I been with my gf for almost an year now and I just found out my gf still talks to her ex bf. Talk as in they are still in contact not as talk to chitchat (not sure if this makes any difference). And she claims that I knew about it, so here I am saying WTF! What would a normal person do in this situation? Knowing the fact that most ATOTers will say to "drop the bitch." What are your takes?
How would you feel if your gf still talk to her ex bf??
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Homerboy
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Id have no problem with it.
In fact I still (occasionally) will talk to/email my highschool sweetheart and my wife gets POed over it... well maybe uncomfortable about it.
But you have to remember... you have her, he doesn't. Hell rub it in his face (politely of course). There is nothing to be nervous over... get some confidence man
In fact I still (occasionally) will talk to/email my highschool sweetheart and my wife gets POed over it... well maybe uncomfortable about it.
But you have to remember... you have her, he doesn't. Hell rub it in his face (politely of course). There is nothing to be nervous over... get some confidence man
It depends. If they were good friends for a long time before they dated, then I would expect them to have contact. But if she's holding onto him (hey, people do that, it's fvcked up but it's true), I'd be miffed.
Cheers!
Nate
Cheers!
Nate
They went out for 3 years. I spent everyday with her and I have every trust in her. But my trouble isn't the fact that she still keeps contact with him, but the fact that I just found this out now.
Depends. If he is still interested in her, then I might be alittle worried.
Also depends on the guy. They really might just be friends.
I'm still very good friends with on of my ex's. Its completely platonic.
So I wouldn't have a problem with a girlfriend who had a similar
situation.
However I might say something if he was still obviously interested
in her. However you don't want to come off sounding like a jealous
boyfriend.
Also depends on the guy. They really might just be friends.
I'm still very good friends with on of my ex's. Its completely platonic.
So I wouldn't have a problem with a girlfriend who had a similar
situation.
However I might say something if he was still obviously interested
in her. However you don't want to come off sounding like a jealous
boyfriend.
No, I think it's ok. I went out with my ex-boyfriend for about 3 years and I still keep in touch with him. Yeah, we're friends, and I care about for him, but the romantic part of our relationship is over. It was hard at the time to break up, but now I'm over and he's over it, and he was such a big part of my life at the time that it would be sad to just break off all contact with him. Even though we talk and I would now call him a "good" friend (it's been two years since we've been broken up), i don't feel inclined to tell him anything and everything or my personal details, I tell the person who I am closest to now. I wouldn't worry about it too much.
PingSpike
Lifer
- Feb 25, 2004
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More info required for judgement.
Define contact.
How did you not know about this for 1 year?
And...most importantly, how did their relationship end and who dumped who?
(If she says its none of your business, inform her it most certainly is since he is still a part of her life.)
...
This is why, when a girl dumps me, or I dump a girl I cut all ties and never speak to her again. No messy aftermath.
Define contact.
How did you not know about this for 1 year?
And...most importantly, how did their relationship end and who dumped who?
(If she says its none of your business, inform her it most certainly is since he is still a part of her life.)
...
This is why, when a girl dumps me, or I dump a girl I cut all ties and never speak to her again. No messy aftermath.
GasX
Lifer
- Feb 8, 2001
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I hang out with my fiance's ex all the time(one of them, anyway). It depends entirely on their relationship history. In this case, he is her brother's best friend and friendship was first and foremost the basis of the relationship.
Anyone previous BF falling into the "first love" or "relationship based on sex" categories shouldn't continue to play a role in her life. If they do, you are just asking for trouble....
Anyone previous BF falling into the "first love" or "relationship based on sex" categories shouldn't continue to play a role in her life. If they do, you are just asking for trouble....
I dunno, it depends on how they broke up, if they broke up on good terms then I would think it's ok, but I know people who broke up on bad terms, and they keep in contact and it only serves to create tension in their current relationship.
I dunno, its a case by case thing, no real right or wrong.
I dunno, its a case by case thing, no real right or wrong.
As other said, it really depends on what their relationship was prior to dating, and how they broke it off. I wouldn't worry about it too much from what you have told us, which isn't a whole lot.
My girlfriend used to talk to her Ex for a while when we first got together. I think i was able to win her over and show her how much better i was than he, and now, she hardly talks to him. So...in essence, you have her, you are better, you should have nothing to worry about!
I think it is just plain disrespectful and rude.
And she's been hiding this VERY important part of her life?
hmmmmm.
And she's been hiding this VERY important part of her life?
hmmmmm.
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