I can't believe what I am reading.....

TechBoyJK

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I was stopping by my friend tim's house, and as soon as I walk in, there is this beautiful, young lady looking right at me. She was hanging out with my friend Tim's brother (shawn) and his wife(katie). I walked by them, said hi to them all, and continued to walk upstairs to tim's room. As I was walking up the stairs, I hear this girl say something to the effect of "who is that?"

Well, after about 10 minutes up in Tim's room, I decide to go down for a glass of water. As I am walking down, this girl is staring at me. As soon as she could see all of me, she says "do you know who I am?". She did look very familiar. So I say, "You look familiar". She says, "my name begins with an M" Anyways, at that point I remembered who she was, and that her name was megan. I hadn't seen her in a few years. She was good friends with my friend Lyndsay, whom I was kinda seeing at the time when I last saw her. We talked for a little bit, but she was sitting next to some guy, and I kind of took it to be her boyfriend. Not wanting to be rude, I didn't ask her out or anything. I just told myself the next time I was there, I would say something to Tim's brother's wife(megan's friend).

Well, a few days later, I was at Tim's again, and I told katie that I was interested and that she should say something to megan to see if megan was interested in me. Katie in turn says something to the effect of "I think I need to give you her phone number" I returned with, "well thats kind of ock word" and before I could even finish my sentence, Katie was saying, "No, you need to call her....."

Anyways, I tried calling the next day, and got no answer. The next day I called her, but she sounded like I just woke her up, and she said she had the flu (its cold here). We talked for a second but I had to go because of meetings. Anyways, I didn't get a chance to call her back that night. The next day I tried calling again, nothing. Left a message saying I wanted to hang out, and possibly take her to dinner. Tried calling the next day, no answer. So I sent her a text message saying something like

"Hi. I think you are very beautiful and you have a lovely voice. I really want to get to know you better. I have good intentions with this."

The next day (last thursday) I almost die because I didn't know I had diabetes, and drank 10-15 sodas a day for 3 weeks straight leading up to that day to give myself a caffiene kick and get a coding project done. Basically had an attack and seisure while driving, and had just enought time to put my car in park before I blacked out. Woke up like 10 minutes later in a half concious daze, and drove my butt striaght to the er. They told me I had diabetes and the attack came from not managing it. While laying in the ER, I called Shawn (cause his mom worked in the ER) and I told him what happened. He basically said, "That sucks, so... did you hook up with Megan yet?"

Each day I tried calling, and nothing. Today I sent another IM to her phone and basically said "I want to talk to you, but your not giving me a chance. If you aren't interested, just let me know, I'm secure enough to deal with it, but if you are, just give me a sign. I really do have good intentions. I'm not a player, I want the same for me as what Shawn and Katie have (married/in love).

Later I get a reply back "Um... I don't really know you and I don't want that. I'll just leave it at that."

At first I took it as "Um, quit bothering me, I don't really know you, and I don't really want what Shawn and Katie have.."

Am I stupid? In clear English she says "I don't really know you and I don't want that" she doesn't say "I don't really know you and want to keep it that way"

So, now, its too late to call her. But is this the big blazing green light I think I see? It's late and I need some outside confirmations before I toss and turn all night thinking about it.......



 

GoingUp

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Jul 31, 2002
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christ that was a rambling train wreck.

basically heres how it works.

you might have had a shot but you ruined it by calling her upteen times. ever see the movie swingers?

give it up. youre done.

game over man, game over!
 

Kelvrick

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Feb 14, 2001
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First of all, wtf is wrong with you, calling every god damn day. You a wanna be stalker or something? WTF?! You don't understand she doesn't know you and she doesn't want wtf you were implying in your message. God damn, how clueless can you be.

Or, I could be wrong and she wants it in the butt.
 

bapace

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You did what the guy in swingers did. Had a chance and wouldn't stay calm.

EDIT: DAMNIT, Gobadgrs beat me to it.
 

Metalloid

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Originally posted by: Gobadgrs
christ that was a rambling train wreck.

basically heres how it works.

you might have had a shot but you ruined it by calling her upteen times. ever see the movie swingers?

give it up. youre done.

game over man, game over!

Flip! Flip! game over.....

Yea he is right, she doesn't like you.

The only humorous way to give yourself one more shot would be to call her again and say "You don't want that? Ok then, I have changed my mind and now have very bad intentions..... very very bad intentions"

If she laughs you might have a shot. If not, she just doesn't like you and wants you to go away.
 

TechBoyJK

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Oct 17, 2002
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Originally posted by: Kelvrick
First of all, wtf is wrong with you, calling every god damn day. You a wanna be stalker or something? WTF?! You don't understand she doesn't know you and she doesn't want wtf you were implying in your message. God damn, how clueless can you be.

Or, I could be wrong and she wants it in the butt.

stalker=crazy girl that called me 76 times in three hours. I was actually thinking I wasn't aggressive enough...... I'm actually rather calm. Its just that this girl is very sweet, pretty, and down to earth, and I'd rather not loose another one of those.....



 

Buck Armstrong

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Originally posted by: TechBoyJK
I was stopping by my friend tim's house, and as soon as I walk in, there is this beautiful, young lady looking right at me. She was hanging out with my friend Tim's brother (shawn) and his wife(katie). I walked by them, said hi to them all, and continued to walk upstairs to tim's room. As I was walking up the stairs, I hear this girl say something to the effect of "who is that?"

