I can't seem to stand up for myself.

[The Godfather]

Allright, in class pretty much some people like to fvck with me. Like last week this black kid smacked me in the back of the head and i didn't say anything. Or when i'm in the aisle of desks this other kid pushed me away and i allmost fell over the desk. And its not like i'm a tiny nerdy kid. I'm allmost 6 foot, i'm average weight, i dress nice, and i don't act like people can just run over me. But ever since i came to the states i've been afraid to hit back even if just defense becasue my parents always told me how over here it stays in your record for schools to review, how people can sue for medical bills and such. In my school, doesn't matter who started it, you both get suspended. And i can't have that.

All my friends tell me to start standing up for myself, but i just can't. I'm not a fighter, and if i get angry enough i might kill the guy because i start fisting untill i get tired.

There was this one time this kid in the locker room was comming onto me all gay and stuff, and was humping my leg and sh1t and i moved my leg to the side and accidentaly kicked him in the nuts. Then 2 days later he jumps on me and slams me in the locker and beats me on the head with fists while i'm on the ground. I walk out and dont say anything, no teacher found out so the kid wasn't bothered. And he's like 5'7".

I have many friends at school and everyone in the classes like me but there are just 1 or 2 kids that keep fvcking with me for no reason.

What can i do?? This fear of ruining my future keeps making me weak.

 

[shortylickens]

Karate classes.

You need confidence more than anything.

I discovered that in the Navy. For those of you who dont know Boatswains Mates are the most evil, sinister and hateful individuals you can find in the world. Deck Seaman are the poor bastards who have to work for them.
They had been beating on me for several months and one day I decided enough was enough. After lugging around 50lb paint cans I was suprised by how much muscle I had built. Not enough to survive a traditional boxing match, but in the Navy a traditional boxing match will put you in the hospital.
I used my wide 5'3" frame to tackle a guy down to the deck. Then I headlocked him into my face until I saw his ears turn purple. The more he tried flailing at my face the tighter I squeezed. Eventually he got the hint. That was around my 4 month mark and for the next two and a half years I didnt get too much sh1t in Deck Department.

Verbal Kint was right. "They realized that to be in power you didn't need guns or money or even numbers. You just needed the will to do what the other guy wouldn't"
After the fear comes respect, then you can get on with your life.

Come back for next weeks lesson: "How to tell the difference between a bully and a psycho."

 

[Krazy4Real]

You're the godfather and you let people fvck with you?

 

[CollectiveUnconscious]

There are other ways, besides physical, that you can stand up for yourselves. Think mischieviously enough and you'll find the solution. Otherwise, just ignore it.

 

[The Godfather]

Originally posted by: Krazy4Real
You're the godfather and you let people fvck with you?

Read why. Afraid of consequences and ruining my chances to get into a good school. Also getting my parents stuck with bills.

 

[myusername]

Originally posted by: The Godfather
if i get angry enough i might kill the guy because i start fisting untill i get tired.

I guarantee if you do that just once no one will ever bother you again. Ever. :laugh:

Oh, and you don't have to fight back, but do you really want to be like me when you grow up?

 

[JS80]

Are you a hippie?

 

[The Godfather]

Originally posted by: CollectiveUnconscious
There are other ways, besides physical, that you can stand up for yourselves. Think mischieviously enough and you'll find the solution. Otherwise, just ignore it.

Can you give me some sort of direction? Examples?

 

[PCMarine]

kill them with kindness?

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: myusername

Originally posted by: The Godfather
if i get angry enough i might kill the guy because i start fisting untill i get tired.

I guarantee if you do that just once no one will ever bother you again. Ever. :laugh:

:thumbsup:


laughing... can't.....breathe......

 

[BrokenVisage]

Have your mommy call their mommies.

 

[Atheus]

I'm not sure you should start a fight coz someone slaps you in the back of the head, but you should sure as hell fight back if someone starts beating you like that, especially if it's only the one guy. It doesn't matter what the school says, it is ok to hit someone who hit you first.

 

[Toastedlightly]

Read Ender's Game... do it like he did.

 

[InlineFour]

What ethnicity are you?

