This is what I strongly believe in:
"Only time can prove, strengthen, define relationships. only time
I wholeheartedly agree with the above statement religiously. I do Not believe in love at first sight. I can't stand people abusing the sentence "I love you" in just about every dumba$s situations. It's also shocking when you think you know someone so deeply, they do something that utterly leave your jaws dropped. Through the event occured just tonight, I am pretty dissapointed.
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I was supposed to go see meet up with my two close friends Saturday night. It was Barry and.. let's just call the other friend, "Ann". A couple of weeks ago, we made plans to hang out in Boston over some drinks and talk the night away. Even Ann showed so much enthusiasm and expressed how much she was anticipating to have three of us together.
So today (last night) was saturday, so I called her during early afternoon to make definite plans for time and place. She didn't pick up her cell, so I left her vm. She called back after 2 hours and told me that she might not be able to make it because she got into trouble by her parents by being out late the night before. I showed friendly dissapointment and said, "it's ok, I don't want you to get in trouble, we can always meet up anytime
but gimmer a call around 5-6pm if you can't make it for sure", she said fine.
It was 5pm-ish, and I was already at my friend Barry's house near Boston, ready to go out and possibly meet up with Ann in the city if she could make it after all. She called around 5:30pm and assured that she couldn't make it at all because of her mom. No problem, we exchanged friendly remarks and decided to chat up later. It's all good.
Barry and I chilled at his house with some drinks and fixin' his PC. Then we went out for some fresh air and city night life scenery. I craved sushi so we ended up going to the restaurent Ginza in Chinatown. It was about midnight by this time. We were sat in the sushi bar and ordered sake (salmon) and california maki. Barry and I were chatting it up about friendships/life/fun things and when my order arrived, Barry pulled my arm and said, "is that Ann overthere?" I didn't even pay attention because he says stupid things to make people laugh especially when he checks out girls: "Shut up, your food is here" Then Barry responded, "holy sh|t, that IS Ann!"
I immediately looked at his direction. And. Damn. It WAS Her. "holy sh|t, that IS her" She was sitting at the dining table with three other friends. She hasn't noticed us because we were far by the sushi bar. I couldn't believe it, and bunch of talks went back and forth with Barry about this situation before our very eyes. I still remember, I lost my freakin' appetite and thought of something. I pulled out my cell phone and called Her cell phone.
*ring...... ring...* The signal buzzed in my speaker and needlessly to say, Her cell phone rang audibly from her table as well. And guess what she did: she pulled out the cell phone, looked at the display to check out the caller ID. Upon confirming it was me, she muted the ring and put the cell back into her purse. Can you believe this?
Barry showed much frustration as he speculated Ann and myself. She still hasn't noticed us yet, keep in mind. We discussed wether ?I should confront her in the restaurent now or mention it later. I had decided to confront her, right before we leave. The check eventually came and I paid with my Amex Blue which I got from AT Hotdeals. We put the jacket on and started to walk out, with me leading.
The plot thickens. Right by the door I stopped right directly in front of her and greeted her in a 'let's-see-how-you-react-friendly' voice. "Hey Ann, how's the food?" She was totally unaware of our presence and was occupied talking to her friends just until the greeting. "Oh my God" When her eyes immediately recognized me, her mouth just froze in an O shape. It was SO DRAMATIC, I thought we were playing a scene in a movie. She just sat like that for good solid 3 seconds. Her face turned beet red, stood up and said, "I am so sorry... I'm sorry" And gave me a hug and just repeated saying those words in utter shock. "I wasn't supposed to go out..." by this point I felt so bad for her at the sight of how much she made a fool out of herself. She's had what she deserved I thought and I just said, "Enjoy the food and I'll talk to you later ok?" before creating more awkward embarassing moments for her.
She replied ok then we left the restaurent. Needless to say all three of us were surprised at what just happened. I drove Barry home, talked a bit more regarding how I felt (which is shown below) and I am home now.
Lying. It is my biggest petpeeve. If she preferred to see other friends tonight, simply say so. I would've been totally fine with it. Instead, how she handled the situation to protect my feelings, ended up making a big baboon out of herself and really hurt my feelings which otherwise would've been totally fine. And it's not even this petty incident that's frustrating me, it is because I thought I knew her so well but I guess I did not. Only TIME proves relationships.
On the way driving home, I felt so... disgusted. There is no other word that could perfectly describe how I feel. Disgusted with friends and with Everyone, including MYSELF. We human beings are so.. insecure and such conformists. Our self-centered defense mechanism is just sickening. I couldn't shake that feeling. I wasn't just disgusted with Ann.. but just about with everyone... This event just freaked me out a bit how you think you know someone but you do not. We are so vulnerable to be hurt while we confide in others, as also very capable of hurting.
Why do we have to lie? I guess this event coupled with other things (this seriously compulsive liar chick I know) shook me up a bit. Even to the point I just don't even want to talk to my GF now. (Although things are Perfectly fine and is not related to this event at all).
