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I am so sick of people...

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telling ATOT members to 'go out, get a job, pay for your own stuff, and then come talk to me.'

Maybe it's because I came from one of those families where the parents gasp...actually bought their kids things to make them happy.

Maybe it's because I love seeing the look on my parents faces when I get the perfect gift, almost as much as they enjoy my reaction too.

Maybe it's because I see nothing wrong with parents who provide luxury items for their children, so long as the proper care/love is already present.

Maybe it's because I'm a well-adjusted 19-year old (well, in five days, anyway) who thoroughly appreciates the things my parents buy me and also appreciates it when his parents come to him for advice on gifts i.e. "Hey Michael, it's almost your birthday and we want to get you something neat - what would you like?"

My parents asked me that exact question about a week ago. And I wasn't selfish. I wasn't rude. I told them that I'd really like a hard case for my Dell Axim (bought with my own money during Dell's 15% + 15% + 5% deal) from Otterbox (some of the most heavy-duty cases I've seen). I didn't whine about price limits (they didn't set one, knowing that I'd pick a reasonable gift), choices of products, or anything else. I was responsible about it.

It really bugs me when people criticize those whose parents choose to buy them material items. Show me a person who's paid for everything with their own money since freshman year in high school, and I'll show you a high school dropout who had to hold a job in order to afford rent, food, clothes and a car.

Fact is, those who criticize are putting themselves on a pedestal. Okay, maybe your parents didn't buy you much stuff when you were a kid. And look what it did to you: you sound like a crotchety, whiny old man/woman. A man or woman who thinks that the world should bow at their feet because when they were my age, they paid for their own PDA cases.

I've got news for you: you're no better than those who whine about wanting an RSX Type-S when their parents buy them a SR-T for their 16th birthday.

Case in point.
 
I completely agree with you. People that tell others that they should get a job and blah blah blah to make themselves a real man really have no clue.

My parents provided me with alot of things which I wouldn't have been able to get on my own. They paid for my tuition for the first two years till I found a job and took over the costs. It's all about how the parents raise you, not how much stuff they give you.
 
It's all about how the parents raise you, not how much stuff they give you.


the problem is, alot of kids end up being so dependant on their parents, they cant survive on their own
 
Originally posted by: rudeguy
It's all about how the parents raise you, not how much stuff they give you.


the problem is, alot of kids end up being so dependant on their parents, they cant survive on their own
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*cough*Jerboy*cough*
 
I agree, I'm in the same boat as you are.

Some people are so critical of others without knowing the whole story.
 
I'm with you guys. My parents made my life pretty comfortable and (through cool clothes) helped me to pick up lots of chicks in high school. 🙂

Now that I'm on my own I'm still living on their standard of living and stive to be successful to enjoy the same type of lifestyle and hopefully someday pass it on to my children, if I have any.
 
My parents provided as best they could when we were less well off. Moving to a new country and not speaking the language doesnt' help much..........

I didn't mind.

Now that we are better off they have bought me some cool things. It's nice and I don't see why others bash on it......

Koing
 
My parents have never denied me anything I have wanted within reason (no lamborghinis lol) however, my father has stressed the importance of working since I was very young, and I have worked summers since I was 16, and I will tell you that while I very much appreciate the things my parents buy for me and do for me, I appreciate the things I have EARNED that much more, because I have earned them. I also don't spend money recklessly, if you wish to become wealthy, you have to start by being conservative. I haven't made boat loads of money at my jobs, but through investments, and savings I have managed to do pretty well with my money, and it gives me a feeling of satisfaction each month when I get my credit card bill knowing that there is nothing on there that is frivilous, and that I have worked hard to provide myself with the means to pay off the bill. So I must disagree with you, eventually you will have to work, and if you wish to succeed, you will have to learn that self restraint is a virtue. I'm not saying that you spend recklessly, I'm just saying that you ought to think about where the money comes from and what your parents had to do to earn it. Then you will really appreciate what is done for you.
 
Ok..pass the hat for the silver spoon crowd. Lets make shure thay have all the Sonys and BMW's they want.
 
Originally posted by: Ylen13
Originally posted by: cyco5150
Spoiled brat!!!
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what is wrong with being spoiled brat?
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Really, not much, hence the grin, but I know a couple of people that had all provided for them by their parents (and yes I was damn jealous) and have not a clue how to survive in the real world. I think it's great that the parents want to provide all they can for their children, as long as they give them a clue on the real world. If the parent can balance that, I'd say there's nothing wrong with being spoiled.
 
