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How would you react to this situation?

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BigToque

Lifer
I have a friend that I invited to come to a wedding social (a big party for the bride and groom). She told me at 10:00 PM that she decided she wasn't going to come because she wasn't feeling up to going to a party and wanted to stay home. I said that was alright because it had already been a long day with thanksgiving dinner that day.

After the party, I went to her house to say hi becasue I assumed she would still be awake. She wasn't home.

If she just decided at some point later in the night she felt like going out, she disrespected me by going out with other people after she said she wasn't going to go out with me to the party.

If she knew all along that she was going to go out with someone else then she lied to me.

This is my position and I want to know if you guys can point out other points of view I might take. I'm feeling upset right now.
 
Originally posted by: BigToque
I have a friend that I invited to come to a wedding social (a big party for the bride and groom). She told me at 10:00 PM that she decided she wasn't going to come because she wasn't feeling up to going to a party and wanted to stay home. I said that was alright because it had already been a long day with thanksgiving dinner that day.

After the party, I went to her house to say hi becasue I assumed she would still be awake. She wasn't home.

If she just decided at some point later in the night she felt like going out, she disrespected me by going out with other people after she said she wasn't going to go out with me to the party.

If she knew all along that she was going to go out with someone else then she lied to me.

This is my position and I want to know if you guys can point out other points of view I might take. I'm feeling upset right now.
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So she decided to do something else for the evening and didnt tell you about it? Why does she have to report to you?
 
Originally posted by: krunchykrome
Originally posted by: BigToque
I have a friend that I invited to come to a wedding social (a big party for the bride and groom). She told me at 10:00 PM that she decided she wasn't going to come because she wasn't feeling up to going to a party and wanted to stay home. I said that was alright because it had already been a long day with thanksgiving dinner that day.

After the party, I went to her house to say hi becasue I assumed she would still be awake. She wasn't home.

If she just decided at some point later in the night she felt like going out, she disrespected me by going out with other people after she said she wasn't going to go out with me to the party.

If she knew all along that she was going to go out with someone else then she lied to me.

This is my position and I want to know if you guys can point out other points of view I might take. I'm feeling upset right now.
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So she decided to do something else for the evening and didnt tell you about it? Why does she have to report to you?
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^^What he said...^^

*edit, not to be rude, but are you 16?
 
i would probably have forgotten it by now? 😕

unless i missed something, you waited almost a year to bring this up???? 😕
 
shrug who cares?

i would ask her about it. either way no big deal. just don't invite her to things anymore.
 
Originally posted by: krunchykrome
Originally posted by: BigToque
I have a friend that I invited to come to a wedding social (a big party for the bride and groom). She told me at 10:00 PM that she decided she wasn't going to come because she wasn't feeling up to going to a party and wanted to stay home. I said that was alright because it had already been a long day with thanksgiving dinner that day.

After the party, I went to her house to say hi becasue I assumed she would still be awake. She wasn't home.

If she just decided at some point later in the night she felt like going out, she disrespected me by going out with other people after she said she wasn't going to go out with me to the party.

If she knew all along that she was going to go out with someone else then she lied to me.

This is my position and I want to know if you guys can point out other points of view I might take. I'm feeling upset right now.
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So she decided to do something else for the evening and didnt tell you about it? Why does she have to report to you?
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She doesn't have to report to me. I'm upset becasue she said she didn't want to go out that night and then ended up going out with other people. You guys wouldn't feel upset or disrespected by that?
 
Yeah, I'd probably be a bit unhappy about it. But on the other hand, I'd take it as a reason to stop talking with her too. I don't waste my time on people who back out of social engagements for BS reasons repeatedly. I just stop bothering to invite them or try to make time to hang out with them.
 
Originally posted by: BigToque
Originally posted by: krunchykrome
Originally posted by: BigToque
I have a friend that I invited to come to a wedding social (a big party for the bride and groom). She told me at 10:00 PM that she decided she wasn't going to come because she wasn't feeling up to going to a party and wanted to stay home. I said that was alright because it had already been a long day with thanksgiving dinner that day.

After the party, I went to her house to say hi becasue I assumed she would still be awake. She wasn't home.

If she just decided at some point later in the night she felt like going out, she disrespected me by going out with other people after she said she wasn't going to go out with me to the party.

If she knew all along that she was going to go out with someone else then she lied to me.

