I am sick!.....

[stev0]

....of being the "nice guy". for as long as i can remember, or for as long as i have been trying to hook up with girls i've always been the nice guy. i've really only had two or three actually "girlfriends" in my dating career, other than that everytime i've triend i'll always end up getting that "oh your a really nice guy but... blah blah blah". with that aside, i was out partying with a few friends this weekend, one of my buddies girlfriends brought down a couple of friends too. well anyway there was one, that is really attractive, to me anyway, of of those beer drinking, tshirt/jeans kind of girls... that plays vids (yes it was her idea to bust out the oldschool NES). anyway, this was the first time that i've met her, would really like to get to know her better, maybe for some sort of a relationship. i really don't know what to do, i sound like a really big pussy sitting here, it's just the whole rejection thing that keeps getting to me, i mean my heart is telling me "go for it man" and the brain is like "ahh you fool you know how it is going to end." should i just be my normal "nice guy" self and see what happens? should i just forget about her and go on with life like I normally do? anyone got some tips for kicking the "nice guy" rep? well, enough babbling, thanks for reading, more thanks for a response!

 

[thawolfman]

<< ...i mean my heart is telling me "go for it man" and the brain is like "ahh you fool you know how it is going to end." >>



I hate that

 

[StattlichPassat]

Nope, I'm one of those "oh your a really nice guy but... blah blah blah" types too. I haven't moved out of that stage yet... thinking of becoming a jerk to get more chicks...

 

[tweakmm]

I would start by looking at your sig for inspiration

 

[Azraele]

<< should i just be my normal "nice guy" self and see what happens? >>


Yes, because if you try to be someone you aren't, you're dooming the relationship before it even gets started.


<< should i just forget about her and go on with life like I normally do? >>


I would go for it. When you fall off a horse, you can't be afraid to get right back on.

 

[thawolfman]

Some good reads.... for us nice guy types...

 

[datalink7]

lol... you're sick of being a nice guy? Well then stop being a nice guy.

I'm sick of living in general... wtf do I do? (no, I also don't want to die )

 

[stev0]

<< I would start by looking at your sig for insparation >>


wow so true... thanks!



<< lol... you're sick of being a nice guy? Well then stop being a nice guy. >>


it's harder than you think to just stop being what you are.



<< thinking of becoming a jerk to get more chicks... >>


thought about it, tried it... just goes back to what azraele said

 

[lawaris]

if u fail try try try again....

or go the way of that * guy in the hooker thread* if u need experience.

 

[datalink7]

<<


<< lol... you're sick of being a nice guy? Well then stop being a nice guy. >>


it's harder than you think to just stop being what you are.
>>



I know. I'm a nice guy as well. My comment was more tongue in cheek, meant to show you that you are looking at the situation in a wrong mannar. But what you need to do if you are "tired" of it is:

a) stop being a nice guy.
b) accept who you are and be comfortable with it.

There is a solution to your problems. I'm not tired of being a nice guy. I'm glad I'm a nice guy, and I always will be. What I'm tired of is not getting any girlfriends. And you see, this is where you aren't seeing the situation correctly. The "not getting girlfriends" is the problem, not "being a nice guy." Once you see the real problem, you can start working on a solution.

Of cource, I have yet to come up with a solution for myself but that is neither here nor there.

 

[stev0]

datalink7, yea that is what i was trying to get at before, i guess that you just said it better. i like being my nice self, i just don't like being my nice self... alone.

 

[datalink7]

<< datalink7, yea that is what i was trying to get at before, i guess that you just said it better. i like being my nice self, i just don't like being my nice self... alone. >>



Yah it sucks, but you've just got to remember: being "alone" is the problem demanding a solution, not "being a nice guy."

Cheers

 

[wnied]

God! Grow a pair for christs sake! Ask her already.


~wnied~
(A Well Known Jerk that ends up with all the women...at least once anyway.)

 

[AreaCode707]

Okay, here's news for you. When a girl feeds you the "you're a nice guy but..." line, she's not turning you down because you're a nice guy. She's turning you down because she's not interested and that line seems to her like a mild way to do it. So all of you who think you're not getting girls because you're too nice, for the most part that's not true (the exceptions are the ones who girls refer to as "he's almost like my gay friend" where you hide your feelings so well that they think you're not interested at all). Look at yourself and see what it is about you that makes her not interested, thus leading to the "nice guy" line. Trust me, it's not really your nice-guyness.

 

[datalink7]

<< Okay, here's news for you. When a girl feeds you the "you're a nice guy but..." line, she's not turning you down because you're a nice guy. She's turning you down because she's not interested and that line seems to her like a mild way to do it. So all of you who think you're not getting girls because you're too nice, for the most part that's not true (the exceptions are the ones who girls refer to as "he's almost like my gay friend" where you hide your feelings so well that they think you're not interested at all). Look at yourself and see what it is about you that makes her not interested, thus leading to the "nice guy" line. Trust me, it's not really your nice-guyness. >>



Exactly. Like for me, it is because I'm boring and have no extra ordinary talent in anything.

 

[shiner]

<< anyone got some tips for kicking the "nice guy" rep? >>


You can start by voting Democratic.

Other effective methods include:
Laying the pipe to every skank in town
Drink yourself silly on a nightly basis
Stop watching Oprah and reading Dr. Phil
Rice

 

[wnied]

To Elaborate more on what Hotchic said previously.

You either:

Are Too Fat
Are Too Ugly
Have an extra arm, eye, leg or are a flipper baby
Smell bad
Pee sitting down
Ride The short Bus
Are Too Bald(or Balding)
Are Too Short
Are Too Tall
Call way too much
Have hair where you shouldnt
Dont Brush & Floss enough
Grow a Potato Farm in your ears
Wear thick glasses
Have buck teeth
Dont have enough teeth
caught in Drag publicly
Picked your nose where they could see it
Have Chronic Halletosis
Have a Uni-Brow
Walk like a Cro-Magnon
Farted when she could hear or smell it
bite your finger nails way too much
have scaley elbows
Dont have the right color eyes


If I've missed any please feel free to add to my list please.
~wnied~

 

[stev0]

<< Drink yourself silly on a nightly basis >>

done and done!... and I mean done

 

[stev0]

ehh I think i just need a really good self esteem booster...

 

[thawolfman]

<< ehh I think i just need a really good self esteem booster... >>



stev0 you are the man

 

[stev0]

lol! haha thanks!

 

[yobarman]

this is my friend's theory on nice guys...

Every single guy in the world is an asshole...every single guy wants some pussy. The "nice guys" are just the guys who have no game. They sit around bitching because they dont have the balls to talk to girls or ask them out. It doesnt matter if you're nice or mean, no ones ever going to know you if you dont start jibba jabbin!

 

[stev0]

good call yobarman

 

[notfred]

You have a cold or something? I don't get it.

 

[stev0]

what? yea you lost me notfred.

bump for night crowd...