I came out to my best friend today........Update 11/7 - It's Finally over!

No, you're still wrong. ATOT still has a bunch of insensitive @ssclowns with little sympathy.
They're ready to jump on people for the little things.
Its just that your situation is very sensitive and noone would dare to make any insensitive remarks.

As if the real world is any different. Only thing is, no one can ban you from life for what you say (dont need smart remarks about killing someone and what have you).
I find it great how you are generalizing that attitude, and by doing it, are falling directly in the pool of people you are "calling out".

To the OP, a "congratulations" is on order, although I don't think people should be commended for their sexuality. Coming out is a big step for your self-esteem though.
In most cases people wear their sexuality on their sleeve, so it's rather easy to tell.

Have fun, and if anyone gives you sh!t, just tell em to F off.

 

[Ryan]

Originally posted by: SampSon

No, you're still wrong. ATOT still has a bunch of insensitive @ssclowns with little sympathy.
They're ready to jump on people for the little things.
Its just that your situation is very sensitive and noone would dare to make any insensitive remarks.

As if the real world is any different. Only thing is, no one can ban you from life for what you say (dont need smart remarks about killing someone and what have you).
I find it great how you are generalizing that attitude, and by doing it, are falling directly in the pool of people you are "calling out".

To the OP, a "congratulations" is on order, although I don't think people should be commended for their sexuality. Coming out is a big step for your self-esteem though.
In most cases people wear their sexuality on their sleeve, so it's rather easy to tell.

Have fun, and if anyone gives you sh!t, just tell em to F off.

Another thank you Ever since I did it, I've just felt so much better in day to day life. Posting it on Anandtech gave me so much motivation to tell the people I loved, I really couldn't have done it had I not started this thread. I too agree that one shouldn't be congratulated for their sexuality, it's like congradualting someone because they have blond hair - it just doens't make sense.

Last night I went out to each at a nice restaurant with my sister, and for the first time I actually felt comfortable talking to her about the subject. She asked me tonnes of question, to the point that I kinda felt like I was being interrogated, but I felt good that someone I love wants been genuinely involved with this process, and cares :heart:

 

Last night I went out to each at a nice restaurant with my sister, and for the first time I actually felt comfortable talking to her about the subject. She asked me tonnes of question, to the point that I kinda felt like I was being interrogated, but I felt good that someone I love wants been genuinely involved with this process, and cares

Of course, everyone is intrigued by gay culture. Wether they admit it or not.

 

[Ryan]

I told more of my co workers today, and I keep seeing this recurring theme when people find out - nobody believes me. :frown:

I don't know if it's a good thing, or bad. It's good that I can use my experiences to change people's minds and break stereotypes, I guess. :thumbsup:

 

[chiwawa626]

Congrats

 

[datalink7]

My sister never really "came out" to me. I just sort of new it for a long time. It was "confirmed" when I asked her who someone was in a picture she had and she said "my girlfriend Katie" and looked at me apprehensively. I just said "where's she from?" without skipping a beat (as I said, I alreadyh knew she was gay). I never really "interrogated" her like you sister did... I just treated it like it wasn't anything out of the ordinary. Not that I didn't care, but rather that there wasn't anything to care about.

Not sure why I shared that story, but good job on telling your sister

 

[notfred]

Don't be pissed at your sister's boyfriend. I know you weren't looking for his approval, but he was just trying to ease any tensions that may have come from that (sort of awkward) situation.

 

[Ryan]

Originally posted by: notfred
Don't be pissed at your sister's boyfriend. I know you weren't looking for his approval, but he was just trying to ease any tensions that may have come from that (sort of awkward) situation.

I wasn't pissed at him , I was just pissed that she brought him over after I asked her many times to come over by herself.

