i feel really bad about myself

[jmw8se]

i don't like it when girls ignore me as all seem to do, even when i try and get their attention. Not returning phone calls when I just want to have a conversation is a "nice" way of saying "fsck off, i don't even want you as an acquiantance". How can they make this judgement without knowing me first? I assume it is a matter of shallowness. Then I see the same thing in myself. If some fat unattractive girl was trying to get my attention, I would just ignore her. And I feel really bad about that, not that it has happened, but because I feel that's what people do to me that I don't like. And she would be frustrated and say the same things I am saying. But I'm not a fat unattractive guy at least I don't think so. I'm pretty diesel looking right now, according to other guys and girls, and some girls seem to say I'm cute and I try and wear nice clothes but that doesn't seem to put me above the level that most guys think of a fat ugly girl. I just don't understand things I guess. What makes me feel really bad about this is I get mad about it, then I realize I would do the same thing to some girls...and I feel I am better than those girls..which isn't true, but it's just my instincts that make me shallow like that. Are these girls a lot more shallow than this? What am I missing here

 

[Gonad the Barbarian]

Sounds to me like you are in high school and actually doing some maturing. Congrats, but I can't answer your questions.

 

[chiwawa626]

and u come to a fourm full of nerds who never leave home to ask this question?

 

[Hamburgerpimp]

Are you a guy or a girl?

 

[Juniper]

Try lightening up. Maybe its the way you view girls. Girls can be great friends and not only gf material you know. Change the way you look at girls. Treat all of em equally.

 

[jmw8se]

I'm a guy in college. Consider me a late bloomer. Now that I have to live with girls, I am learning about them. I view girls equally, but I hardly have any friends that are girls. There is one girl who is friends with a ton of my friends, but I can't even get her to talk to me. I try talking to her and it's like talking to a wall. I don't understand it..what's wrong with me? or her? Then I think i'd do the same to a fat ugly girl...but i'm not a fat ugly guy. Why can't we have a double standard!

 

[TheShiz]

there has to be more to it than this. I'm guessing your social skills aren't so great, so work on that. People are quick to judge others on looks and how you act around people. Myself, I am kind of shy but have grown out of it somewhat. The turning point for me was when I just stopped giving a f##k.

Tim

 

[Gulzakar]

umm, I hate to tell you this, but women can see right thru all the bullshit... Why don't you try working on your personality and actually becoming friends rather than looking at them as meat. Once you get into the real world, not highschool, it takes more than looks to win over most women even if you are skinny.

 

[tommigsr]

are you funny? not funny looking...as in like...funny personality wise. girls love that sh!t! you just gotta play around with them... if ya know what i mean!

 

[jmw8se]

i'm saying I don't see women as meat...just if a girl is really unattractive I can't help but not want to have a relationship with her. i can't help that. and Yeah..i am funny...if i am around girls who i don't care what they think about me! then i can make them laugh! if i care what they think i'm just so uptight ugh

 

[Gulzakar]

well, perhaps you should delve a little deeper and stop judging people based on looks....as I said, make friends with them.

 

[jmw8se]

but i don't judge people based on looks. there's no fat people after me, so i am not judging. i'm talking about other people doing it - girls -- are they doing it? or is ti something else

 

[gopunk]

jmw8se, i know how you feel man, i'm smart, funny, good looking, yet the girls aren't jumping on me

i dunno if i feel bad about myself though, maybe you shouldn't think that much about girls. focus on other stuff, like academics and tv

 

[Maetryx]

Women can sense when a man is trying too hard to be [charming, disarming, polite, non-chalant, cool, interesting, whatever] and it puts them on the defensive. Don't *try* to behave any particular way. Just behave. I know that sounds like Yoda saying "don't try, just do" or whatever he says. The next time you're about to interact with a woman, just relax. Because you know what? Probably nothing will come of it. But maybe you'll find out that you like something that they like or whatever. Maybe not. The important thing is not to be going anywhere with the results of your interaction. Don't be goal oriented or intense. Just relax and meet someone. Start talking. Pick something neutral, like Harry Potter, price of pizza, classes that are too early, parking sucks on campus, etc.

 

[Moonbeam]

I think I can advise you here, but first I have this one question. What is a girl?

 

[jjones]

you sound obsessed with fat girls; maybe you should try with one of those first.

 

[blahblah99]

you sound obsessed with fat girls; maybe you should try with one of those first.

hahahhahah

your problem is that you can't talk to girls you chase after and you DONT want to talk to the girls your not interested in....

if thats the case, it needs to be changed if you ever want to have any female friends.

if your just thinking about jumping into the girl's panties when your trying to talk to her, your not going to get anywhere.

or maybe its the way your approaching them...
or maybe its the topic of conversation your having with them...

start at the bottom and work your way up the female ladder!

 

[cherrytwist]

Chicks dig confidence. Get some.

 

[CZroe]

2016 edit: Too much personal info. Just decided to delete it.

 

[Dually]

Girls arn't that important. You have two paths.

1)Nature path, Its when your mission in life is jsut sex.

2)Modern Social path, work on succeding and then get married have kids, do something good for society.