I feel like i did something bad

[leeland]

i went to the ER and took my GF in to have her evaluated for suicidal outbreaks.....she is depressed and saying she wants to die and i didn't know what to do...i caught her after a fight last night when i got home from work last night at 3:30 in the morning mad at me because i didn' t come home early enough...she decieded to sit in the car in the garage and run the car and sit in the drivers seat and sleep there...i stopped the car and we talked....tonight she tried to jump out of the car after we went to a friends house while the car was moving....so i drove to the nearest ER while i was holding on to her and dragged her in and the took her away...and basically took her to the psych ward to evaluate her...i can't talk to her until she calls and have no contact with her...i am scared and didn't know what to do....
the thing is we both work at a hospital and know all about what goes on and what they do and she is super embarrased with me and probably hates me now for what i have done..

i don't know why i am writing this but i feel like a big pile of Sh!t for doing this and i don't know why

 

[Matt]

Hi leeland.

What else could you have done? She seems to be pretty suicidal from you description and there is nothing you can do except for bringing her to professional help. Depressive behaviour with suicidal tendencies is not a condition that will go away without proper medication or perhaps even ECT.

/Matt

 

[Aceshigh]

It sounds to me like you did the right thing, being concerned for her safety. From reading your post it sounds like she could either have some serious mental problems, or she could just be having a few really long, exhausting days which are taking a toll on her and her mindset. Hopefully it is the latter and everything will be alright shortly. However, what is your relationship with her like? It doesn't sound too good from what I read. Don't take offence. All I am going on is what you posted. But it just sounds like you two aren't hitting on all cylinders.

 

[Jfur]

You ABSOLUTELY did the right thing. Believe me, you'd feel a hundred zillion times worse if you had ignored her signals (actually, threats) and she ended up doing something drastic.

 

[Kadarin]

You shouldn't feel bad for doing the only right thing you could. From your description, it sounds like she needs more help and guidance than anyone other than a professional could give. Whatever the core issues that are bothering her, I hope she's able to overcome them, and I wish you both the best in getting through this.

 

[ThePresence]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
You shouldn't feel bad for doing the only right thing you could. From your description, it sounds like she needs more help and guidance than anyone other than a professional could give. Whatever the core issues that are bothering her, I hope she's able to overcome them, and I wish you both the best in getting through this.

Agreed.

 

[bmacd]

Originally posted by: Jfur
You ABSOLUTELY did the right thing. Believe me, you'd feel a hundred zillion times worse if you had ignored her signals (actually, threats) and she ended up doing something drastic.

you did the right thing leeland

-=bmacd=-

 

[ElFenix]

you did the right thing, congrats!

 

[Geekbabe]

I worked for almost 15 yrs on inpatient psych units, you did nothing "bad" the only thing I'd suggest you do now is to move and change your phone number,sounds like a raging case of Borderline Personality Disorder going on there,run,run away fast!

 

[Pastore]

She will thank you when she gets better.

 

[Azraele]

You did the right thing. I know it feels crummy and uncertain, but a true friend would do exactly what you did.

You did just right.

Hang in there.

 

[globalstud]

Originally posted by: baffled2
I worked for almost 15 yrs on inpatient psych units, you did nothing "bad" the only thing I'd suggest you do now is to move and change your phone number,sounds like a raging case of Borderline Personality Disorder going on there,run,run away fast!

I was going to say the same thing but not as eloquently........ Dump her you don't need to wind up marrying her, have two young children and find your wife hanging in the closet leaving you with two children. Two children if old enough to remember will be screwed up for life.
What I'm trying to say is that behavior will not change and may get even worse after childbirth, the stress of family.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: globalstud

Originally posted by: baffled2
I worked for almost 15 yrs on inpatient psych units, you did nothing "bad" the only thing I'd suggest you do now is to move and change your phone number,sounds like a raging case of Borderline Personality Disorder going on there,run,run away fast!

I was going to say the same thing but not as eloquently........ Dump her you don't need to wind up marrying her, have two young children and find your wife hanging in the closet leaving you with two children. Two children if old enough to remember will be screwed up for life.
What I'm trying to say is that behavior will not change and may get even worse after childbirth, the stress of family.

People with BPD seldom successfully suicide,when that happens it's usually by accident,somebody didn't come home at the time the patient thought they would,or they took too many pills, the warning signs here are the high drama,her trying to jump out of the car with
him driving and all that.However, some really young people go thru a brief phase of high drama behavior that never repeats itself after intervention so hopefully the hospital staff will give her an inpatient experience that will make her never wish to repeat this behavior.

 

[leeland]

well things are better today, she came home and we talked she has an appointment to meet with a councler...and i am going with her to voice my opinions too....our relationship is stable and there isn't an issue with her and i...just how she deals with her problems...which generally lead to the stem of the problems. thanks for the vote of confidence guys....anyways to reply to the person who wanted me to run the other way i hope you never are alone when u need some help....i am choosing to stand by the person i love and support them since she is willing to try to fix her problems

thanks again guys for the support

leeland