 

[Ryan]

Update 11-7: Told my mother and stepfather

Wow - what an agonizing phone call, I'm glad it's finally over. I told my step father first, and his reaction was very positive. He asked me the typical question, how do you know?, have you ever been with anyone? etc, etc. I was upfront and as honest as possible. I wanted to talk to him just to gage any kind of reaction I would have with my mother. At that point I spoke to my mom, and the first 10 minutes of the conversation was of me talking, and crying. I wouldn't have ever imagined I would have gotten so emotional.

She started crying, and asking me all of the typical myriad of questions. She is now convinced that I'm just confused about my sexuality. I told her that I wasn't, but she still doesn't understand how I KNOW that I'm gay. Her reaction isn't unexpected, it is, in fact, what I've been expecting from all of my immediate family. I guess I'm fortunate to have a pretty accepting family. She asked my if I needed any help with these feeling, but I explained to her that the only issue I was having was telling her. The funny part of the conversation was when she asked "It's not because I had you work in the garden when you were a kid, was it?" :laugh:

At that point, I told her that I really loved her, and that I was glad to have been able to tell her without a negative reaction. Both of them came on the phone and said that they loved me, and that this wasn't changing anything. :heart:

I'm just glad that I was able to go through this whole situation with so much positivity, not only from my friends and family, but from the people on these forums whom I have met and become true friends with. You guys have helped so much, and I appreciate it. Hopefully this thread has helped anybody who has had and questions, and helped people see the other side. My door is always open for anyone who wants to talk, don't hesitate to PM me

 

[GeekDrew]

I'm *really* happy for you, rbloedow. I'm glad that the family now knows, and that your whole coming out experience was so great for you - I wish I had been so lucky.

Drew

 

[nageov3t]

I never understood the whole "coming out" thing. the way I look at it, it's no one's business but my own.

of course, in fairness, I was still in my drag phase when I met most of my current friends, so there was no need and I had the advantage of a gay cousin... when she came out to the family, the general consensus among the adults was that a) they didn't care, and b) they didn't want to know who/what *any* of us kids were sleeping with. heh.

 

[Ryan]

Originally posted by: loki8481
I never understood the whole "coming out" thing. the way I look at it, it's no one's business but my own.

of course, in fairness, I was still in my drag phase when I met most of my current friends, so there was no need and I had the advantage of a gay cousin... when she came out to the family, the general consensus among the adults was that a) they didn't care, and b) they didn't want to know who/what *any* of us kids were sleeping with. heh.

I think it woudl be much easier for me to tell them, and get it over with, than to show up for thanksgiving dinner and say "Mom, dad, this is Stephen, my boyfriend" I don't think that everyoen shoudl know, but certainly my immediate family and friends. What good is a family if you can't talk with them, and be open with your closest feelings and fears?

 

[nageov3t]

Originally posted by: rbloedow
What good is a family if you can't talk with them, and be open with your closest feelings and fears?

Christmas gifts and free food?

 

[Ryan]

Originally posted by: loki8481

Originally posted by: rbloedow
What good is a family if you can't talk with them, and be open with your closest feelings and fears?

Christmas gifts and free food?

haha

 

[ElFenix]

Originally posted by: loki8481

Originally posted by: rbloedow
What good is a family if you can't talk with them, and be open with your closest feelings and fears?

Christmas gifts and free food?

that's what mine is for

 

[Ryan]

Recently, in my General Ethics class that I'm taking, I've gotten to see alot of the other side's view of the subject. Although I have not talked about my experiences, it's interesting to see people deconstruct the reasons for their viewpoint and rationalize their decisions. This is what I've been doing with myself over the past few months, I wish that I would have taken the course last semester!

...Just a random thought, somewhat pertinent, but more so because I'd hate to see the thread archived

 

[gabemcg]

:lips: :thumbsup: good for you!

 

[Ryan]

Originally posted by: gabemcg
:lips: :thumbsup: good for you!

:thumbsup: Thanks

 

[skim milk]

Sup my Florida homie.. glad to see everything went smoothly. :thumbsup: