Originally posted by: flexy
Originally posted by: djheater
Some clarification and more information:
I have 2 children with one on the way (to my mind this IS three kids, but I can understand the confusion).
I never completed college and worked my way into a systems administrator position from helpdesk with this company. They pay me 70k...
im would KILL for an IT/programmer job which would pay me 70k !
Btw....i DOUBT that your complaints are job-related - you already stated several times you're happy w/ your job. You are burnt out because your kids and early marriage w/kids.
I am almost positive. (Read your OWN postings again....) And yeah, thank god every single day you have a nice, well paying job, WITHOUT a degree ! Personally, i think you should stop complaining !!
I ONLY work the job because I have a family that's true, but that would be true regardless of my age. I believe you're trying to say that if I had come to the decision to start a family on my own without having the responsibility thrust upon me by 'accident' I would be happier. I can't say if that would be true because I lack that experience and can't comment on what state of mind I would be in.
I can tell you that I am happy\satisfied\feel strongly that we did and are doing the right, best thing. My wife and I are very much in love, and I couldn't imagine not having her or either of my girls in my life.
Now about Burnout, taken from
this article:
1. Sunday evenings depress you.
I have seen what actual depression is, and any chagrin I feel about going in to work is definately not the same thing. That being said, I can't say I look forward to coming in to work.
2. The quality of your work has suffered, but you don't care.
This is true, I'm not nearly as productive as I could be and I know it.
3. You arrive consistently late to work.
I have flex hours, but I have been coming in later lately... sigh...
4. You call in sick when healthy.
I do not ever do this.
5. You've become emotionally distant from your coworkers.
Not really.
6. Your job has taken a toll on your mental and/or physical health to the point where friends and family have expressed concern.
No one remembers when I didn't work a sh!tload, so my current condition is par.
7. Upon hearing rumors of layoffs, you pray, "Please, God, take me!"
I would be scared sh!tless, that my family would be in jeopardy.
8. You don't have enough work to keep busy, but lack motivation to seek new assignments.
I have PLENTY of work.
9. Time drags and you constantly watch the clock.
I REALLY look forward to getting out for lunch... does this count?
10. The lights around your desk or workspace burn out frequently
I don't get this one. But it's not true.
This is me with a few personal differences
You're climbing someone else's ladder: If you don't redefine success based on what you want out of life, you'll point yourself toward someone else's goals.
There are several reasons we find ourselves on the wrong path:
We may have chosen our path at a young age when our values and priorities are not fully conscious and consistent; we were influenced by our family's needs for us to fulfill their dreams and expectations; we were rebelling against our family's needs for us to fulfill their dreams and expectations; fear, insecurity, and/or anxiety have influenced our choice of goals and paths; we aren't listening to our calling.
In summary it might be arguable that my family is the cause of my working so much, but in the end as with any emotional\mental state
I am responsible for any burnout I have. (Accepting medical conditions, of course). As I said originally, I'm
NOT complaining, just venting. I
am grateful. You have no idea.
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