I've never been addicted to something. I don't understand how someone could become addicted to anything. It doesn't make sense to me. I can quit doing anything whenever I want, maybe I just have willpower, morals, or integrity, idk.
I don't understand addictions.
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MagnusTheBrewer
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I hear meth is pretty awesome. In fact, if I was able to quit whatever I want, whenever I wanted like you can, I would totally do it.
Mike Gayner
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Modelworks
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Really ? There are more addictions than just the illegal ones. I could never become addicted to alcohol because I don't like the experience of being drunk. I could become addicted to some foods though , that is why I avoid them , I know my weakness.
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I had a close friend in college who was very smart. Got a good job at a bank, won the top performer in the department award for 10 months in a row (when they stopped giving it out), got married, had a kid. He started to dabble in coke. Fast forward to two years later - no job, wife and kid gone, living in the YMCA, every dime spent on coke. Never became a criminal because his fear of jail was about the only thing stronger than his urge to get more coke. We couldn't even give him a few extra bucks to get a decent meal because he'd just buy coke.
Ends up on welfare, disabled, and gets a $17,000 back settlement from Social Security for his disability. In two weeks, he had spent it ALL on coke. He cannot stay away from it though it ruined his career, his marriage, his life, and his second chance to get back on his feet with the settlement money.
He isn't happy about what happened and regrets it terribly. But he simply cannot resist buying coke with any spare money he gets. Even his own family has essentially disowned him because all the money they gave him to help him out was spent on drugs.
He lives in Section 8 projects in a crappy town surrounded by scum. And he hates it, but it's likely he'll be there until he dies of old age.
I would say anyone who would consciously destroy their life for drugs, and hating themselves for it the whole time, is addicted.
Ends up on welfare, disabled, and gets a $17,000 back settlement from Social Security for his disability. In two weeks, he had spent it ALL on coke. He cannot stay away from it though it ruined his career, his marriage, his life, and his second chance to get back on his feet with the settlement money.
He isn't happy about what happened and regrets it terribly. But he simply cannot resist buying coke with any spare money he gets. Even his own family has essentially disowned him because all the money they gave him to help him out was spent on drugs.
He lives in Section 8 projects in a crappy town surrounded by scum. And he hates it, but it's likely he'll be there until he dies of old age.
I would say anyone who would consciously destroy their life for drugs, and hating themselves for it the whole time, is addicted.
Try going without any sexual stimuli for even a few weeks and tell us how that works.
Please note this does not apply to those that are married.
Please note this does not apply to those that are married.
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How old are you? I'm an alcoholic and it took me about 32 years to get that way. It also helps to be genetically vulnerable, which I am. It has nothing to do with will power or integrity. Your idk is an accurate assessment of your post.
destrekor
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Not everyone is capable of truly becoming addicting.
It's a personality trait that, thus, is hardwired into your brain. Shielding such a mind from the start is about the most effective anti-addiction method.
I should know. I can, and have, become addicted to just about anything if I like it enough. Alcohol, while I like, I've successfully avoided ever becoming anything more than a weekend alcoholic. And enough terrible mornings (and days, and nights) the next day, binging to the point of puking before even making it home, etc etc etc... help keep me in control of alcohol at this point. I like it, but it's the one thing I think is impossible for me to become addicted to. Thankfully. My uncle, whom I think I got this damn addiction gene from, lets it (addiction in general) control his life. He's a wreck, and I hate saying it but I'm basically glad I never see him.
If I didn't have a drive, I could easily see myself on that path. It's a trait that has led me to some experiences that I will forever be thankful for, and gives me some damn good insight into the human psyche, but at the same time, I definitely need to get a better choke-hold on that part of my brain. Thankfully most of my "addictions", the ones I basically willingly keep (I do get around to fighting ones I see may have potential harm in some fashion), are generally harmless.
Once I get out of school I'll have a chance to seriously rework myself, half the reason I've had senioritis since almost the start of school. Have a new home, a regular work week, fellow Reservists to take care of... that's a chance to set completely new rules, plus... it's kind of a do it or fall by the wayside thing, and can't do that.
School is a terrible environment for me, I hate learning unnecessary shit (i love learning, and hell, I do love learning unnecessary shit, when it interests me at my choosing - though a lot of that unnecessary learning has proven extremely useful in everyday life), but most importantly... I dislike this time. Too much of it, too often left with idle hands.
People with addictive personalities need damn good friends who can kick their ass if need be, and have to learn themselves and when to say enough, I need help. And not only that, but realize what they just start getting into, while it may feel great and make every day enjoyable, might be something they struggle with a year down the road. And if that ever crosses the mind, they at that point should make use of the clear head they still have and abandon the potential addiction before it reaches that point.
On that note...
I should have never built my first computer. :biggrin:
But I will say, there are things that I shouldn't do that I just don't care about, and then there are things that I feel I'd really enjoy trying, and have had the opportunity, but I blissfully ignore that opportunity fearing what it could mean later.
