how to get over a long term relationship?

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So I've had a relationship with this girl for about 4 years and then we broke up and sorta tried working things out for about a year but it never worked out. I think she's been dating other guys and isn't being open with me so I know it's time for me to move on but it's just so hard with my given circumstances. I'm not very talkative so it's really hard for me to meet new people. I heard banging another girl usually helps but I think that's just a temporary quick fix.. If I can't even find a girl to date how likely will I find a girl to bang anyways? I'm not gonna go out and find a prostitute either. I still have feelings for her and the thought of her banging another dude is tearing me apart. We both did lose our virginity to each other so that may be why it's so hard to get over her. So what should I do to get over this? Any comments would be appreciated, thanks.

 

[dug777]

Obligatory ATOT 'Kill her with an axe and then bury her body under your cellar' response

Rly, you just have to get on with your life & meet neet new people

 

[Baked]

Draino.

 

[Josh123]

Friends dude......thats the only way.

 

[Paratus]

Time.

It's like being sick. It takes time to feel ok again.

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[ngvepforever2]

There you go( order doesn't matter)

Go out
Have fun
Stop torturing yourself with the thought that she is with another man.
Think of you before you think of her, this is a time where your priority must be you,you and only you.
Keep your mind off anything that has to do with her
Find a hobby
Start dating again
Remember, there are millions of fishes in the sea. You will find someone better someday.

Regards

ng

 

[sweetpea70512]

How about a real reponse; Get busy... I mean get real busy... at work or school or where ever. get involved in stuff you normally wouldn't. So you don't have time to even think. I resently had a similar problem. Threw myself into work, volunteared for all kinds of stuff. redecorated my house, redid my yard, took on a club at school (I'm a teacher) went to bed exhausted for a month. Then I meet someone else, cause I wasn't lookin.....thats how it works. Good luck I know it hurts but it will fade with time...sorry no quick fix

 

[NFS4]

Time to do dudes, dude!













j/k

Seriously. The only way to cure it is with time. Some special someone will eventually come along for you. But I understand what you're saying. After four years, you pretty much become intertwined. By then, you're already in with the family and become close to her family members and vice versa. It becomes very hard to get over that bond.

 

[y2kc]

work out, build some confidence. be methodical about it, make it a project. concentrate on you and make it a priority.

 

[The Stigenator]

since i have been there before.. let me say you are feeling down.. it took me a year and a half to completely get over things.. but teh first thing that helped (why didnt i do this before) is cut the bitch off completely.

then start making friends, doesnt matter where you live but make friends. Start going out. also read the tenets of leykis (google it).. it will atleast help you get laid if you do as it says.

it will take time.. since the cutt off its taken me 6 months.. so yeah.

It hurt me too when i found out she was banging other guys and on the other end stringing me along to make it work. What really hurt was teh lying.

cut yourself off.. cut teh excess fat, give yourself some love, do what you want to do.. and it will slowly come back. I have been there where you are now. I am doing so much better now, you have no idea. It will happen, give it time.

edit:

the reason she is moving on so fast, she was never in teh ****** relationship in teh first place.. she was emotionally out of it long before you guys broke up. She probably was creating issues just to make an excuse to break up.

women are evil, treat them like crap.