How to piss off the wife in one easy step.

[SunnyD]

Originally posted by: Baked
You would have so much more vacation money if you wore condom.

Ooohhhhh zing!

Originally posted by: KK

Originally posted by: SunnyD

Originally posted by: KK
And that's were the logic is that if you can't afford them, don't have them. Not saying that the OP can't afford them, but it appears like he is having trouble keeping his finances in line.

Oh, and :camera:s for the second time.

Here is a lovely picture of a tree for you.

That must not be your family tree, or you aren't originally from alabama.

Correct on both counts.

 

[KK]

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: vi edit

Originally posted by: spidey07
Tell wifey wife to get a jobby job and then maybe you'll let her go on a trip. Until then you control the money and say what it is to be used for.

OP has 4 kids. Unless she's making like 60k+ a year it's not worth working to cover that daycare tab.

OK tell wife to get a job at a Daycare. Get money for watching your kids plus others.

My SiL did this for a while and even after leaving for another job still gets a discount.

You will still have to pay for your kids going to the day care if your wife works there. It may be a discount but with four kids it probably wouldn't be worth it for what they are paid.

 

[vi edit]

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: vi edit

Originally posted by: spidey07
Tell wifey wife to get a jobby job and then maybe you'll let her go on a trip. Until then you control the money and say what it is to be used for.

OP has 4 kids. Unless she's making like 60k+ a year it's not worth working to cover that daycare tab.

OK tell wife to get a job at a Daycare. Get money for watching your kids plus others.

My SiL did this for a while and even after leaving for another job still gets a discount.

The discounts most around here offer are like 15% off. 15% off a $3,000 tab a month when you are making $9 an hour just doesn't add up.

 

[Vette73]

Originally posted by: KK

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: vi edit

Originally posted by: spidey07
Tell wifey wife to get a jobby job and then maybe you'll let her go on a trip. Until then you control the money and say what it is to be used for.

OP has 4 kids. Unless she's making like 60k+ a year it's not worth working to cover that daycare tab.

OK tell wife to get a job at a Daycare. Get money for watching your kids plus others.

My SiL did this for a while and even after leaving for another job still gets a discount.

You will still have to pay for your kids going to the day care if your wife works there. It may be a discount but with four kids it probably wouldn't be worth it for what they are paid.

She got free, after getting certified for childcare, and then got paid on top of that.

 

[Gothgar]

wives are funny creatures

 

[dainthomas]

Originally posted by: Baked
You would have so much more vacation money if you wore condom.

People with tons of kids who have no money get no sympathy. My SIL had a great job at Costco that she quit when she kept popping kids out. Now they complain about having no money, and the only thing lower than my level of shock is my level of care.

 

[surfsatwerk]

Your wife is way out of line riding you about this trip. And she's being a total bitch by asking to go by herself when she knows money is tight.

 

[thegimp03]

Originally posted by: SunnyD

Her - "So let me as you this... how is it that we can afford for me to go, but we all can't go as a family?"

I would blow up if this was said to me. She obviously doesn't understand that taking 6 people on vacation (and you missing work) is A LOT more expensive than her going on vacation.

Does she have any idea what your monthly budget is? Telling her is much different than saving it on your computer in an excel file. If I were in your situation I would print that out, sit down, and have a talk with her about it when the kids aren't around.

 

[Nik]

Tell her to get her ass out and get a damn job to earn her own paycheck.

 

[dabuddha]

Originally posted by: SunnyD

Originally posted by: dabuddha

Originally posted by: SunnyD

Originally posted by: vi edit

Originally posted by: spidey07
Tell wifey wife to get a jobby job and then maybe you'll let her go on a trip. Until then you control the money and say what it is to be used for.

OP has 4 kids. Unless she's making like 60k+ a year it's not worth working to cover that daycare tab.

It really is amazing how few people understand this concept.

How the hell are we supposed to know how many kids you have?

I've only posted probably a couple dozen times recently that I feed a family of 6. Check out any of my cooking threads lately.

Good point, I do remember those threads. Given that, show her the back of your hand and tell her "Bitch, job!"

 

[SunnyD]

Originally posted by: Nik
Tell her to get her ass out and get a damn job to earn her own paycheck.

Okay okay... now I suppose I should mention - I firmly believe, and support her for being a stay at home mom. I know it's not for everybody, but I really feel bad for those kids out there who grow up in daycare (no offense to those out there that do this - but my opinion is that one of the parents should be willing to stay home with the kids).

Feel free to beat up on me for empowering this position.

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: SunnyD

Originally posted by: Nik
Tell her to get her ass out and get a damn job to earn her own paycheck.

Okay okay... now I suppose I should mention - I firmly believe, and support her for being a stay at home mom. I know it's not for everybody, but I really feel bad for those kids out there who grow up in daycare (no offense to those out there that do this - but my opinion is that one of the parents should be willing to stay home with the kids).

Feel free to beat up on me for empowering this position.

No, that's an awesome position. But as such you are the bread winner, you decide where that bread goes and for what. Hear that sound? It's your foot coming down.

