted a pen pal or something.
 
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BooGiMaN

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honestly how old are you...

dont email her back..when you mom asks why you havent just tell her the truth or say you been to busy to reply to her emails.
 
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Ilmater

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Originally posted by: markgm
I reconnect with friends I haven't spoken to in many years, I am always happy when someone gets in touch with me too. Just send back a short reply answering whatever questions were asked. Pretend you adopted a pen pal or something.
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But I don't want a fvcking pen pal. I'm not insensitive, I just don't care what she's doing. That's not my fault. I didn't TRY not to care what she's doing, I just don't. If she wants a pen pal to randomly tell what's going on in her life, then fine. There are a million ways to use the internet to connect to people. If I wanted a pen pal, I'd find some other way to fill that space. Hell, I don't even see the point of a pen pal. Talking to someone about your daily routine? Boring.

And the biggest problem here is that talking to her too much will mean that she will eventually want my phone number, and I will flat-out tell her I won't give it to her. Her mother ALWAYS talks on the phone with my mom for 2 - 3 hours, and I won't let her try to do that with me. I sometimes get tired of talking to my own girlfriend on the phone for longer than 15 minutes. So, I'm trying to spare her feelings here without telling her flat-out that I don't want to talk to her. That's pretty much impossible, so at least I get to vent.
 
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Ilmater

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Originally posted by: BooGiMaN
honestly how old are you...
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Of course someone on here questions my age. That's ridiculous.

When I'm bored at work, I can come on here and CHOOSE things to talk about. Plus, when I'm done, I'm done. If I start sending e-mails back to this girl, she's eventually going to want my number, and I'm not going to give it to her.
 
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markgm

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Originally posted by: Ilmater
Originally posted by: markgm
I reconnect with friends I haven't spoken to in many years, I am always happy when someone gets in touch with me too. Just send back a short reply answering whatever questions were asked. Pretend you adopted a pen pal or something.
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But I don't want a fvcking pen pal. I'm not insensitive, I just don't care what she's doing. That's not my fault. I didn't TRY not to care what she's doing, I just don't. If she wants a pen pal to randomly tell what's going on in her life, then fine. There are a million ways to use the internet to connect to people. If I wanted a pen pal, I'd find some other way to fill that space. Hell, I don't even see the point of a pen pal. Talking to someone about your daily routine? Boring.

And the biggest problem here is that talking to her too much will mean that she will eventually want my phone number, and I will flat-out tell her I won't give it to her. Her mother ALWAYS talks on the phone with my mom for 2 - 3 hours, and I won't let her try to do that with me. I sometimes get tired of talking to my own girlfriend on the phone for longer than 15 minutes. So, I'm trying to spare her feelings here without telling her flat-out that I don't want to talk to her. That's pretty much impossible, so at least I get to vent.
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With over 7000 posts on AT, I'd say you do like talking to people about your day, otherwise none of us would know about your pen pal!

Like I said, just answer what she asks and soon she'll lose interest in writing since she isn't getting anything in return.
 
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dfuze

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Or, you could just go the honest route, and tell your you're too busy with work, home, girl friend, <list as many things as you can think of> ... and tell her you wish her well with life but you have not time for another responsability.

EDIT: Or you could lie and say that your girlfriend read your emails, got jealous, and wants you to cut off all contact with her.
 
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Hannover

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Sometimes when people are having trouble in their life they try and reconnect with people that they knew in better times. Whats wrong with being a nice guy and exchanging a few emails ? Even if you have no desire you cultivate a friendship, just type some short replies and humor her. After an extended one-sided conversation, she should get the hint and move on.
 
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