I am going to a funeral tomorrow...

[MournSanity]

I have never been to a funeral, but my best friend's father died and I have to go. I have no idea how a funeral is. I have never been to one. I'm pretty sad for him, as he has no family in Cali and is going to be moving.


What should I do tomorrow at the funeral?

 

[tweakmm]

I think it really depends on the funeral. Look around and follow what everybody else is doing. I've been to a couple of funerals that were celebrations of the persons life and I've been to funerals that were alot more somber

 

[Spikey217]

Originally posted by: tweakmm
I think it really depends on the funeral. Look around and follow what everybody else is doing

Yeah, different cultures do different things. The last one I was at was a traditional cantonese funeral. I just followed the person next to me.

 

[MournSanity]

I don't think there is going to be that many people there as he has no relatives in the state Maybe some of his dad's friends and us.

 

[Pastore]

Just basically mingle. There is usually a guestbook to sign so you can sign that when you walk in. Also a lot of the times the family will have a bulletin board set up with pictures that they had of the deceased, so you can check out the pictures they have up. Pay your respects at the casket if you feel comfortable with it, and you'll be fine.

 

[BillGates]

Funerals are kinda creepy...hard to explain I guess. It sucks, but it's also a part of life.

 

[StormRider]

Originally posted by: Spikey217

Originally posted by: tweakmm
I think it really depends on the funeral. Look around and follow what everybody else is doing

Yeah, different cultures do different things. The last one I was at was a traditional cantonese funeral. I just followed the person next to me.

At the cantonese funeral, did they have a eulogy for the deceased?

The last funeral I went to was one of my uncles and there was basically no eulogy. There was just a casket for viewing the body but no one spoke about him. Is this typical of a cantonese funeral?

 

[Spikey217]

Originally posted by: StormRider

Originally posted by: Spikey217

Originally posted by: tweakmm
I think it really depends on the funeral. Look around and follow what everybody else is doing

Yeah, different cultures do different things. The last one I was at was a traditional cantonese funeral. I just followed the person next to me.

At the cantonese funeral, did they have a eulogy for the deceased?

The last funeral I went to was one of my uncles and there was basically no eulogy. There was just a casket for viewing the body but no one spoke about him. Is this typical of a cantonese funeral?

Yes, I believe it is. There wasn't a eulogy at the funeral I went to.

 

[Lady In Red]

The last one I went too was of a 5 mos old Vietamese baby. The family was the only one that went to view the body/did any talking etc. - at the end a family member broke off the flowers and place them in the casket and covered the baby. When they finally left out I did as everyone else did and follow them out. First funeral of this type I've ever attended.

I would say just be there for your friend and sometimes it's not what you say but just being there is all that counts.

Watch and follow what the others do, and you should be ok.

 

[StormRider]

The reason I'm asking is because when I was there, all of a sudden I realized that I didn't know the first thing about funerals. And if something happens, I wouldn't know where to turn to. Then I started to wish that my parents talked to me about religion and stuff or that our family went to church or something so that I had someplace to turn to for these matters.

And then I realized that there's no way I could give a eulogy and wondered if people would think that I am a bad person for not giving a eulogy. But if that is the cantonese way...