I am just intimidated with every relationships in life. I am just disgusted with everyone, including my filthy self... *blech*
"Only time can prove, strengthen, define relationships. only time
I wholeheartedly agree with the above statement religiously. I do Not believe in love at first sight. I can't stand people abusing the sentence "I love you" in just about every dumba$s situations. It's also shocking when you think you know someone so deeply, they do something that utterly leave your jaws dropped. Through the event occured just tonight, I am pretty dissapointed.
-----
I was supposed to go see meet up with my two close friends Saturday night. It was Barry and.. let's just call the other friend, "Ann". A couple of weeks ago, we made plans to hang out in Boston over some drinks and talk the night away. Even Ann showed so much enthusiasm and expressed how much she was anticipating to have three of us together.
So today (last night) was saturday, so I called her during early afternoon to make definite plans for time and place. She didn't pick up her cell, so I left her vm. She called back after 2 hours and told me that she might not be able to make it because she got into trouble by her parents by being out late the night before. I showed friendly dissapointment and said, "it's ok, I don't want you to get in trouble, we can always meet up anytime
but gimmer a call around 5-6pm if you can't make it for sure", she said fine.It was 5pm-ish, and I was already at my friend Barry's house near Boston, ready to go out and possibly meet up with Ann in the city if she could make it after all. She called around 5:30pm and assured that she couldn't make it at all because of her mom. No problem, we exchanged friendly remarks and decided to chat up later. It's all good.
Barry and I chilled at his house with some drinks and fixin' his PC. Then we went out for some fresh air and city night life scenery. I craved sushi so we ended up going to the restaurent Ginza in Chinatown. It was about midnight by this time. We were sat in the sushi bar and ordered sake (salmon) and california maki. Barry and I were chatting it up about friendships/life/fun things and when my order arrived, Barry pulled my arm and said, "is that Ann overthere?" I didn't even pay attention because he says stupid things to make people laugh especially when he checks out girls: "Shut up, your food is here" Then Barry responded, "holy sh|t, that IS Ann!"
I immediately looked at his direction. And. Damn. It WAS Her. "holy sh|t, that IS her" She was sitting at the dining table with three other friends. She hasn't noticed us because we were far by the sushi bar. I couldn't believe it, and bunch of talks went back and forth with Barry about this situation before our very eyes. I still remember, I lost my freakin' appetite and thought of something. I pulled out my cell phone and called Her cell phone.
*ring...... ring...* The signal buzzed in my speaker and needlessly to say, Her cell phone rang audibly from her table as well. And guess what she did: she pulled out the cell phone, looked at the display to check out the caller ID. Upon confirming it was me, she muted the ring and put the cell back into her purse. Can you believe this?
Barry showed much frustration as he speculated Ann and myself. She still hasn't noticed us yet, keep in mind. We discussed wether ?I should confront her in the restaurent now or mention it later. I had decided to confront her, right before we leave. The check eventually came and I paid with my Amex Blue which I got from AT Hotdeals. We put the jacket on and started to walk out, with me leading.
The plot thickens. Right by the door I stopped right directly in front of her and greeted her in a 'let's-see-how-you-react-friendly' voice. "Hey Ann, how's the food?" She was totally unaware of our presence and was occupied talking to her friends just until the greeting. "Oh my God" When her eyes immediately recognized me, her mouth just froze in an O shape. It was SO DRAMATIC, I thought we were playing a scene in a movie. She just sat like that for good solid 3 seconds. Her face turned beet red, stood up and said, "I am so sorry... I'm sorry" And gave me a hug and just repeated saying those words in utter shock. "I wasn't supposed to go out..." by this point I felt so bad for her at the sight of how much she made a fool out of herself. She's had what she deserved I thought and I just said, "Enjoy the food and I'll talk to you later ok?" before creating more awkward embarassing moments for her.
She replied ok then we left the restaurent. Needless to say all three of us were surprised at what just happened. I drove Barry home, talked a bit more regarding how I felt (which is shown below) and I am home now.
Lying. It is my biggest petpeeve. If she preferred to see other friends tonight, simply say so. I would've been totally fine with it. Instead, how she handled the situation to protect my feelings, ended up making a big baboon out of herself and really hurt my feelings which otherwise would've been totally fine. And it's not even this petty incident that's frustrating me, it is because I thought I knew her so well but I guess I did not. Only TIME proves relationships.
On the way driving home, I felt so... disgusted. There is no other word that could perfectly describe how I feel. Disgusted with friends and with Everyone, including MYSELF. We human beings are so.. insecure and such conformists. Our self-centered defense mechanism is just sickening. I couldn't shake that feeling. I wasn't just disgusted with Ann.. but just about with everyone... This event just freaked me out a bit how you think you know someone but you do not. We are so vulnerable to be hurt while we confide in others, as also very capable of hurting.
Why do we have to lie? I guess this event coupled with other things (this seriously compulsive liar chick I know) shook me up a bit. Even to the point I just don't even want to talk to my GF now. (Although things are Perfectly fine and is not related to this event at all).
I am just intimidated with every relationships in life. I am just disgusted with everyone, including my filthy self... *blech*
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