How selfish am i for being reluctant to move into a $1700 a month apartment

[miri]

So the wife and i found a apartment we both liked so we reserved it. I noticed there were tons of kids everywhere which is weird because the current apartment we live at now which is only a few miles away has hardly any.

When I went home I did some research online and found out the complex and the building that our apartment is in houses govt assisted renters. This has really dampened my enthusiasm for the apartment but not my wife's.

How selfish am I being and how can I stop feeling this way? I've lived in low income areas before but that was when we we were paying a lot less in rent.

 

[Nik]

For 1700 a month for an apartment, I'd expect the superintendant to be a ridiculously hot girl-next-door that offered free BJs every day. Good lord, man.

For 1700/mo, you better be damn satisfied with the surroundings, including your neighbors. I would call your decision not to move in to be prudent, not selfish. I wouldn't either. Kids + crime = bad news.

Edit: A messican family just bought one of the houses on my street. Now, instead of a quiet neighborhood that I've lived in for 2.5 years, I have a noisy child-ridden street that I regularly have to move bikes out of. I'm getting really tired of moving kids toys out of the road, having to drive down the street at nearly-stopped speeds with my foot over the break because the one of the half dozen little bastards that lives in the house may shoot out in front of me from behind one of the now-EIGHT cars that house brought to the neighborhood. That's another thing. The street is so packed with cars it looks like a fucking junkyard. They leave their shit everywhere, are loud as all fucking hell, and I'm becoming significantly dissatisfied with my neighborhood.

 

[xanis]

I fail to see a problem here. As long as the apartment is nice and the kids you mentioned aren't annoying, what's the big deal?

 

[Mo0o]

Why would you be selfish. Doesnt affect anybody else whether you rent there or not.

 

[Chaotic42]

Don't feel bad at all. If you don't think you'll be happy there, don't move. There's no reason to be unhappy just because some drooling morons on the internet will think you're a bad person otherwise.

 

[sjwaste]

Honestly, it's your money, and if you're going to spend $1700/mo to live (assuming that's high for your area, that's avg/high-avg for a 1BR in my area) there's nothing wrong with going elsewhere.

Look at it objectively, and if you're still not comfortable, then subjectively walk away. Your money, your decision ("your" meaning you and your wife, of course). You don't have to spend a lot to live somewhere just because you feel bad that you might be offending someone, especially because you don't know anyone there and offense is a personal thing. It's not like you're knocking on their doors and telling them, "I won't spend $1700 to live near you people!"

 

[JS80]

Double bolt + keep a loaded gun ready at all times.

 

[IronWing]

Originally posted by: Nik
For 1700 a month for an apartment, I'd expect the superintendant to be a ridiculously hot girl-next-door that offered free BJs every day. Good lord, man.

For 1700/mo, you better be damn satisfied with the surroundings, including your neighbors. I would call your decision not to move in to be prudent, not selfish. I wouldn't either. Kids + crime = bad news.

Welcome to California.

OP, how does your wife feel about 24 hour/day police sirens and loud domestic discord? Run, don't walk, from section 8 housing.

 

[JS80]

Originally posted by: ironwing

Originally posted by: Nik
For 1700 a month for an apartment, I'd expect the superintendant to be a ridiculously hot girl-next-door that offered free BJs every day. Good lord, man.

For 1700/mo, you better be damn satisfied with the surroundings, including your neighbors. I would call your decision not to move in to be prudent, not selfish. I wouldn't either. Kids + crime = bad news.

Welcome to California.

OP, how does your wife feel about 24 hour/day police sirens and loud domestic discord? Run, don't walk, from section 8 housing.

++

OP, your job to punish the landlord for accepting section 8 housing to be developed. Do not move in.

 

[miri]

Well I really like the apartment and my wife does as well and she does not want to pick another place. I just have this uneasy feeling, I know i am being very selfish, living next to govt assisted renters.

 

[JS80]

Originally posted by: miri
Well I really like the apartment and my wife does as well and she does not want to pick another place. I just have this uneasy feeling, I know i am being very selfish, living next to govt assisted renters.

How is that selfish? They are the lazy fuckers that made poor choices in life. Fuck them!

 

[BoomerD]

I guess if the rent is comparable to other places in your area, it's fine. It seems like a lot of money for rent, but I understand that some areas have VERY high rents as compared to other places.
What do you feel guilty about? Taking an apartment that could be rented to a low-income family?

About 30 years ago, we rented an apartment in a complex that also had HUD rentals. Other than the over-abundance of Mexicans, it was fine.
Personally, since I don't like kids very much, I'd avoid any place that had lots of kids...

 

[xanis]

Originally posted by: miri
Well I really like the apartment and my wife does as well and she does not want to pick another place. I just have this uneasy feeling, I know i am being very selfish, living next to govt assisted renters.