 

[Kadarin]

Here's a related thread from L&R: http://forums.anandtech.com/me...=2306309&enterthread=y

Different people, different situation, but same type of behavior.

 

[MiataNC]

Originally posted by: surfsatwerk
Your wife is way out of line riding you about this trip. And she's being a total bitch by asking to go by herself when she knows money is tight.

Actually the wife is just following his "lead" or more correctly lack there of.

By not taking a stand (Stance of Dominance TM) and making it perfectly clear that finances would not permit the trip, he left it open as still possible. Is it her fault for asking him repeatedly if it was going to happen?

People spend far too much time trying to look good and not be a "jerk" that they end up doing just that by not telling it like it is and being up front.

 

[dainthomas]

Originally posted by: SunnyD

Originally posted by: Nik
Tell her to get her ass out and get a damn job to earn her own paycheck.

Okay okay... now I suppose I should mention - I firmly believe, and support her for being a stay at home mom. I know it's not for everybody, but I really feel bad for those kids out there who grow up in daycare (no offense to those out there that do this - but my opinion is that one of the parents should be willing to stay home with the kids).

Feel free to beat up on me for empowering this position.

OK. If she earned her own money she's have more respect for its value.

As far as growing up in a daycare, my aforementioned SIL's kids are complete hellions and would greatly benefit from a daily pummeling by other kids in a daycare. Not that yours are necessarily hellions.

 

[Jeff7181]

Originally posted by: Drako
Yeah, money issues are one of the leading cuases of divorce, right up there with adultery. Somehow you just have to work your way through these things if you can.

Maybe you should sit down with your wife and go over the budget and prioritize what each of you think is important. I know that helped me and the wife out.

Maybe he doesn't want her to find out how much he spends on his porn addiction?

*EDIT* Oh, and OP did it wrong... supposed to have one kid, wait until they're old enough to babysit, then pop out as many more as you want... free daycare.

 

[hanoverphist]

Originally posted by: surfsatwerk
Your wife is way out of line riding you about this trip. And she's being a total bitch by asking to go by herself when she knows money is tight.

youre looking at it from a guy perspective. from his point, money is keeping the family vacation from happening. from hers, she was trying to prove that he didnt want to go on vacation with her, since she was allowed to go alone. either way hes fucked.

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: SunnyD

Originally posted by: Nik
Tell her to get her ass out and get a damn job to earn her own paycheck.

Okay okay... now I suppose I should mention - I firmly believe, and support her for being a stay at home mom. I know it's not for everybody, but I really feel bad for those kids out there who grow up in daycare (no offense to those out there that do this - but my opinion is that one of the parents should be willing to stay home with the kids).

Feel free to beat up on me for empowering this position.

Nothing wrong with that. In fact, the mother and father can simply switch positions. She can get her ass out there, get a job, and earn the paycheck to support the entire family herself. THEN she can go on vacation.

 

[polarmystery]

Originally posted by: Gothgar
women are funny creatures

Fixed

 

[CKent]

There are no cliffs, other than the ones you jump off of.

I'll keep that in mind for if I ever get tricked into marriage :laugh:

 

[binxer]

Originally posted by: MiataNC

Originally posted by: surfsatwerk
Your wife is way out of line riding you about this trip. And she's being a total bitch by asking to go by herself when she knows money is tight.

Actually the wife is just following his "lead" or more correctly lack there of.

By not taking a stand (Stance of Dominance TM) and making it perfectly clear that finances would not permit the trip, he left it open as still possible. Is it her fault for asking him repeatedly if it was going to happen?

People spend far too much time trying to look good and not be a "jerk" that they end up doing just that by not telling it like it is and being up front.

My thoughts exactly. Be more clear about things and you'll stop hearing repeated questions you think are dumb.

 

[StageLeft]

Originally posted by: SunnyD
What was supposed to be a family vacation to go visit friends gets put off because of finances.

A brief synopsis of what transpires over the last couple weeks:
Her - "So when CAN we go?"
Me - "I have no idea, we have money going to bills out the ass."
Her - "What else is new. Does that mean we're not going?"
Me - "I have no idea."
Her - "Fine, we won't go then."

Fast forward to today:
Her - "So since we're not going, is there any way that I can go?"
Me - "Sure. Fine."
Her - "When can I go?"
Me - "Next paycheck at the earliest."
Her - "So let me as you this... how is it that we can afford for me to go, but we all can't go as a family?"
Me - "Because I'm tired of hearing about it because you won't just let it go."
Her - "Gee... thanks."

Cliffs:
There are no cliffs, other than the ones you jump off of.

I felt this. I really did. I think you did a great job with it and there's no way you made it up because this is exactly how women think. And how men think. And of course in the end you'll all end up going as a family, but you already knew that.

 

[oiprocs]

Holy shit I thought you were a girl.

You can cook!??!

 

[TallBill]

She's a woman. You're still wrong.

 

[SunnyD]

Originally posted by: scorpious
Holy shit I thought you were a girl.

You can cook!??!

Uh... duh? Ironic a good portion of popular chefs are male, isn't it?