how to win friends and influence people

[brianmanahan]

has anyone here read that book and applied it to work/life/etc? i got it for christmas and am going to give it a try.

gotten through chapters 1 and 2 so far - be genuinely interested in people, and smile all the time. check, i think i can do that.

 

[HamburgerBoy]

be genuinely interested in people, and smile all the time. check, i think i can do that.

It's harder than it sounds.

 

[Sea Moose]

Santa thinks you have no friends and have no influence over anyone?

 

[mikegg]

After you read that, read 48 Laws of Power.

 

[noobsrevenge]

Santa thinks you have no friends and have no influence over anyone?

yea but most everyone on this forum could use that book, be nice =\

 

[SSSnail]

What? You mean how we're collectively acting on ATOT is not it?

 

[brianmanahan]

What? You mean how we're collectively acting on ATOT is not it?

based on what i read, it is pretty much the opposite of ATOT :hmm:

 

[manimal]

Listening properly will get you there. Smiling and being humble while letting your deeds do the talking.

If you become comfortable in your own skin people feel more at ease around you.

 

[luv2liv]

a lot of good tips from that book. i wish they were taught in school, at least in high school psychology class. learning biology is really useless in life.

 

[GagHalfrunt]

...be genuinely interested in people

People are not interesting enough for that to be possible. The interest must be faked, the trick is making it appear genuine.


I hope your work with the book goes well, it sounds like a noble project. (was that convincing?)

 

[IndyColtsFan]

I read it 15 or 16 years ago when an employer sent me to the Dale Carnegie course. I don't know what happened to my copy of the book (I think I loaned it out and never got it back), but it was a pretty good read.

 

[Maleficus]

The book is all pretty common sense stuff. That being said people don't do it, its definitely one of those harder than it sounds things because so much of it relies upon being genuine. Most of us can't even fake it long enough to have a shot at being genuine.

 

[lxskllr]

The book is all pretty common sense stuff. That being said people don't do it, its definitely one of those harder than it sounds things because so much of it relies upon being genuine. Most of us can't even fake it long enough to have a shot at being genuine.

Most of the general knowledge it takes to get through life is common sense if one gives it a bit of thought. Books like the op's are interesting because it compiles it in a single volume, and makes a good reminder of what common sense looks like.

For "genuinely interested" I think it's better to be true to yourself than fake genuineness. That means merely paying attention. It takes a special kind of person(sociopath usually) to really fake genuineness, and when it's done wrong, it comes off as smarmy, which is even worse than than having someone unenthusiastic about what you're saying.

 

[Kaido]

The book is all pretty common sense stuff. That being said people don't do it, its definitely one of those harder than it sounds things because so much of it relies upon being genuine. Most of us can't even fake it long enough to have a shot at being genuine.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UB8TCRUd9rA

 

[JulesMaximus]

I prefer the book 'Raising Gangsters for Fun and Profit'