 

[Tu13erhead]

Sounds like you need two things.

1. Self defense lessons
2. Self confidence

 

[kt]

Punch them in the stomach.. it doesn't leave much evidence.

 

[CollectiveUnconscious]

Originally posted by: The Godfather

Originally posted by: CollectiveUnconscious
There are other ways, besides physical, that you can stand up for yourselves. Think mischieviously enough and you'll find the solution. Otherwise, just ignore it.

Can you give me some sort of direction? Examples?

Social or mental. Be creative with it.

 

[aberdeen5]

Originally posted by: The Godfather
Allright, in class pretty much some people like to fvck with me. Like last week this black kid smacked me in the back of the head and i didn't say anything. Or when i'm in the aisle of desks this other kid pushed me away and i allmost fell over the desk. And its not like i'm a tiny nerdy kid. I'm allmost 6 foot, i'm average weight, i dress nice, and i don't act like people can just run over me. But ever since i came to the states i've been afraid to hit back even if just defense becasue my parents always told me how over here it stays in your record for schools to review, how people can sue for medical bills and such. In my school, doesn't matter who started it, you both get suspended. And i can't have that.

All my friends tell me to start standing up for myself, but i just can't. I'm not a fighter, and if i get angry enough i might kill the guy because i start fisting untill i get tired.

There was this one time this kid in the locker room was comming onto me all gay and stuff, and was humping my leg and sh1t and i moved my leg to the side and accidentaly kicked him in the nuts. Then 2 days later he jumps on me and slams me in the locker and beats me on the head with fists while i'm on the ground. I walk out and dont say anything, no teacher found out so the kid wasn't bothered. And he's like 5'7".

I have many friends at school and everyone in the classes like me but there are just 1 or 2 kids that keep fvcking with me for no reason.

What can i do?? This fear of ruining my future keeps making me weak.

How do you not defend yourself when someone does that to you? I would have hit him the first time he started sh!t. The next time someone does something to you, call them out and tell them to do something or sit down..if they don't sit down, beat the sh!t out of him. After that you shouldn't have any problems, if you do just repeat.

 

[aidanjm]

just out of curiosity, what country did you come from before the usa?

what is the mentality of the kid who hit you in the back of the head? he sounds like an utter moron.

 

[S Freud]

is this why you come to everyone elses threads and say sh1t to put them down, to get on the other side of what is happening to you?

 

[aidanjm]

Originally posted by: S Freud
is this why you come to everyone elses threads and say sh1t to put them down, to get on the other side of what is happening to you?

he doesn't always do that.

unfortunately I have no advice to offer TheGodfather, cos I was a total wimp in highschool and never got into fights. Also, I kind of think physical violence is stupid. Unfortunately, in high school you are forced to spend time with utter morons. It's difficult to know what to do. I guess the thing with bullies is they are counting on you not fighting back. They expect you won't try to defend yourself. If you do fight back - even if you lose the fight - it sort of demonstrates that you are going to be a hassle to deal with, and many bullies will tend to avoid you after that. but it seems an absolute pita to be forced into a situation where you actually have to resort to violence.

 

[InlineFour]

Originally posted by: S Freud
is this why you come to everyone elses threads and say sh1t to put them down, to get on the other side of what is happening to you?

:Q

 

[HermDogg]

Actually, regardless of what the school says, you have a right to self defense. They tell you that you can't push back, that you have to run away, but if someone hits you and keeps coming ater you, you have every right to sock 'im. This is not to say that you shouldn't make at least a reasonable attempt to get out of the situation without violence, but you do have the right of self-defense. If the school tries to suspend you, threaten with a lawyer. If it's a clear-cut case like what you said, then they should just back off there.

 

[RebelDog]

Dude be a smartass. Think of some snappy comebacks that will make everyone else laugh at the bully. You may get beat up one or two times after that b/c they are embarrassed but it will stop after that.
OR you could take the Napolean Dynamite approach and bust out some dance moves in front of the whole school.

 

[xSauronx]

poison them. very slowly, with cookies laced with arsenic.

yeah, theyll think youre a pansy for bringing cookies, and theyll eat them and beat on you

until they die.