Who the hell cares? You like it, your wife likes it. What's the problem?

 

[Capt Caveman]

Why don't you check out the place at different times of the day? Meet some of the renters? Maybe, that will help you and your wife feel more confident about your decision, either way?

 

[IronWing]

Originally posted by: miri
Well I really like the apartment and my wife does as well and she does not want to pick another place. I just have this uneasy feeling, I know i am being very selfish, living next to govt assisted renters.

Helping the downtrodden is well and good but don't live with them.

:music:
Love me, love me, I'm a liberal...
:music:

 

[BoomerD]

Originally posted by: Capt Caveman
Why don't you check out the place at different times of the day? Meet some of the renters? Maybe, that will help you and your wife feel more confident about your decision, either way?

Especially in the late evening when the dopers and alcoholics have woke up and are milling around like a bunch of cockroaches...

 

[miri]

What is making the decision even tougher is that i talked to the leasing office at our place and we can get a smaller 2 bedroom here for like $50 more a month which includes air conditioning, a garage and a washer and dryer. The $1700/month apartment does not have any of those. Wife doesnt want to back out of the original plan though.

 

[Vette73]

HELL NO!!! i would not live where section 8/Gov paid housing is.

Me and a old roommate in college would ask do you take section 8. If they said yes we left.

 

[Chaotic42]

Originally posted by: miri
What is making the decision even tougher is that i talked to the leasing office at our place and we can get a smaller 2 bedroom here for like $50 more a month which includes air conditioning, a garage and a washer and dryer. The $1700/month apartment does not have any of those. Wife doesnt want to back out of the original plan though.

Uh, I'd definitely take the $1750 apartment.

-AC
-Garage
-Washer/Dryer
-No Uneasy Feeling

Why does your wife like the $1700 apartment so much that the better equipped apartment doesn't appeal to her?

 

[blurredvision]

$1700/month? Damn, that more than double my mortgage plus escrow plus PMI. You gotta move out to the country, it's nicer out here .

 

[BoomerD]

Will it bother you to know that while you're paying $1700/mo, most of your neighbors are paying $250-$400? (Usually 20-35% of their income)

 

[miri]

Originally posted by: Chaotic42

Originally posted by: miri
What is making the decision even tougher is that i talked to the leasing office at our place and we can get a smaller 2 bedroom here for like $50 more a month which includes air conditioning, a garage and a washer and dryer. The $1700/month apartment does not have any of those. Wife doesnt want to back out of the original plan though.

Uh, I'd definitely take the $1750 apartment.

-AC
-Garage
-Washer/Dryer
-No Uneasy Feeling

Why does your wife like the $1700 apartment so much that the better equipped apartment doesn't appeal to her?

its a bigger 2 bedroom, closer to her work and is remodeled with granite counter tops. The apartments we live at now are pretty new though, built in 2003/2004.

 

[Capt Caveman]

Originally posted by: BoomerD

Originally posted by: Capt Caveman
Why don't you check out the place at different times of the day? Meet some of the renters? Maybe, that will help you and your wife feel more confident about your decision, either way?

Especially in the late evening when the dopers and alcoholics have woke up and are milling around like a bunch of cockroaches...

Not like that everywhere. A number of million dollar homes next door to subsidize housing in my town.

Originally posted by: BoomerD
Will it bother you to know that while you're paying $1700/mo, most of your neighbors are paying $250-$400? (Usually 20-35% of their income)

In my townhouse complex, there are a couple of subsidize units. Those folks probably paid a third of what I did. It does not bother me.

 

[darkswordsman17]

Originally posted by: Chaotic42

Originally posted by: miri
What is making the decision even tougher is that i talked to the leasing office at our place and we can get a smaller 2 bedroom here for like $50 more a month which includes air conditioning, a garage and a washer and dryer. The $1700/month apartment does not have any of those. Wife doesnt want to back out of the original plan though.

Uh, I'd definitely take the $1750 apartment.

-AC
-Garage
-Washer/Dryer
-No Uneasy Feeling

Why does your wife like the $1700 apartment so much that the better equipped apartment doesn't appeal to her?

Definitely.

Also, I don't think selfish is the right word to describe your position, OP.

Lastly, $1700 a month and its in low income housing? WTF?

 

[sjwaste]

Originally posted by: Marlin1975
HELL NO!!! i would not live where section 8/Gov paid housing is.

Me and a old roommate in college would ask do you take section 8. If they said yes we left.

Was this in Northern VA? I remember when my fiancee and I were looking at homes, and she found some really nice places along Columbia Pike. Problem was, they were on Columbia Pike. I don't need to be living in proximity of gang graffiti.