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Locut0s

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The sad thing is the vocal beggars by and large really are the scammers, but because they are the squeaky wheel they get the money. If there's any consolation to be had though the really pushy ass hole beggars usually have short terrible lives. The only thing that money is feeding is their drug habit.

But I knew a number of really really decent homeless people back when I was working retail at 7-11 and they were never the ones to beg. Not usually anyway. I felt sorry for these guys as, of the street people, they were the most deserving but usually also the ones to live on the least. One guy in particular stands out in my memory. He was just like Kenny from southpark, wore layer upon layer of dirty coats and you could barely see his face. He was a small hunched over guy who had difficulty walking, I believe due to diabetes, and would just shuffle about from place to place. Story was his wife left him and he had some kind of massive mental break down, like all the fuses 'upstairs' simultaneously blew, and I don't doubt it from his behaviour. But a kinder gentler guy you could not meet, never asked for anything, never stole anything, hardly ever talked. He would ask permission to take free samplers and the like, and when he came into a store carrying a drink or something he would actually make a point of notifying the staff that he was walking in with something so they didn't think he was stealing. I remember he had some problems counting out correct change sometimes, again brain was kind of fried, and he always made it a point to pay correctly down to the last penny.
 

Vic Vega

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They didn't want food, they were interviewing you for a robbery. :)

You didn't pass, be thankfull, or your post would have been much different.
 
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Fausto

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They didn't want food, they were interviewing you for a robbery. :)

You didn't pass, be thankfull, or your post would have been much different.

This was broad daylight, on a busy corner, with several other people around me pumping gas, so I'm going to wager this was not the case.
 
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Guy asked me for money once. I told him I didn't carry cash. He replied (in a Eddie Murphy style laugh/voice) "I take Visa and Mastercard!". I laughed, so I went back to my truck, got all of the change from the console, and gave it to him. He earned it.
 

masterxfob

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i know someone that replies with "got change for a $100?" funny thing is that a lot of them actually do...
 

ichy

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I never give cash, but I try to be polite about it. 95% of panhandlers are pieces of shit, but on the off chance it's someone who's genuinely down on his luck I figure there's no need to be extra-dickish to him.
 

crownjules

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When I was working in downtown Boston, everyday near South Station for 4 years I would see the same fat beggar. We're talking easily 300lbs. He had an enormous gut. I would regularly see him drinking Starbuck's drinks as he sat there begging. Once he even had the audacity to swear at me and my friend as we passed him by and didn't give him anything.
 

alkemyst

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lol, once he said "he knew" he was safe because others were around I knew he gave his whole wallet away.
 
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That reminds me of the thing that bothers me most... when I see people asking for money by the side of the road, while talking on the cell phone.

I put unemployment towards paying for my cell bill.
I'll have my car insured in the next week so I can legally be back on the road.
My sign would say. "I went to college so I wouldn't be dealing with this shit."

Been on the streets for a week. Living out of my car. At McDonalds most of the time on my netbook for that free WiFi. Never buy shit though. Just get a cup for water.

Did have someone give me money the other day when I mentioned I was homeless. Didn't ask for it. Gave 'em my card, told 'em they need anything, let me know. I don't like receiving cash without first doing something to earn it.

Been putting up shit for sale on CL, but nobody has emailed for any interest.
If I could sell some of my expensive ass toys I'd be in the green. Just need the income to get a place.
 
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Locut0s

Lifer
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I put unemployment towards paying for my cell bill.
I'll have my car insured next week so I can be back on the road.
My sign says. "I went to college so I wouldn't be dealing with this shit."

Have you actually lived on the street as a homeless person?
 
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Have you actually lived on the street as a homeless person?

I'm trying to stay in my car for as long as I can bear the cold weather so as not to join the general population. No.
Usually only show up to shelter when they serving dinner.

Obvious why some are in that place. More worried about getting drunk, doing drugs & partying than focusing on working, priorities & shit.
 

Locut0s

Lifer
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I'm trying to stay in my car for as long as I can bear the cold weather so as not to join the general population. No.
Usually only show up to shelter when they serving dinner.

Damn sorry to hear that. How long have you been unemployed? I know from some of your previous posts in the past that you've had a storied past.
 
