How would most women react to this?

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Martin

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Say someone is proposing, he asks the question, then presents two small boxes. In the first box is a beautiful diamond ring worth $5k, and in the second a ring worth ~$100 and a $5k cheque for the woman's favourite charity/cause. The man asks her to choose one of them (assume the ring can be returned).

Which would they pick? Would they be pissed off at the man for presenting this choice?

 
KeithTalent

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They would say it was sweet/thoughtful to his face then b!tch about it to all their girlfriends.
 
FoBoT

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they would tell him to go jump in the lake

i can't think of a woman that would like that

he'll be single forever
 
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Steve

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Never do that.

EDIT: That's basically holding a charity donation hostage on condition of her saying yes to choice #2, and even to marriage at all.
 
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brandonb

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With my past GF who I was serious with (and talked about engagement) she'd be pissed if I even presented the question of a choice. And would take the $5k ring. She had the attitude : "If I have to wear the ring the rest of my life, I want a good one, and I want others to see that you cared enough about me to spend alot of money on the ring."

On the other hand,

My sister in law told my brother to spend at the most $500 on a ring. That a ring is just a ring, and it doesn't matter in the how much is really spent... Engagement has more to do with love and family, etc, not a material "proof" on a finger that means anything. She is much more down to earth, and normal (as far as I'm concerned.)

So thats my 2 cents.
 
Leros

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Originally posted by: chuckywang
Simple economics: people can be more unhappy with more choices.
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So if a you get her no ring she will be infinitely happy?
 
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Bryophyte

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She'd be pissed that he's using an occasion like that as a way of testing her. He shouldn't propose if he seriously thinks about doing that. He seems to be testing to see how greedy she is, and it seems like it's a little late in the game to still be hung up on such a simple matter (he should know the answer to that question long before the proposal.)
 
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Bryophyte

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I personally wouldn't want a $5000 ring, and would rather save the cash for a downpayment on a house than give it to charity. I prefer to make my charitable donations as a reasonable, budgetted item, not a huge splurge for no real reason.
 
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joecool

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Q) What kind of a jerk would put the woman he supposedly loves and wants to spend the rest of his life with in that kind of position? Either a) she looks shallow and shelfish or b) she gets a really cheap ring. Shouldn't he talk about it with her before putting her on the spot like that?

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for the record, i didn't have this conversation with my wife. i knew i wanted to get her something spectacular, that would make her feel special whenever she looked at it. i went with a high-quality 1-carot emerald cut (i did ask her what cut she'd like). maybe we're shallow, but over 13 years of marriage we've given way more to charity than what that ring cost. so i guess if you want you can have the best of both worlds!
 
MotionMan

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Too bad he did not do a poll (with three options). Could have been one of the most lopsided polls ever (a. 0%, b. 0%, c. 100%).

MotionMan
 
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GCS

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Probably a little POed.

Now if you gave her the $100 with 5K in cash to do whatever she wanted then things might be different .. still POed but different.

When I got engaged about 13 years ago I bought the best I could afford. I spent a little over 1K at the time on a very nice ring (not great big but the quality VS1 I believe was very good). It was all I could afford (I was making just over minimum wage at the time).
She absolutely loved it. Its the biggest, baddest ring on the planet but its still nice and she is thrilled with it.

Over the past few years I have offered to have it "changed" to something fancier (ie different setting with more stones but include this one in it) but she has angrily shot that down. She wouldn't change a thing I am told constantly.

Recently her sister got engaged and her ring is quite large and impressive. My wife was quite enamored with it. It got me thinking about how it would have been nice to have given her something so nice as well all those years ago.

So now we have our 12 year anniversary coming up in March and well I went out and had an anniversary ring designed for her. Its much more extravagant than her engagement/wedding rings. I did this because she deserves it 1,000,000 times over and I feel its the least I can do. I think she will be pleased (better be). More than likely after she cries a bit I'll get the punch in the gut and told I shouldn't have. Then I will offer to take it back and get told ... not on your life!! LOL!

Anyway not mentioning this to brag but to be honest with you but I have tremendous wife and in all honesty she very well would have taken the $100 ring and 5K in charity because she is that kind of person. Her only question would have been as to whether or not I picked the ring out because I like it or the price .. ie did I put some thought into it, etc.

Sorry for the ramble.

Greg
 
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Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
New boyfriend behind door number 3
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ETA - Now that I think about it some more, I would choose the $100 ring and $5,000 for charity. I'd give the $5,000 to a friend who is in need of charity, dump the boyfriend, and get $2,500 back my friend. Then I'd give the ring to a homeless person so they can buy some booze.

But why any woman would need a $5,000 engagement ring is beyond me.
 
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