Well, after about 10 minutes up in Tim's room, I decide to go down for a glass of water. As I am walking down, this girl is staring at me. As soon as she could see all of me, she says "do you know who I am?". She did look very familiar. So I say, "You look familiar". She says, "my name begins with an M" Anyways, at that point I remembered who she was, and that her name was megan. I hadn't seen her in a few years. She was good friends with my friend Lyndsay, whom I was kinda seeing at the time when I last saw her. We talked for a little bit, but she was sitting next to some guy, and I kind of took it to be her boyfriend. Not wanting to be rude, I didn't ask her out or anything. I just told myself the next time I was there, I would say something to Tim's brother's wife(megan's friend).

Well, a few days later, I was at Tim's again, and I told katie that I was interested and that she should say something to megan to see if megan was interested in me. Katie in turn says something to the effect of "I think I need to give you her phone number" I returned with, "well thats kind of ock word" and before I could even finish my sentence, Katie was saying, "No, you need to call her....."

Anyways, I tried calling the next day, and got no answer. The next day I called her, but she sounded like I just woke her up, and she said she had the flu (its cold here). We talked for a second but I had to go because of meetings. Anyways, I didn't get a chance to call her back that night. The next day I tried calling again, nothing. Left a message saying I wanted to hang out, and possibly take her to dinner. Tried calling the next day, no answer. So I sent her a text message saying something like

"Hi. I think you are very beautiful and you have a lovely voice. I really want to get to know you better. I have good intentions with this."

The next day (last thursday) I almost die because I didn't know I had diabetes, and drank 10-15 sodas a day for 3 weeks straight leading up to that day to give myself a caffiene kick and get a coding project done. Basically had an attack and seisure while driving, and had just enought time to put my car in park before I blacked out. Woke up like 10 minutes later in a half concious daze, and drove my butt striaght to the er. They told me I had diabetes and the attack came from not managing it. While laying in the ER, I called Shawn (cause his mom worked in the ER) and I told him what happened. He basically said, "That sucks, so... did you hook up with Megan yet?"

Each day I tried calling, and nothing. Today I sent another IM to her phone and basically said "I want to talk to you, but your not giving me a chance. If you aren't interested, just let me know, I'm secure enough to deal with it, but if you are, just give me a sign. I really do have good intentions. I'm not a player, I want the same for me as what Shawn and Katie have (married/in love).

Later I get a reply back "Um... I don't really know you and I don't want that. I'll just leave it at that."

At first I took it as "Um, quit bothering me, I don't really know you, and I don't really want what Shawn and Katie have.."

Am I stupid? In clear English she says "I don't really know you and I don't want that" she doesn't say "I don't really know you and want to keep it that way"

So, now, its too late to call her. But is this the big blazing green light I think I see? It's late and I need some outside confirmations before I toss and turn all night thinking about it.......

Sounds like it could mean a couple of things. But you've already said way too much for someone you haven't even gone out with yet, and her answer seems short and curt (you may have already scared her off). A simple "Katie said I should call you, here's my number..." would've worked.

So if I were you, I'd let her initiate the next contact...but thats just my opinion. Good luck regardless.

EDIT: I agree with Metalloid. If you have to call or IM her again, just a "So howbout BAD intentions, then?" is all you should say. But remember, this girl knows your friends, so you should consider exactly what you want her telling them about you before you go any further.
 

Crazymofo

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you fvcked up dude... you call once and wait no im'ing and you really shouldn't lead with expectations...
 

t3hmuffinman

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Originally posted by: tRaptor
cliff notes...

guy sees hot chick. calls, IMs, and texts her many times but doesn't gets replies until later, and it's awkwardly worded. "I don't really know you and I don't want that. I'll just leave it at that." guy doesn't know what to do.
 

slick230

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Originally posted by: Gobadgrs

you might have had a shot but you ruined it by calling her upteen times. ever see the movie swingers?

Mike: So how long do I wait to call?
Trent: A day.
Mike: Tomorrow.
Sue: Tomorrow, then a day.
Trent: Yeah.
Mike: So two days?
Trent: Yeah, I guess you could call it that, two days.
Sue: Definitely, two days is like industry standard.
Trent: You know I used to wait two days to call anybody, but now it's like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?
Sue: Yeah, but two's enough not to look anxious.
Trent: But I think three days is kind of money. You know because you...
Mike: Yeah, but you know what, mabey I'll wait 3 weeks. How's that? And tell her I was cleaning out my wallet and I just happened to run into her number.
Charles: Then ask her where you met her.
Mike: Yeah, I'll ask her where I met her. I don't remember. What does she look like? And then I'll asked if we fvcked. Is that... would that be... T, would that be the money?
Trent: You know what. Ha ha ha Mike, laugh all you want but if you call too soon you might scare off a nice baby who's ready to party.
Mike: Well how long are you guys gonna wait to call your babies?
Trent, Sue: Six days.

OP, you, baby, are NOT money.
 

Siva

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Dude, what is wrong with you? She didn't even drop a hint, she just flat out rejected you after a series of creepy phone calls.

Next time call once, leave a message with your number, and don't seem desperate.
 

MartyMcFly3

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Another thing... maybe what she wanted was just to screw your brains out. Then you pull this "I want commitment" on her, despite not even going on one date with the woman, and shes like "I gotta get the hell out of this."

Or hell, you still might have a chance. Who knows with women?
 

Stark

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how old are all the parties involved here? the talk of marriage mixed with 8th grade drama confused me.
 

Yossarian

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Originally posted by: TechBoyJK
She says, "my name begins with an M"

You should have said "Mulva?"

btw I hope you're just making up a story to get some reactions. if not, you are a desperate stalker loser fvck.

Originally posted by: TechBoyJK
Am I stupid? In clear English she says "I don't really know you and I don't want that" she doesn't say "I don't really know you and want to keep it that way"

you're taking that as a "green light"? omg dude. you're skywalker aren't you.