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June. Was just a 3-week bullshit temp to hire gig. I didn't have anything on my competition, who had 5 years of help desk experience. Yep.
My guy at Robert Half was supposed to have me something by 3 weeks after that, but fell through.
Ended up in psych ward for a week. Got kicked out mom's. Went to IN with my pop's. Wound up in jail a week later, for 3 weeks. My phone was blowing up during that week with leads & had several voicemails with leads & offers when was in jail.
Wasn't working out in IN & they were moving back here in Dec, only able to afford 1br, so I would ended up homeless anyway.
All places I went in looking for work gave me same old routine of "See door? Use it." Yep.
Been looking for work since back in area, but will increase my search radius soon as my car is insured again.
 

eits

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i was at a gas station one time and there was a dude who said, "excuse me, my car ran out of gas at the mcdonald's drive through next door. i had to spend my money getting gas and now i don't have enough to eat. can you please spare a couple bucks?"

i said, "sure, what do you want to eat?"

he said, "just a cheeseburger and coke."

i said, "ok, i'll go buy it for you and bring it back."

he said, "fuck it. nevermind. NEVERMIND!!! AARRRRGH!!!!" right in my face, turns around, and runs to his car while he smacks his head over and over again and drives off.



there was another time where some woman came up to me and said she was stranded at the pump and didn't have enough money for gas. i offered to pay for her gas at the pump since i don't carry any cash. she said, "know what? forget it. fuck you," got in her car and drove away.


junkies, man.
 

Locut0s

Lifer
Nov 28, 2001
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i was at a gas station one time and there was a dude who said, "excuse me, my car ran out of gas at the mcdonald's drive through next door. i had to spend my money getting gas and now i don't have enough to eat. can you please spare a couple bucks?"

i said, "sure, what do you want to eat?"

he said, "just a cheeseburger and coke."

i said, "ok, i'll go buy it for you and bring it back."

he said, "fuck it. nevermind. NEVERMIND!!! AARRRRGH!!!!" right in my face, turns around, and runs to his car while he smacks his head over and over again and drives off.



there was another time where some woman came up to me and said she was stranded at the pump and didn't have enough money for gas. i offered to pay for her gas at the pump since i don't carry any cash. she said, "know what? forget it. fuck you," got in her car and drove away.


junkies, man.

Yeah heard similar stories and personal examples many times. Also seen good examples though where people genuinely were just looking for the food.
 
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Locut0s

Lifer
Nov 28, 2001
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June. Was just a 3-week bullshit temp to hire gig. I didn't have anything on my competition, who had 5 years of help desk experience. Yep.
My guy at Robert Half was supposed to have me something by 3 weeks after that, but fell through.
Ended up in psych ward for a week. Got kicked out mom's. Went to IN with my pop's. Wound up in jail a week later, for 3 weeks. My phone was blowing up during that week with leads & had several voicemails with leads & offers when was in jail.
Wasn't working out in IN & they were moving back here in Dec, only able to afford 1br, so I would ended up homeless anyway.
All places I went in looking for work gave me same old routine of "See door? Use it." Yep.
Been looking for work since back in area, but will increase my search radius soon as my car is insured again.

Wow sorry to hear this. Hope things work out!
 

eits

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Yeah heard similar stores and personal examples many times. Also seen good examples though where people genuinely were just looking for the food.

same. i sat down and ate with some of the people who were asking for money for food. i told them that if i was going to buy their food, they'd have to sit and eat with me.
 

Harrod

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Just offer to buy them food at the nearest restaurant, you will find that if they are really in need that they will accept it, and if not they won't be able to come back with a good reply.

I've had this happen twice, because I don't carry cash, and both times they said they weren't really hungry and walked away.
 

Rastus

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Panhandlers don't like any answer that doesn't come with money. When I encounter one, I just turn away without saying anything. It's best not to feed the trolls.
 

shortylickens

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Panhandlers don't like any answer that doesn't come with money. When I encounter one, I just turn away without saying anything. It's best not to feed the trolls.

Realistically thats the safest. Its non-aggressive but also lets them know they arent getting anything from you.
If you engage in any conversation at all its like a fisherman who's seen a wiggle on his line, he wont leave it be.