I don't know what to do...

[Zysoclaplem]

My bf goes to school full time and works half time, but his place of employment has been cutting his hours quite a bit. He has no car.

He lives an hour away from school and relies on his friend to go to school.
His friend is moving in two weeks.
He replies on his mom's car to get to work, which is 20 minutes away.
His mom is moving in 2 months.
His parents won't help him with a car.
He will have no place to stay and no place to go.

I'm not going to buy him a car, and he is not moving in with me, at least not as my bf.

What would you do in this situation for your GF or BF of 3 months and 6 days?
I don't know what to do.

 

[bigrash]

tell him to move closer to school?

 

[K1052]

No offense, but it looks like you have already decided what to do.

 

[DarkKnight69]

Tough call, it will speak alot about his ability to handle a difficult situation though. Watch what he does for the next 3 months and gain alot of insight into his ability to handle a tough situation?

Learning FTW!

 

[minendo]

What would you do in this situation for your GF or BF of 3 months and 6 days?

Not a damn thing. They are on their own as far as I am concerned.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: bigrash
tell him to move closer to school?

He can't. No money. No car. No credit.
His mom was throwing around empty promises of giving him her old car, but she told him that she isn't going to now.
She is moving to Missouri with some guy she met on the internet.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: K1052
No offense, but it looks like you have already decided what to do.

Actually I haven't.

 

[MmmSkyscraper]

He needs to:

a) move closer to school
b) get a job closer to school

Neither of these stops him from seeing you.

 

[sixone]

Do nothing. This is where you find out whether he's going to rely on other people for the rest of his life, or to man up and support himself.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: minendo

What would you do in this situation for your GF or BF of 3 months and 6 days?

Not a damn thing. They are on their own as far as I am concerned.

I would say the same thing, except I was in his position at one time. Almost the same position. My sister let me stay with her until I got a car and a decent job.
But he doesn't have a sister to help him.

 

[giantpinkbunnyhead]

He's gonna have to do something to better his situation and learn to quit relying on others. Plain and simple. You shouldn't do anything FOR him; just encourage him to fix his situation and support him on it.

 

[minendo]

Originally posted by: K1052
No offense, but it looks like you have already decided what to do.

No, he hasn't. He still has to post more threads about his BF on AT. He really wants to make sure all of ATOT knows he is a guy and has a boyfriend.

 

[K1052]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: K1052
No offense, but it looks like you have already decided what to do.

Actually I haven't.

Unless you think you can help him in some way other than the one's you've discounted, you have.

That's not a judgment on you just an observation. It's your call.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Should I buy him a bike for Valentines Day?

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: minendo

Originally posted by: K1052
No offense, but it looks like you have already decided what to do.

No, he hasn't. He still has to post more threads about his BF on AT. He really wants to make sure all of ATOT knows he is a guy and has a boyfriend.

QFT. Can't we just get a sticky with all the gay members' names in it?

 

[MmmSkyscraper]

Originally posted by: minendo
No, he hasn't. He still has to post more threads about his BF on AT. He really wants to make sure all of ATOT knows he is a guy and has a boyfriend.

He has as much right as anyone else to post a YAGT.

 

[nakedfrog]

Do they have buses there?

 

[vi edit]

Dump the deadbeat freeloader. Plus that much drama in one persons life would drive me to homicide.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: minendo

Originally posted by: K1052
No offense, but it looks like you have already decided what to do.

No, he hasn't. He still has to post more threads about his BF on AT. He really wants to make sure all of ATOT knows he is a guy and has a boyfriend.

He needs help and I need advice. That was neither. So please ------>

 

[K1052]

Originally posted by: minendo

Originally posted by: K1052
No offense, but it looks like you have already decided what to do.

No, he hasn't. He still has to post more threads about his BF on AT. He really wants to make sure all of ATOT knows he is a guy and has a boyfriend.

Given all the YAGT attention whoreing that goes on here I'd say he is definitely one of the lesser offenders.

 

[minendo]

Originally posted by: MmmSkyscraper

Originally posted by: minendo
No, he hasn't. He still has to post more threads about his BF on AT. He really wants to make sure all of ATOT knows he is a guy and has a boyfriend.

He has as much right as anyone else to post a YAGT.

I never said he didn't. However, take a look at his previous posts to see how many times he has posted regarding his boyfriend. Already this week alone he has posted two threads discussing his boyfriend's situation.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Do they have buses there?

Yes. I guess they do. That is a good idea.

 

[Turin39789]

Originally posted by: minendo

Originally posted by: MmmSkyscraper

Originally posted by: minendo
No, he hasn't. He still has to post more threads about his BF on AT. He really wants to make sure all of ATOT knows he is a guy and has a boyfriend.

He has as much right as anyone else to post a YAGT.

I never said he didn't. However, take a look at his previous posts to see how many times he has posted regarding his boyfriend. Already this week alone he has posted two threads discussing his boyfriend's situation.

You're straight. We get it.

 

[giantpinkbunnyhead]

Originally posted by: minendo

Originally posted by: MmmSkyscraper

Originally posted by: minendo
No, he hasn't. He still has to post more threads about his BF on AT. He really wants to make sure all of ATOT knows he is a guy and has a boyfriend.

He has as much right as anyone else to post a YAGT.

I never said he didn't. However, take a look at his previous posts to see how many times he has posted regarding his boyfriend. Already this week alone he has posted two threads discussing his boyfriend's situation.

Wow, two posts in a week! Overkill!

/sarcasm

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: minendo

Originally posted by: MmmSkyscraper

Originally posted by: minendo
No, he hasn't. He still has to post more threads about his BF on AT. He really wants to make sure all of ATOT knows he is a guy and has a boyfriend.

He has as much right as anyone else to post a YAGT.

I never said he didn't. However, take a look at his previous posts to see how many times he has posted regarding his boyfriend. Already this week alone he has posted two threads discussing his boyfriend's situation.

Two different thread. Two parts of my life. And right now these things are weighing on my mind. If you don't like what happens in my life, don't read my threads.