Addictive personality types can never rid themselves of that trait. Their CNS is just wired that way. But it's also not an excuse, I'll never use it as an excuse that's for sure. For them, their brain feels clear before and after, but they are mentally altered quite a bit with an addiction. It takes a person with that personality to realize that the truly happiest life they can ever hope for is if they just turn away from potential addictions before they ever start. Sucks in the here and now, because that might mean that one night of fun has to be turned down, ignored... a weaker mind will argue it can't possibly turn an entire life sour due to one night, but for that personality type, that's a risky gamble. Sometimes you can keep it to just one night, maybe two nights... and that's it. Often times, not quite the case.
Basically, it takes someone with an addictive personality to realize they have an addictive personality before they have a harmful addiction. That is a very hard thing to discover. Humans learn through mistakes... for the addictive personality type, their best chance at a successful life is learning a major life lesson through an easily forgettable mistake that brings no harm whatsoever. If they have luck, it'll be multiple minor mistakes that help teach them, before it ever turns into the one mistake that ruined their life.
I don't know if it's a part of the addictive personality or not, but throw in stubbornness into the mix, and the odds are nearly stacked against them after a few mistakes.
It's a personality trait that, thus, is hardwired into your brain. Shielding such a mind from the start is about the most effective anti-addiction method.
I should know. I can, and have, become addicted to just about anything if I like it enough. Alcohol, while I like, I've successfully avoided ever becoming anything more than a weekend alcoholic. And enough terrible mornings (and days, and nights) the next day, binging to the point of puking before even making it home, etc etc etc... help keep me in control of alcohol at this point. I like it, but it's the one thing I think is impossible for me to become addicted to. Thankfully.
My uncle, whom I think I got this damn addiction gene from, lets it (addiction in general) control his life. He's a wreck, and I hate saying it but I'm basically glad I never see him. If I didn't have a drive, I could easily see myself on that path. It's a trait that has led me to some experiences that I will forever be thankful for, and gives me some damn good insight into the human psyche, but at the same time, I definitely need to get a better choke-hold on that part of my brain. Thankfully most of my "addictions", the ones I basically willingly keep (I do get around to fighting ones I see may have potential harm in some fashion), are generally harmless.
Once I get out of school I'll have a chance to seriously rework myself, half the reason I've had senioritis since almost the start of school. Have a new home, a regular work week, fellow Reservists to take care of... that's a chance to set completely new rules, plus... it's kind of a do it or fall by the wayside thing, and can't do that.
School is a terrible environment for me, I hate learning unnecessary shit (i love learning, and hell, I do love learning unnecessary shit, when it interests me at my choosing - though a lot of that unnecessary learning has proven extremely useful in everyday life), but most importantly... I dislike this time. Too much of it, too often left with idle hands.
People with addictive personalities need damn good friends who can kick their ass if need be, and have to learn themselves and when to say enough, I need help. And not only that, but realize what they just start getting into, while it may feel great and make every day enjoyable, might be something they struggle with a year down the road. And if that ever crosses the mind, they at that point should make use of the clear head they still have and abandon the potential addiction before it reaches that point.
On that note...
I should have never built my first computer. :biggrin:
But I will say, there are things that I shouldn't do that I just don't care about, and then there are things that I feel I'd really enjoy trying, and have had the opportunity, but I blissfully ignore that opportunity fearing what it could mean later.
Addictive personality types can never rid themselves of that trait. Their CNS is just wired that way. But it's also not an excuse, I'll never use it as an excuse that's for sure. For them, their brain feels clear before and after, but they are mentally altered quite a bit with an addiction. It takes a person with that personality to realize that the truly happiest life they can ever hope for is if they just turn away from potential addictions before they ever start. Sucks in the here and now, because that might mean that one night of fun has to be turned down, ignored... a weaker mind will argue it can't possibly turn an entire life sour due to one night, but for that personality type, that's a risky gamble. Sometimes you can keep it to just one night, maybe two nights... and that's it. Often times, not quite the case.
Basically, it takes someone with an addictive personality to realize they have an addictive personality before they have a harmful addiction. That is a very hard thing to discover. Humans learn through mistakes... for the addictive personality type, their best chance at a successful life is learning a major life lesson through an easily forgettable mistake that brings no harm whatsoever. If they have luck, it'll be multiple minor mistakes that help teach them, before it ever turns into the one mistake that ruined their life.
I don't know if it's a part of the addictive personality or not, but throw in stubbornness into the mix, and the odds are nearly stacked against them after a few mistakes.
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Nik
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So someone with an addiction doesn't have willpower, doesn't have morals, and doesn't have any integrity?
Kadarin
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Nik
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% and proof are two different things. You can't have 100% proof, let alone more than 100% proof.
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