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Capnroy89

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My girlfriend and I broke up. Well, she broke up with me. She still wants to remain friends. Her reason was that she felt things were going to get too serious and it would just be harder on both of us if we waited until I had to go off to college to break up.

This was the first relationship I had, and I feel like crap. I have no idea what to do to forget about her, because she still wants to hang out, but I can't hang out with her without my feelings coming back.

Any suggestions on what to do to get over her? Just so you know, alcohol is not going to be a good suggestion for me, since I don't drink, but I figured that would be the most obvious answer everyone would give me. That and strip clubs.
 
Anubis

Anubis

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tbqhwy.com
1) YAGT in your titke
2) there is a forum for this
3) repost
4) just dont talk to her for a while
5) profit
6) find someone else
 
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DAM

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You're young, you'll get over it, we have all been there. Wait until you get to college, that's were it really gets good :--)



dam(ho)
 
Red Dawn

Red Dawn

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Originally posted by: Capnroy89
My girlfriend and I broke up. Well, she broke up with me. She still wants to remain friends. Her reason was that she felt things were going to get too serious and it would just be harder on both of us if we waited until I had to go off to college to break up.

This was the first relationship I had, and I feel like crap. I have no idea what to do to forget about her, because she still wants to hang out, but I can't hang out with her without my feelings coming back.

Any suggestions on what to do to get over her? Just so you know, alcohol is not going to be a good suggestion for me, since I don't drink, but I figured that would be the most obvious answer everyone would give me. That and strip clubs.
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Van Gogh cut his ear off, that seemed to work for him!

 
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DAM

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Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Originally posted by: Capnroy89
My girlfriend and I broke up. Well, she broke up with me. She still wants to remain friends. Her reason was that she felt things were going to get too serious and it would just be harder on both of us if we waited until I had to go off to college to break up.

This was the first relationship I had, and I feel like crap. I have no idea what to do to forget about her, because she still wants to hang out, but I can't hang out with her without my feelings coming back.

Any suggestions on what to do to get over her? Just so you know, alcohol is not going to be a good suggestion for me, since I don't drink, but I figured that would be the most obvious answer everyone would give me. That and strip clubs.
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Van Gogh cut his ear off, that seemed to work for him!
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I like his suggestion, nothing says I want you back like selfmutilation!



dam()
 
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ProUser

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Honestly, this is the best advice I think you will get - and you will almost surely ignore it and regret doing so later, but most people do:

Cut all contact. Do not call her, do not hang out with her, do not be her emmotional tampon, etc. If she wants to be break up, it's because she wants to be with or is already with other guys [period]. Of course she wants you to stay friends with her - so she can have the best of both worlds. A whipping boy to be there for her (you), and her new boy toy(s). The longer you remain in contact with her, the worse off you will be. Cut all contact, move on, get over her. You will thank yourself in the long run.

Sorry for the situation - but it's your first relationship, trust me there will be more soon. And heck your going to college!
 
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DAM

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He is probably 17 or so. believe me man, we might be sounding like dicks, but when i was 16-22 I had the same gf, she was my "high school sweetheart" thing change, you grow up and all of a sudden you want different things. Enjoy your freedom and explore the world and female body :--)



dam()
 

She already has another man. She is using the lets breakup before you leave thing to cover it up.

Havn't you learned anything by reading others accounts?
 
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MrScott81

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like the other said, cut off all contact with her...but first, throw a brick through her windshield to make you feel a little better :)
 
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mAdD INDIAN

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Originally posted by: Capnroy89
My girlfriend and I broke up. Well, she broke up with me. She still wants to remain friends. Her reason was that she felt things were going to get too serious and it would just be harder on both of us if we waited until I had to go off to college to break up.

This was the first relationship I had, and I feel like crap. I have no idea what to do to forget about her, because she still wants to hang out, but I can't hang out with her without my feelings coming back.

Any suggestions on what to do to get over her? Just so you know, alcohol is not going to be a good suggestion for me, since I don't drink, but I figured that would be the most obvious answer everyone would give me. That and strip clubs.
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Well I was in your gf's shoes once. I did feel bad (still do actually..but it was the right thing to do at the time).

I dunno if that helps any..
 
Kadarin

Kadarin

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"She still wants to remain friends."

They always do.. They slice a knife in past your ribcage, twist it, pull it out, let you bleed to death, and then they want to "remain friends" afterward. If you do try to "remain friends" with her, you will have the pleasure of getting to hear her bitch and moan about all the new guys she's hanging out (translation: having sex) with... You will become her emotional tampon, her penis behind glass (oh yes.. she can bang other guys to her vagina's content, but you just wait until you experience the guilt trip when you tell her you have a new g/f)

Good luck! :)
 
rh71

rh71

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Just wait till you see what's out there waiting at college. ;) I think things like this in HS is for the best. I'm sure she's thought about your future too. HS relationships are more for practice unless the love on both sides is real strong.
 
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matt426malm

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I'm going to go with the general consensus here. Do not see her anymore. I've only had one relationship where the friends thing worked and that was a mutual breakup/drift apart. Hearing your ex girl friend talk about her new "friends" is going to hurt. Yeah, and your going to college, so no worries! :)
 
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gopunk

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if she says you guys are too serious, just ask her if she would like a less serious relationship then. dunno seems like a good deal to me... you can see more than one girl and that's what she wanted!
 
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johnjbruin

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You CAN NOT be friends with her. Cut of all contact with her. That is the only way to forget her. We've all been there man. everyvody does go through this at some point. And yes it does suck, but its part of life.
You'll be better off not thinking about her at all or if she has another man or not, because the chanes are that she already does like the others said. So... just forget her... its time to move on and find gf#2.
 
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Bleep

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If you mean by relationship that sex was involved and she was your first then you have fell in love with her love muscle, thier are plenty of them go around, all females have them. Find another. It is a matter of ego, yours has been injured, this can be tough for a man of any age..

Bleep
 
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ProUser

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Originally posted by: Astaroth33
"She still wants to remain friends."

They always do.. They slice a knife in past your ribcage, twist it, pull it out, let you bleed to death, and then they want to "remain friends" afterward. If you do try to "remain friends" with her, you will have the pleasure of getting to hear her bitch and moan about all the new guys she's hanging out (translation: having sex) with... You will become her emotional tampon, her penis behind glass (oh yes.. she can bang other guys to her vagina's content, but you just wait until you experience the guilt trip when you tell her you have a new g/f)

Good luck! :)
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Nicely put!
 
rocadelpunk

rocadelpunk

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Originally posted by: ProUser
Honestly, this is the best advice I think you will get - and you will almost surely ignore it and regret doing so later, but most people do:

Cut all contact. Do not call her, do not hang out with her, do not be her emmotional tampon, etc. If she wants to be break up, it's because she wants to be with or is already with other guys [period]. Of course she wants you to stay friends with her - so she can have the best of both worlds. A whipping boy to be there for her (you), and her new boy toy(s). The longer you remain in contact with her, the worse off you will be. Cut all contact, move on, get over her. You will thank yourself in the long run.

Sorry for the situation - but it's your first relationship, trust me there will be more soon. And heck your going to college!
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i agree
i was whipping boy, it was stupid

i got calls at like 2 in the morning asking for boyfriend advice.

 
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