Excellent post man. However I don't think that they main thing is if your parents buy you a bunch of stuff. Some parents don't have the opportunity to do that. But no matter what your financial situation is you can come out to be a very respectable, intelligent man. You (jumpr) are obviously very responsible and your parents realize this. They in turn can provide you with more "things" than maybe someone else's parents could. My parents have always provided with me the things that I need. A lot of times my dad would have me save up for something but then pitch in some money so I could have extra money. I learned there to work for my things, and my dad rewarded me for it. It's basically specific for each family.
 
If you have better things than the person who doesn't, he will hate you. When someone who works hours a day and drives a crappy car that barely runs sees some 16 year old driving a brand new BMW....He will hate him. Why does he have to work to barely afford the place he lives in while someone who doesn't work or do anything gets a brand new luxury car.

This is how it will ALWAYS be. Deal with it
 
I don't care about people who get stuff from their parents... everyone's parents buy them stuff. The thing is that people don't realize how fortunate they are, and they come and complain here, to a bunch of lesser priviledged people (so it seems), expecting sympathy. It just isn't going to happen.

My parents are pretty poor, but they still found money to buy all three of their kids presents for Christmas and birthdays. They never bought us cars, or stuff like that, but we all got good computers, cool toys, and other stuff. I've never complained about it because I realize how much they've worked to give me that stuff. I know there are people on this board that are more fortunate than me, and less fortunate than me.

When I go to college next year, the Army will hopefully be paying 100% of my tuition. That's my way of paying back my parents for all their years of work. The key is gratefulness, that's it.
 
Originally posted by: DaiShan
My parents have never denied me anything I have wanted within reason (no lamborghinis lol) however, my father has stressed the importance of working since I was very young, and I have worked summers since I was 16, and I will tell you that while I very much appreciate the things my parents buy for me and do for me, I appreciate the things I have EARNED that much more, because I have earned them. I also don't spend money recklessly, if you wish to become wealthy, you have to start by being conservative. I haven't made boat loads of money at my jobs, but through investments, and savings I have managed to do pretty well with my money, and it gives me a feeling of satisfaction each month when I get my credit card bill knowing that there is nothing on there that is frivilous, and that I have worked hard to provide myself with the means to pay off the bill. So I must disagree with you, eventually you will have to work, and if you wish to succeed, you will have to learn that self restraint is a virtue. I'm not saying that you spend recklessly, I'm just saying that you ought to think about where the money comes from and what your parents had to do to earn it. Then you will really appreciate what is done for you.
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same way here :-D
but those people who don't learn to appreciate the value of a dollar or what earning money is about are the annoying ones....the ones that never get jobs and get everything and spend money like it grows in the their backyard by the bushel.....are the annoying ones
 
I am so sick of people... 16 to 21yo with a new Lexus SUV hogging the road barely able to drive due to their cell phone is to small for them to hold it to thier ear right.
 
Originally posted by: MacBaine
I don't care about people who get stuff from their parents... everyone's parents buy them stuff. The thing is that people don't realize how fortunate they are, and they come and complain here, to a bunch of lesser priviledged people (so it seems), expecting sympathy. It just isn't going to happen. My parents are pretty poor, but they still found money to buy all three of their kids presents for Christmas and birthdays. They never bought us cars, or stuff like that, but we all got good computers, cool toys, and other stuff. I've never complained about it because I realize how much they've worked to give me that stuff. I know there are people on this board that are more fortunate than me, and less fortunate than me. When I go to college next year, the Army will hopefully be paying 100% of my tuition. That's my way of paying back my parents for all their years of work. The key is gratefulness, that's it.
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That's the story of my life, and I agree with everyhting you said 😉

You have to earn it to appreciate it, there's no way around it. 😉
 
"Spoiled" is ok.......
"Spoiled Brats" is what tends to make people question the value of giving kids anything they want. When I was growing up, the socials (spoiled brats mostly) thought they were better than other people and acted that way. It sure didn't make me jealous, just angry.

Anyway if you can accept that there are people with less things than you that are worth exactly the same as you, then "Spoiled" is ok.......🙂 More power to ya.
 
i'm tired of whiny bitches who get their panties in a twist when their sister drinks some of their orange juice 😉
 
Originally posted by: ElFenix
i'm tired of whiny bitches who get their panties in a twist when their sister drinks some of their orange juice 😉
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Hehe, you'll never let that one go, will you ElFenix? Yes, I agree that I'm pretty fortunate, but I definitely let my parents know every chance I get that I'm thankful and grateful for their generosity toward me.
 
wow, someone needs a hug:heart:

my parents haven't bought me anything since i was old enough to get a job. you don't see me complaining =\
 
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