You won't be able to tune your AF ratio on the fly, or even at all, with the ECU thats in your car.
You can, however, do some neat stuff. I was suprised when I opened this thread that noone here had an answer for you, its pretty common stuff. Then again, I am a bit of a car nut....
The first thing you should do is research a little on OBDII diagnostic systems. Determine if you have one (96 and newer, but if really new, I think CAN is the new protocol), and assuming you do, which kind. There are 3: one specific to ford, one to GM, and one to Chrysler (and most asian imports). There are some special ones for some euros like VW, and you might need an adapter for BMW and Mercedes, although BMW and mercedes use the ISO (chrysler) standard.
Next, take the type of OBDII system you have and search for that + code reader on ebay. I got an ISO (mom + sister have chrysler, I have a BMW, girlfriend has a Camry, dad + wife have hondas and mitsus, etc) since we have all chrys + world cars for $75. You don't want to get just a code reader, you want to get one that interfaces with the serial port on a laptop.
Software is free and plentiful for the ISO standard. I got digimoto lite (like that one), and it works pretty well. Scantool.net has a very small program that runs without a lot of memory (good for older laptops). Experiment with the ones you want.
Since it doesn't seem like you know much about the stuff, theres not much its going to be able to help you with out of the box. Its primary use is to monitor A/F ratios (O2 voltage), RPM, % engine load, fuel consumption, gear, degree advance/retard, etc, so its more of a diagnostic thing. Yes, it will also give you your gauges on the laptop screen, and it seems like thats the wow factor you're looking for.
As far as changing data, I would recommend you not try that. There are ways of flashing the ECU the same as you would any normal computer device, but the software is not easy to acquire (and I actually think you have to have different hardware, not just the reader. I might be wrong.) You can't change your AF ratio on the fly with anything I'm aware of.
If you get past that step, there are standalone engine management systems that you can run from your PC, but those are not for the average enthusiast. You want to learn about stuff like that, look up "Megasquirt". Cool stuff.
Looks like you lucked out and got a car guy on the geek board. Hope this helps you.