How quickly do you use terms of endearment with your SO?

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imported_Tomato

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Does it take a day... a week... a month... a year?

What terms of endearment do you use with your significant other? i.e. baby, honey, sweetheart, etc. What terms of endearment are you not comfortable with/would never use?

In my current (apparently super fast-forwarded) relationship, my "boyfriend" calls me "sweety", "sweetheart", and "girlfriend" already. (yes, he calls me girlfriend... as in, "Hi girlfriend" as an intro to an e-mail... different, yet strangely endearing). It's only been a week, and I can't quite bring myself to say them back to him because it feels a little forced/contrived. Maybe someday...
 
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pulse8

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On the second date with my girlfriend I called her, "Sperm Catcher."

Does that count?
 
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does "dirty skank", or "wassup beeatch" count as a term of endearment? ;)

Honestly it takes me a little while to use anything other than her name. I'd say 2 months

Btw: Did you choose Gabe, Kyle, or mystery guest #3?
 
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Originally posted by: Staley8
does "dirty skank", or "wassup beeatch" count as a term of endearment? ;)

Honestly it takes me a little while to use anything other than her name. I'd say 2 months

Btw: Did you choose Gabe, Kyle, or mystery guest #3?
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LOL... :p I suppose they kinda count... former terms of endearment between some of my female friends were "bitch-ass" and "ho-skank". And I empathize, it take me a little while longer to get used to anything other than their name, too... (I chose the 18 y/o :) although Gabe says give it a little while, and if it doesn't work, he'll still be avaiable)
 
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fs5

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so you're dating an 18 y/o? he must be thinkin' "score! suga mama!" and now wonder he's was quick to call you gf.
 
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Originally posted by: fivespeed5
so you're dating an 18 y/o? he must be thinkin' "score! suga mama!" and now wonder he's was quick to call you gf.
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LOL... if he's looking for a sugar mama, he's got the wrong woman. :p I do pay for things, though... I don't have much, but I willingly share with friends what I do have.
 
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"hi girlfriend"? that's the first time I've ever heard that used. It sounds awkward, like referring to yourself in the third person.

I call my chica "nyet" which is short for monkey (she was born in 1980), and occasionaly pumpkin (al bundy in da house ;))

edit: as for how long, I'd say somewhere in the range of a month or two.
 
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Originally posted by: isaacmacdonald
"hi girlfriend"? that's the first time I've ever heard that used. It sounds awkward, like referring to yourself in the third person.

I call my chica "nyet" which is short for monkey (she was born in 1980), and occasionaly pumpkin (al bundy in da house ;))
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How is "nyet" short for monkey? Cute, but I don't quite grasp the connection. Pumpkin is quite, and seasonally appropriate. :p

Yeah, I thought "girlfriend" was weird at first... I think he's just trying things out to see how they feel on his tongue. I would never call him "boyfriend". o_O
 
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Originally posted by: isaacmacdonald
"hi girlfriend"? that's the first time I've ever heard that used. It sounds awkward, like referring to yourself in the third person.

I call my chica "nyet" which is short for monkey (she was born in 1980), and occasionaly pumpkin (al bundy in da house ;))

edit: as for how long, I'd say somewhere in the range of a month or two.
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"hi girlfriend" is something i would expect valley girls to say to eachother.

not something a guy would say.

:confused:
 
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babe, baby, honey,

Not fond of using the word sweetheart, too cheesy and not me. Sounds far too forced from me so I don't use that.

Wasn't use to using words like these towards my gf at first. But she likes it and it is natural to me now. Wasn't when I started to see her. Btw she is about your age or half a year younger if I think you are 24yrs old that is.

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"In my current (apparently super fast-forwarded) relationship, my 'boyfriend' calls me 'sweety', 'sweetheart', and 'girlfriend' already. (yes, he calls me girlfriend... as in, 'Hi girlfriend' as an intro to an e-mail... different, yet strangely endearing). It's only been a week, and I can't quite bring myself to say them back to him because it feels a little forced/contrived. Maybe someday..."

There's no set rule, Dezign! Make sure you're comfortable before calling someone those nicknames. I made the mistake of calling someone that even though I wasn't comfortable . . . it wasn't coming naturally. It was pressure because the person was already addressing me that way. If I were to do things again, I wouldn't call anyone that name if I weren't comfortable. I try to get to know someone and feel them emotionally before calling them these nicks.

The lesson I learned is simple: If your supposed significant other is already comfortable with calling you those nicks at such early stage, but you aren't . . . it's not going to work. The reason is, you're at different levels. Your significant other is someone who rushes relationships. It's a bad habit to rush relationships, unless you actually intend it to be a really short relationship. However, if you do want your relationship to last, it's good to take it slowly. ("You" is used generically here.)

So take your time. The words will flow naturally if you feel it. If it never flows naturally, then maybe you really aren't emotionally meant for each other.
 
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I usually wait about three months. Usually she starts calling me nick names first. My favorite two are:

Askim (My Love.... In Turkish) or Mon Petit Chou (My little cabbage :p en francais)


:( nearing.... 2000... how long can I hold off till dec 26... :confused:
 
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Originally posted by: luvly
"In my current (apparently super fast-forwarded) relationship, my 'boyfriend' calls me 'sweety', 'sweetheart', and 'girlfriend' already. (yes, he calls me girlfriend... as in, 'Hi girlfriend' as an intro to an e-mail... different, yet strangely endearing). It's only been a week, and I can't quite bring myself to say them back to him because it feels a little forced/contrived. Maybe someday..."

There's no set rule, Dezign! Make sure you're comfortable before calling someone those nicknames. I made the mistake of calling someone that even though I wasn't comfortable . . . it wasn't coming naturally. It was pressure because the person was already addressing me that way. If I were to do things again, I wouldn't call anyone that name if I weren't comfortable. I try to get to know someone and feel them emotionally before calling them these nicks.

The lesson I learned is simple: If your supposed significant other is already comfortable with calling you those nicks at such early stage, but you aren't . . . it's not going to work. The reason is, you're at different levels. Your significant other is someone who rushes relationships. It's a bad habit to rush relationships, unless you actually intend it to be a really short relationship. However, if you do want your relationship to last, it's good to take it slowly. ("You" is used generically here.)

So take your time. The words will flow naturally if you feel it. If it never flows naturally, then maybe you really aren't emotionally meant for each other.
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Very thoughtful advice, thank you Luvly. :) We'll see where it goes from here, and I won't be pressured into returning the terms...
 
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