How to get girlfriend to go with you?

[absolu7]

any proven to work suggestions?

 

[jmcoreymv]

Find one that isnt a lazy ass couch potato?

 

[absolu7]

worthless post thanks.

 

[apac]

He's right, in a way. If she doesn't want to do it for herself there's no way she'll enjoy it or want to keep at it. lol this might be more of a L&R post than fitness .

 

[jmcoreymv]

Originally posted by: absolu7
worthless post thanks.

Well its going to be difficult to force someone into a lifestyle change they dont want to make.

 

[IceBergSLiM]

Tell them if they don't get in shape you can't be with them anymore. After some tears they will comply or leave. eitherway you win.

 

[CrazyShiz]

What worked for me is her finding a class she really liked. I lift the weights while she takes her belly-dancing class (NYSC rocks!).

 

[KoolDrew]

If you have to ask, you don't want her at the gym with you anyway.

 

[onlyCOpunk]

Does she need to go to the gym? Out of shape? Flabby? Could use a better body? If not why bother. If you like her the way she is let her do her own thing.

 

[spamsk8r]

Originally posted by: onlyCOpunk
Does she need to go to the gym? Out of shape? Flabby? Could use a better body? If not why bother. If you like her the way she is let her do her own thing.

Maybe she is thin but eats unhealthily and does not get much physical activity. Maybe he just wants her to be healthy. If you're thin you should still exercise. Everybody should exercise. Working out should be about fitness, and a good body should come as a result of good fitness, not the other way around. If a good body is preferred over everything else, then people are willing to do things that are dangerous and unhealthy. To me this is an unacceptable trade-off.

 

[spamsk8r]

To answer the poster's original question: You can't force it on her. And if you do, you can pretty much guarantee that she's never going to work out (at least not with you). Mention it here and there, let her see your progress. Maybe suggest that you two exercise together just for kicks (i.e. make it fun for her). Then if she catches the fitness bug she'll want to go more. Sometimes there's nothing you can do, though, and then you have to decide whether it's truly a big deal to you or not.

 

[HN]

next time she asks the "do i look fat" question, you answer "aww, honey, don't worry about it...i love you just the way you are."

 

[spamsk8r]

Originally posted by: HN
next time she asks the "do i look fat" question, you answer "aww, honey, don't worry about it...i love you just the way you are."

Ooh, that's a good slow burn

Don't know what the consequences of that would be, but it's pretty hilarious!

 

[paulxcook]

You can't change her, but if it bothers you the way she takes care of herself (or doesn't, as the case may be), you should be able to talk to her about it. Don't be an ass, of course. Have some tact and be nice about it, but if it bothers you now it'll probably only get worse the longer you're together.

This subject is kind of tricky since it has the potential to turn into her think you think she's a fat cow and hate her body. Assuming you don't feel that way, think about what you want to say and why it actually does bother you. If any women are reading, I'm sure they can provide some great perspective on this subject. Actually I remember reading a thread about this in L&R, you might try posting the same question there.

 

[jaedaliu]

Health works as a motivating factor. Lifting weights, medium impact sports will improve bone bank density and prevent osteoporosis in the future. Then there's blood pressure and arteriol build-up that gets reduced with exercise, but odds are your lady friend's not post-menopausal, so she's protected from those for now.

One thing that worked for me and my girlfriend was "I want people to check us out at the mall and go: damn, look at that hot couple" joking tone, of course.

Basically, what everyone else said is right. Look at why you want her to go, why she doesn't want to go, and see how philosophies line up for the 2 of you.

 

[TallBill]

I just asked my wife to come with me. She's hooked after just a few weeks and some progress.

 

[Bateluer]

What commercial was it where the guy is sitting on the couch and the wife comes in and asks if her dress makes her look fat, the guy, without looking away from the TV, says 'You . . . betcha." Then he gets this 'oh shit' look on his face. Cracked me up the first time I saw it. Can't remember what they were hawking though.

Back to the OP's question though. As others have said, its very hard to force an unwanted lifestyle change. I'd try get her to come try out a few classes at the gym, have her look at what is offered and see if there is anything she's interested in.

 

[ryan256]

Originally posted by: Bateluer
What commercial was it where the guy is sitting on the couch and the wife comes in and asks if her dress makes her look fat, the guy, without looking away from the TV, says 'You . . . betcha." Then he gets this 'oh shit' look on his face. Cracked me up the first time I saw it. Can't remember what they were hawking though.

Back to the OP's question though. As others have said, its very hard to force an unwanted lifestyle change. I'd try get her to come try out a few classes at the gym, have her look at what is offered and see if there is anything she's interested in.

The correct response is "No dear. Your butt makes you look fat."

 

[Scarpozzi]

It depends. Are we talking about YOUR girlfriend or someone else's?

 

[Mr Pickles]

Knock her ass out and drag here there. Put her on a machine and slap her with a wet wipe until she wakes up.