I feel like a huge jerk

[kevinthenerd]

Originally posted by: Baked
No registration? Those people should not be on the road.

QFT.

People need to learn what it means to be an adult: to be accountable for one's actions. By choosing to drive without registration you choose to accept the risks and consequences.

I don't blame you a bit.

 

[eits]

Originally posted by: jbourne77
I admire your kindness; it's a good quality. Unfortunately, there are situations in this world where you must protect yourself to the furthest extent, and traffic accidents are one of those situations. What may initially seem like a harmless, innocent mishap could turn into your worst nightmare. You'd be suprised by the lies people are willing to tell just to get out of a speeding ticket, let alone an accident citation.

Being a kind, genuine person is an excellent trait... but still, make sure you protect yourself, first:

1. Stay in school
2. Double bag it with strangers
3. Call the cops when in an accident

come to think of it, i probably would have called the cops before i even got out of the car unbeknownst to me that i would have screwed her over. i would have given her a chance only if i didn't call the cops before i got out of the car and she pleaded...

i don't really see a problem in trying to secure a way by which she pays for my damages in return for not getting her a ticket. it's not like she wouldn't have learned her lesson.... she'd be out some cash and she would probably be worried that, if it happened again, the next person might not be as friendly....

 

[kevinthenerd]

Originally posted by: DAGTA
What's really sad is how stupid/shallow some of you are that you would let a girl's physical appearance affect the outcome of this situation. Women are right... most men are easily manipulated.

Women shouldn't complain about being inferior in the workplace. As long as Cosmopolitan keeps doing what they're doing, women will be in charge before you know it.

 

[kevinthenerd]

Originally posted by: Buck Naked
I probably would have called the cops right then.

I kind of feel bad... but bleh.. she should have been paying attention.. what if I had been on my bike...

I worry about that every time I ride

I pretend like I'm invisible, and even then I've had too many close calls. I HATE CELL PHONES!

 

[eits]

Originally posted by: kevinthenerd

Originally posted by: Baked
No registration? Those people should not be on the road.

QFT.

People need to learn what it means to be an adult: to be accountable for one's actions. By choosing to drive without registration you choose to accept the risks and consequences.

I don't blame you a bit.

she might have left it on her desk at home or something or was on her way to pick it up... you never know.

 

[kevinthenerd]

Originally posted by: jbourne77

Originally posted by: zixxer
(original post snipped)

You shouldn't feel bad at all. People with expired registrations shouldn't drive like idiots. You should ALWAYS call the cops in an accident. My sister was rear-ended and the lady who rear-ended her convinced her not to call the cops. Turns out the lady gave her false info, etc.

Anyway, you did the right thing. Oh, and either a) the uncle was an ass, or b) she was overplaying her hand.

If he was willing to cut a deal on the repairs, I'm willing to go with choice B more so than A, but then again, he might have just been looking to keep you from going to competitors.

 

[kevinthenerd]

Originally posted by: jbourne77

Originally posted by: eits
i'd feel bad, too. even if it was a guy.

whether it was a guy or a girl, i would have given them a chance to call their parents and see if they can help. i would want someone else to do the same if i did the same thing.... stuff happens. i don't think the penalty of having the cops involved would fit the crime, but if the parents couldn't do anything and the uncle couldn't do anything, i'd have no other choice but to call the cops... but i'd ask the cop to be lenient once they got there.

I'm not trying to attack you personally, but this demonstrates a lack of understanding of the law and the risks you, the victim, assume when you don't call the cops. One of many negative scenarios, albeit a little extreme, is she later tries to pin it on you in hopes of avoid having to pay for her own damage.

There are a million reasons why you should call the cops. It's not a matter of the punishment fitting the crime. It's not like she's going to get hauled off to jail. However, it's necessary for the other instigator to be cited and faulted so you don't get hit with insurance penalties or worse.

Furthermore, if you're young and you allow the other person to get their parents involved (assuming the other person is young, too) is only opening the door to subjecting yourself to strong-arm tactics.

In situations like these, you need to take care of #1 first (within the limits of the law, of course). Let the other person worry about themselves... I assure you they already are . When they ask you not to call the cops, do you think it's because they give a damn about you, or because they're trying to save their own ass?

Hmm....

Very true. The law exists to protect people. Keep in mind that in this situation they've already screwed you over by hitting you. You couldn't trust them to share the road with you, so why trust them for the repairs? The government is around to act as your advocate in such situations to maintain common order.

 

[kevinthenerd]

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: jbourne77

Originally posted by: eits
i'd feel bad, too. even if it was a guy.

whether it was a guy or a girl, i would have given them a chance to call their parents and see if they can help. i would want someone else to do the same if i did the same thing.... stuff happens. i don't think the penalty of having the cops involved would fit the crime, but if the parents couldn't do anything and the uncle couldn't do anything, i'd have no other choice but to call the cops... but i'd ask the cop to be lenient once they got there.