This is my position and I want to know if you guys can point out other points of view I might take. I'm feeling upset right now.
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So she decided to do something else for the evening and didnt tell you about it? Why does she have to report to you?
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She doesn't have to report to me. I'm upset becasue she said she didn't want to go out that night and then ended up going out with other people. You guys wouldn't feel upset or disrespected by that?
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thats a lie. she did not say she did not want to go out. she said she did not want to go to a party. there is a diffrence.

 
Originally posted by: waggy
Originally posted by: BigToque
Originally posted by: krunchykrome
Originally posted by: BigToque
I have a friend that I invited to come to a wedding social (a big party for the bride and groom). She told me at 10:00 PM that she decided she wasn't going to come because she wasn't feeling up to going to a party and wanted to stay home. I said that was alright because it had already been a long day with thanksgiving dinner that day.

After the party, I went to her house to say hi becasue I assumed she would still be awake. She wasn't home.

If she just decided at some point later in the night she felt like going out, she disrespected me by going out with other people after she said she wasn't going to go out with me to the party.

If she knew all along that she was going to go out with someone else then she lied to me.

This is my position and I want to know if you guys can point out other points of view I might take. I'm feeling upset right now.
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So she decided to do something else for the evening and didnt tell you about it? Why does she have to report to you?
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She doesn't have to report to me. I'm upset becasue she said she didn't want to go out that night and then ended up going out with other people. You guys wouldn't feel upset or disrespected by that?
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thats a lie. she did not say she did not want to go out. she said she did not want to go to a party. there is a diffrence.
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It doesnt matter if she said she didnt want to go out or if she said she didnt want to go to the party. She can tell you whatever she wants and she can do what she pleases. If she told you she only drinks diet coke, and later you "stopped by her house" to say hi and found her drinking regular coke, does she owe you an apology for being over sensitive?
 
Originally posted by: krunchykrome
Originally posted by: waggy
Originally posted by: BigToque
Originally posted by: krunchykrome
Originally posted by: BigToque
I have a friend that I invited to come to a wedding social (a big party for the bride and groom). She told me at 10:00 PM that she decided she wasn't going to come because she wasn't feeling up to going to a party and wanted to stay home. I said that was alright because it had already been a long day with thanksgiving dinner that day.

After the party, I went to her house to say hi becasue I assumed she would still be awake. She wasn't home.

If she just decided at some point later in the night she felt like going out, she disrespected me by going out with other people after she said she wasn't going to go out with me to the party.

If she knew all along that she was going to go out with someone else then she lied to me.

This is my position and I want to know if you guys can point out other points of view I might take. I'm feeling upset right now.
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So she decided to do something else for the evening and didnt tell you about it? Why does she have to report to you?
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She doesn't have to report to me. I'm upset becasue she said she didn't want to go out that night and then ended up going out with other people. You guys wouldn't feel upset or disrespected by that?
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thats a lie. she did not say she did not want to go out. she said she did not want to go to a party. there is a diffrence.
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It doesnt matter if she said she didnt want to go out or if she said she didnt want to go to the party. She can tell you whatever she wants and she can do what she pleases. If she told you she only drinks diet coke, and later you "stopped by her house" to say hi and found her drinking regular coke, does she owe you an apology for being over sensitive?
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very true.

just it may be exactly what she said. she did not want to go to a party. I know i have passed up a few and gone out with a smaller group of friends.

I do think he is reading to much into it and trying to control her. it is going to end up bad if he confronts her heh.
 
Originally posted by: waggy
Originally posted by: BigToque
Originally posted by: krunchykrome
Originally posted by: BigToque
I have a friend that I invited to come to a wedding social (a big party for the bride and groom). She told me at 10:00 PM that she decided she wasn't going to come because she wasn't feeling up to going to a party and wanted to stay home. I said that was alright because it had already been a long day with thanksgiving dinner that day.

After the party, I went to her house to say hi becasue I assumed she would still be awake. She wasn't home.

If she just decided at some point later in the night she felt like going out, she disrespected me by going out with other people after she said she wasn't going to go out with me to the party.

If she knew all along that she was going to go out with someone else then she lied to me.

This is my position and I want to know if you guys can point out other points of view I might take. I'm feeling upset right now.
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So she decided to do something else for the evening and didnt tell you about it? Why does she have to report to you?
Click to expand...

She doesn't have to report to me. I'm upset becasue she said she didn't want to go out that night and then ended up going out with other people. You guys wouldn't feel upset or disrespected by that?
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thats a lie. she did not say she did not want to go out. she said she did not want to go to a party. there is a diffrence.
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Her exact words were that she didn't feel like going out and wanted to stay home to relax and watch a movie.
 
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