Hyper-Accelerating Relationships UPDATE: What no female opinion on this?

[Hammer]

Ever notice that when you spend a lot of time or when there is a limited time with someone, it tends to accelerate how fast the relationships develops or amplify the feelings involved in the relationship. For example, during spring break, alcohol aside, you can become very fond of a particular girl and spend a lot of time with them because with no work or other obligations there's not much else to do. Or if you go out with someone from work, you spend so much time together that you get settled awfully damn quick, quicker than you like or wanted. Anyone else feel that way?

 

[b0mbrman]

Definitely. I've noticed that with lots of relationships I've had (friendly, professional, romantic, etc.)

 

[NogginBoink]

Ever notice that this effect tends to be detrimental to the long term health of the relationship?

 

[MichaelD]

I agree. I think that a common "hole" that all men fall into is "The New Thing Syndrome."

You start a new relationship. Let's say the first few dates are non-sexual (as they should be). You enjoy each other's company and you want to see more of each other. Because it's NEW. There's always sexual attraction there and I believe that is the driving factor, whether you consciously think it or not. We are genetically programmed that way...at least I am.

I have been guilty of rushing into a relationship due to "The New Thing Syndrome." I'll be seeing a girl for a few weeks, prolly 2-3 nights a week and thinking "wow, what a great gal! I could really get used to this!"

So, I rush in and get all committed (literally and figuratively, LOL!) and then about 6 months later, it's like "waitadarnminutehere! She's ain't all that...and she's kinda bitchy too!"

You mentioned dating someone from work. Always a bad idea. I've done it. Twice. Shows you how smart I am. It's great at first. Very convenient, too! YOu can drive in together, go to lunch together, go home together...for a few months until you start having probs, then you HAVE to see each other at work, even if you're fighting. Not a good situation at all.

But, good luck, just the same!

 

[Flat]

Im in love with my girl!

 

[Hammer]

MichaelD: I do see your point. It's really is too damn convenient. No rearranging of schedules, being paid to spend time together . And she's very attractive, not b1tchy at all. I've known her for a bit as well. I think its worth the risk.

 

[Doggiedog]

Hammer, you setting us up for another title change?

 

[GISTechnician]

<< MichaelD: I do see your point. It's really is too damn convenient. No rearranging of schedules, being paid to spend time together . And she's very attractive, not b1tchy at all. I've known her for a bit as well. I think its worth the risk. >>



Just bite the bullet and ask her to move in with you.

 

[Hammer]

Nah, that was a one-time deal because you guys didn't think I was funny enough.


<< Hammer, you setting us up for another title change? >>



I'm defintely not there yet. I'm leaving for Cancun next Sunday, so hopefully after a week there for Spring Break, I'll be back to normal.


<< Just bite the bullet and ask her to move in with you. >>

 

[dirtboy]

I agree with you completely Hammer. It's just too bad the excitement of meeting someone new can't last the entire relationship.

 

[MichaelD]

<< It's just too bad the excitement of meeting someone new can't last the entire relationship. >>



My life story. I need "new sex" at least every other year. I must be mental or something.

 

[Hammer]

It's not just about it being a new relationship, its about spending a lot of time together in a realtively short period of time.

 

[gopunk]

<< It's not just about it being a new relationship, its about spending a lot of time together in a realtively short period of time. >>



yes, i know this effect... i was "dating" a girl for 5 months... nothing ever happened because we were both freaky busy... then we took a one month trip to china together... mmm...

 

[Hammer]

Its a very very bad effect.

 

[Eli]

I'm not quite sure exactly what you're saying, but I think I agree.. lol

My girlfriend currently lives about 236.7 miles away from me.. She's finishing this year of school before she moves down to Portland. It sucks being apart, but I definately notice that it makes the times that we do get to be with eachother just that much better.

She's comming down here for 9 days for Spring break.. Wooohoo...