I'm not trying to attack you personally, but this demonstrates a lack of understanding of the law and the risks you, the victim, assume when you don't call the cops. One of many negative scenarios, albeit a little extreme, is she later tries to pin it on you in hopes of avoid having to pay for her own damage.

There are a million reasons why you should call the cops. It's not a matter of the punishment fitting the crime. It's not like she's going to get hauled off to jail. However, it's necessary for the other instigator to be cited and faulted so you don't get hit with insurance penalties or worse.

Furthermore, if you're young and you allow the other person to get their parents involved (assuming the other person is young, too) is only opening the door to subjecting yourself to strong-arm tactics.

In situations like these, you need to take care of #1 first (within the limits of the law, of course). Let the other person worry about themselves... I assure you they already are . When they ask you not to call the cops, do you think it's because they give a damn about you, or because they're trying to save their own ass?

Hmm....

i didn't say i wouldn't call the cops... i said i'd try to give them a chance first. i'm not saying you're an asshole for wanting to call the cops or anything... i'm just saying that i would feel bad and would want to extend the same treatment if i were in their situation...

offering them some chances to come up with a way to pay for my damages to settle the problem is fair, in my opinion... if they're in a situation where they'd be in deep trouble if the cops showed up, i'd want to try and help them out.

i dunno... maybe i'm too much of a softy when it comes to helping people...

People shouldn't GET into such situations. Driving around without registration/insurance was something they did LONG before they hit you. It just took an accident to expose them.

You act like they couldn't have prevented themselves from hitting the guy. Most people follow too damn closely to begin with. If they'd leave some space then even a crappy reaction time wouldn't cause any problems.

I'm a softy myself, but when it comes to the important responsibility of driving, I have to take the hard-line approach because of how people under-respect the lethal power of every automobile.

 

[ballmode]

dont be whipped by nobodys

 

[OS]

if she was hot, what you should do is tell her to blow you right there in your car, then call the cops anyways.

 

[kevinthenerd]

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: kevinthenerd

Originally posted by: Baked
No registration? Those people should not be on the road.

QFT.

People need to learn what it means to be an adult: to be accountable for one's actions. By choosing to drive without registration you choose to accept the risks and consequences.

I don't blame you a bit.

she might have left it on her desk at home or something or was on her way to pick it up... you never know.

He said it was out of date. People should take care of that before it expires. Registration in Florida is good for a year; I don't know about other states.

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: OS
if she was hot, what you should do is tell her to blow you right there in your car, then call the cops anyways.

She'd sue you for blackmail and use the semen (not swallowed) as evidence against you.

 

[astrocase]

I've been asked to do the "my buddy owns a shop". I thought about it for about a second before having their insurance pay me.

 

[fishjie]

good job right move

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: zixxer
I was stopped at a light (my boss was in his car in front of me, on our way back from lunch) when this girl who had been tailgating me for a mile or so (I tapped my brakes.. not slowing down but to indicate for her to back off like 1/2 mile before the incident)

anyhow.. I'm completely stopped at a light... out of nowhere BAM.. I'm rear ended at ~10mph... hard enough to push me forward even though I was stopped (didn't hit my boss... thankfully)...

This girl jumps out of her car (22-23 maybe) freaking out... basically she had out of date registration or something and was BEGGING me not to call the cops (she was not hot at all.. blech).. making a big deal about doing ANYTHING.. anything at ALL... etc etc.. then she went into how her uncle owns a body shop and he'll fix my truck.. I decide to call him.. I said I was willing to take my truck (a 98 ranger.. not worth much really..) to another shop, have them tell me what's wrong (bumper, possibly supports, etc) and then he can fix what they say is wrong.. he was like well.. I dunno.. I'll replace the bumper and cut you a deal on the rest.. I'm like wtf are you joking she hit me!! I hung up, then called the cops.


I kind of feel bad... but bleh.. she should have been paying attention.. what if I had been on my bike...


She was in an early 90's accord, her car is messed up bigtime.. both headlights busted, grill pushed all into the radiator.. etc etc.. you can hardly tell my truck was damaged at all.. if I didn't tow off of my bumper I wouldn't have cared less...

Why did you even bother considering her offer? She's driving like a stupid bitch bat out of hell with expired plates, you even warn her with a a brake tap, and she STILL manages to nail you -and then expects you to let her off because of her begging? I would have been on the phone to the cops before I got out of the car.

Fvck her, and fvck other stupid people who think it's okay to drive like this.

