how to tell someone my feelings

[huberm]

So I have this friend that I've been hanging out quite a bit with for 6 months. We really like each other, but the thing is I just can't let go of my ex-gf. I'm still in love with her and want to try and win her back.

Anyways, how can I tell her that we can never have a relationship without really hurting her? I really feel bad that I have to do this and I haven't slept well in a week. I know that she wants to have a relationship with me really bad and its going to hurt when I tell her I just can't do it.

Please help....

 

[kingtas]

Be honest and tell as soon as possible.

 

[Leros]

Just tell her, the longer you wait, the longer its going to hurt her.

 

[freakflag]

Are your feelings for your ex the only reason?

 

[huberm]

Originally posted by: freakflag
Are your feelings for your ex the only reason?

pretty much

 

[SmoochyTX]

Originally posted by: huberm
So I have this friend that I've been hanging out quite a bit with for 6 months. We really like each other, but the thing is I just can't let go of my ex-gf. I'm still in love with her and want to try and win her back.

Anyways, how can I tell her that we can never have a relationship without really hurting her? I really feel bad that I have to do this and I haven't slept well in a week. I know that she wants to have a relationship with me really bad and its going to hurt when I tell her I just can't do it.

Please help....

yOU FORGOT THE yagt IN THE TITLE

 

[Ika]

TTIWWP

so we can decide for you.

 

[thecrecarc]

TTIWWP

DANG, AFLAC BEAT ME TO IT!

 

[freakflag]

Why did you split with your ex?

 

[1sikbITCH]

:music: If you can't be with the one you love... honey, love the one you're with! :music:

 

[KarenMarie]

tell her how lucky you are to have her for a friend.

She might get the hint and you wont have to hurt her feelings at all.

Dont be all dramatic. That's our department.

 

[giantpinkbunnyhead]

Originally posted by: huberm

Originally posted by: freakflag
Are your feelings for your ex the only reason?

pretty much

You're gonna hate to hear this... but you gotta move on, my man. Hanging onto ex'es is fallacious and painful. You've got an opportunity that most "woe-is-me-I-miss-my-ex's" don't have. Your ex already moved on. That's them breaks.

 

[DrPizza]

I see another YAGT in your near future:
"I'm a complete idiot. I was with a girl I really liked, and she absolutely adored me, but I gave that up in an attempt to win back my old girlfriend. Now, I'm alone."

edit: that feeling of puppy love doesn't last forever. The friendship is the most important part of a relationship. If you ask 100 couples about to be wed, "why are you getting married?" 50% of them will answer, "because we love each other." A majority of those will end in divorce. Many of the rest will actually understand what marriage and life-time commitment mean.

 

[minendo]

Originally posted by: huberm

Originally posted by: freakflag
Are your feelings for your ex the only reason?

pretty much

You are an idiot. It will never work out with the ex.

 

[richardycc]

I bet your ex is hotter looking than this girl, thats why you cant let go of your ex, move on man, they are ex for a reason....

 

[RollWave]

get drunk with her and say it.

 

[huberm]

Originally posted by: rnp614
get drunk with her and say it.

neither of us drink but that would be a good idea

 

[PeeluckyDuckee]

Some things can't be helped, no matter how you approach it. Trust me. I'm on the receiving end right now. Let her down lightly and tell her to be honest to herself and to you and how she feels inside. Give her the chance to let things out a little, even if the outcome is nothing. Sometimes people just need to let things out and need you there to listen and they may feel better down the road.

It's not your fault. It's nobody's fault. Life just is sometimes.

 

[mrSHEiK124]

I can see a YAGT in the near future, huberm. Why'd you and your ex split up? Chances are she isn't worth it if she left you 6 months ago and doesn't seem to care, and you two will probably part ways the same exact way 6 months later. Go for the new girl, move on bro.

 

[desteffy]

Originally posted by: giantpinkbunnyhead

Originally posted by: huberm

Originally posted by: freakflag
Are your feelings for your ex the only reason?

pretty much

You're gonna hate to hear this... but you gotta move on, my man. Hanging onto ex'es is fallacious and painful. You've got an opportunity that most "woe-is-me-I-miss-my-ex's" don't have. Your ex already moved on. That's them breaks.

QFT

if you blow off this new girl down its likely down the road you'll still never get your ex back and feel stupid for letting that be a reason you push away this new girl.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: desteffy

Originally posted by: giantpinkbunnyhead

Originally posted by: huberm

Originally posted by: freakflag
Are your feelings for your ex the only reason?

pretty much

You're gonna hate to hear this... but you gotta move on, my man. Hanging onto ex'es is fallacious and painful. You've got an opportunity that most "woe-is-me-I-miss-my-ex's" don't have. Your ex already moved on. That's them breaks.

QFT

if you blow off this new girl down its likely down the road you'll still never get your ex back and feel stupid for letting that be a reason you push away this new girl.

Agreed.

 

[huberm]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: desteffy

Originally posted by: giantpinkbunnyhead

Originally posted by: huberm

Originally posted by: freakflag
Are your feelings for your ex the only reason?

pretty much

You're gonna hate to hear this... but you gotta move on, my man. Hanging onto ex'es is fallacious and painful. You've got an opportunity that most "woe-is-me-I-miss-my-ex's" don't have. Your ex already moved on. That's them breaks.

QFT

if you blow off this new girl down its likely down the road you'll still never get your ex back and feel stupid for letting that be a reason you push away this new girl.

Agreed.

its a little more complicated than that. I met this new girl under circumstances that will always remind me of the ex. If I were to pursue a relationship w/ her I fear I would never be able to get over my ex-gf completely. And under those circumstances, I don't think I would ever be able to fully provide for her needs in a relationship.

 

[mrrman]

Originally posted by: kingtas
Be honest and tell as soon as possible.

exactly

 

[mrSHEiK124]

Originally posted by: huberm

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: desteffy

Originally posted by: giantpinkbunnyhead

Originally posted by: huberm

Originally posted by: freakflag
Are your feelings for your ex the only reason?

pretty much

You're gonna hate to hear this... but you gotta move on, my man. Hanging onto ex'es is fallacious and painful. You've got an opportunity that most "woe-is-me-I-miss-my-ex's" don't have. Your ex already moved on. That's them breaks.

QFT

if you blow off this new girl down its likely down the road you'll still never get your ex back and feel stupid for letting that be a reason you push away this new girl.

Agreed.

its a little more complicated than that. I met this new girl under circumstances that will always remind me of the ex. If I were to pursue a relationship w/ her I fear I would never be able to get over my ex-gf completely. And under those circumstances, I don't think I would ever be able to fully provide for her needs in a relationship.

Well if you're going to be a nancy boy about it just go tell her now, don't string her along like that.

 

[Fenixgoon]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
tell her how lucky you are to have her for a friend.

She might get the hint and you wont have to hurt her feelings at all.

Dont be all dramatic. That's our department.

quoted for posterity! crazy women