you dont need any kind of software to interface with anything... i have been messing with it and this is what i found. using a DMM, the voltage across the only two pins that are being used (the middle pair) is about 50 volts dc when there is no message. when there is a message, it pulses from about 50 to around 100-115 volts dc. the light is created by a single led. the voltage at the led pulses from 0 to 1 volt dc when there is a message. the only thing is that i cant get a current reading at either place to figure out what kind of resistors i need.
i acquired a little flasher that lights up when the phone rings about 2 years ago. that uses a small neon bulb to create the light, but it does not flash when there is a message....