 

[jagec]

Originally posted by: LoKe
Good job for reporting it.

yeah, it sucks how the people out there who honest are good people and deserve a break are swamped by all the scumbags who'll take full advantage of the momentary generosity of others

I think the OP did the right thing on both counts. "Cut you a deal," WTF? You shouldn't pay a DIME.

 

[Schfifty Five]

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: jbourne77
I admire your kindness; it's a good quality. Unfortunately, there are situations in this world where you must protect yourself to the furthest extent, and traffic accidents are one of those situations. What may initially seem like a harmless, innocent mishap could turn into your worst nightmare. You'd be suprised by the lies people are willing to tell just to get out of a speeding ticket, let alone an accident citation.

Being a kind, genuine person is an excellent trait... but still, make sure you protect yourself, first:

1. Stay in school
2. Double bag it with strangers
3. Call the cops when in an accident

come to think of it, i probably would have called the cops before i even got out of the car unbeknownst to me that i would have screwed her over. i would have given her a chance only if i didn't call the cops before i got out of the car and she pleaded...

i don't really see a problem in trying to secure a way by which she pays for my damages in return for not getting her a ticket. it's not like she wouldn't have learned her lesson.... she'd be out some cash and she would probably be worried that, if it happened again, the next person might not be as friendly....

What you are failing to understand is that w/o a report from the police, anything can happen.

You might have been complely faultless in an accident, but since you failed to get a report from a police officer, you could easily be screwed over.

By calling the cops you are NOT trying to get her punished, rather it is to protect your own ass so that you have solid evidence that you were in the clear. Unfortunately in today's world, you can't trust anyone in a situation like this. Sure they might offer you some kind of payment w/o involving cops, but the minute you leave the accident, they will say "I never offered anything", and then you're Fscked.

 

[eits]

Originally posted by: Schfifty Five

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: jbourne77
I admire your kindness; it's a good quality. Unfortunately, there are situations in this world where you must protect yourself to the furthest extent, and traffic accidents are one of those situations. What may initially seem like a harmless, innocent mishap could turn into your worst nightmare. You'd be suprised by the lies people are willing to tell just to get out of a speeding ticket, let alone an accident citation.

Being a kind, genuine person is an excellent trait... but still, make sure you protect yourself, first:

1. Stay in school
2. Double bag it with strangers
3. Call the cops when in an accident

come to think of it, i probably would have called the cops before i even got out of the car unbeknownst to me that i would have screwed her over. i would have given her a chance only if i didn't call the cops before i got out of the car and she pleaded...

i don't really see a problem in trying to secure a way by which she pays for my damages in return for not getting her a ticket. it's not like she wouldn't have learned her lesson.... she'd be out some cash and she would probably be worried that, if it happened again, the next person might not be as friendly....

What you are failing to understand is that w/o a report from the police, anything can happen.

You might have been complely faultless in an accident, but since you failed to get a report from a police officer, you could easily be screwed over.

By calling the cops you are NOT trying to get her punished, rather it is to protect your own ass so that you have solid evidence that you were in the clear. Unfortunately in today's world, you can't trust anyone in a situation like this. Sure they might offer you some kind of payment w/o involving cops, but the minute you leave the accident, they will say "I never offered anything", and then you're Fscked.

meh, i guess you're right.

 

[Elderly Newt]

I don't know what I'd do if I was actually in a situation like that, simply because I've never been in one. I'd like to think I'd keep calm and call the cops no matter what. Sitting here reading about it, however, makes it clear to me that calling the police was indeed the right course of action. You definitely did the right thing by reporting it. I don't think you should feel like a jerk at all.

 

[Anghang]

Originally posted by: notfred
If she was a guy you wouldn't feel bad right now.

Originally posted by: Ryan
Should have called the cops on the girl in the first place.

 

[HamburgerBoy]

Originally posted by: her209
People call me a narc for wanting to call the cops on someone who is doing drugs... I don't get it.

Doing drugs doesn't do damage to anyone aside from possibly themself. Hitting someone's car is destruction of property. What's there not to understand?

 

[Stuxnet]

Originally posted by: HamburgerBoy

Originally posted by: her209
People call me a narc for wanting to call the cops on someone who is doing drugs... I don't get it.

Doing drugs doesn't do damage to anyone aside from possibly themself.

Except of course when said drugs turn someone into a crazed, psychotic, mentally disturbed gorilla who will do whatever is necessary to secure the cashflow necessary to sustain usage.

But I digress...

 

[LtPage1]

Originally posted by: Captante
Sounds like her problem not yours ... anything but a large handful of cash would have had me on the phone to the cops too.

yeah, no kidding.

 

[EGGO]

You did the right thing, so mind telling us what happened when the cops arrived?