Think I might of found some of the info I was after
AIR-TO-AIR SYSTEM
The evaporator (outside the house) absorbs heat from the outside air, even when the temperature if as low as 20ºF because the
refrigerant within the evaporator is at a lower temperature. This unit is economical where winters are relatively mild and the average
temperature is above 25ºF. In climates where temperatures below 0ºF are common, auxiliary heat (electric, oil, gas or propane
system) is needed since the heat pump is not capable of carrying the entire heating load.
During periods of freezing temperatures, the outdoor evaporator fin coils become covered with ice and the heat pump goes into reverse
(cooling mode) and heat from the house is used to defrost the coils. This is accomplished by either a demand-defrost which uses
sensors or a time-temperature defrost which activates the defrost cycle at preset intervals when the temperature drops below a
specified level. During the defrost cycle, the auxiliary heat system is activated to warm the now cool air being provided in the house.
Still haven't been able to find much on how much they cost to run other than "they are extremely efficiant" from people wanting me to buy one

. I think it could probably handle our winters but I would want another heater or two for backup on those few really cold days. This is the second or third house I have looked at that had heatpumps so they must work ok here.