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How much does it cost to see a marriage counselor?

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Shockwave

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What do those guys get paid? I was wathcin Phil or what the hell ever as this guy gets paid to STATE THE OBVIOUS. I was like WTF?! THATS the job I want! How much do these guys make an hour?
 
IMO, if you have to see a marriage counselor, your relationship is already OVER. If you have to see someone to "help you work it out" that means you both are fcking pitiful and should be shot for even attempting to have a successful marriage. Buy a dog, build a cabin in the woods of Oregon and live off candlelight for the rest of your sad life. That's all your good for.

Not referring to you directly, Shockwave. That's just my opinion on "couples seeking help." Seek a lawyer and dump the bitch, you'll be better off in the end and less in debt for paying what amounts to a brick wall. That's all the counselor does. Listens to you both bitch. He/she tunes you BOTH out. Much like I did w/my ex and you do w/your wife. And she does w/you. Work it out in two weeks or less or END IT NOW.
 
Originally posted by: MichaelD
IMO, if you have to see a marriage counselor, your relationship is already OVER. If you have to see someone to "help you work it out" that means you both are fcking pitiful and should be shot for even attempting to have a successful marriage. Buy a dog, build a cabin in the woods of Oregon and live off candlelight for the rest of your sad life. That's all your good for.

Not referring to you directly, Shockwave. That's just my opinion on "couples seeking help." Seek a lawyer and dump the bitch, you'll be better off in the end and less in debt for paying what amounts to a brick wall. That's all the counselor does. Listens to you both bitch. He/she tunes you BOTH out. Much like I did w/my ex and you do w/your wife. And she does w/you. Work it out in two weeks or less or END IT NOW.
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Read the topic and you could have saved yourself some time 😉
 
Originally posted by: MrCodeDude
Originally posted by: MichaelD
IMO, if you have to see a marriage counselor, your relationship is already OVER. If you have to see someone to "help you work it out" that means you both are fcking pitiful and should be shot for even attempting to have a successful marriage. Buy a dog, build a cabin in the woods of Oregon and live off candlelight for the rest of your sad life. That's all your good for.

Not referring to you directly, Shockwave. That's just my opinion on "couples seeking help." Seek a lawyer and dump the bitch, you'll be better off in the end and less in debt for paying what amounts to a brick wall. That's all the counselor does. Listens to you both bitch. He/she tunes you BOTH out. Much like I did w/my ex and you do w/your wife. And she does w/you. Work it out in two weeks or less or END IT NOW.
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Read the topic and you could have saved yourself some time 😉
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Oh...I know. I read it. I just wanted to rant about something. I DO feel better though. Talking to my ex w/the busted PC earler just cheesed me off, man. :roll:
 
Originally posted by: MichaelD
IMO, if you have to see a marriage counselor, your relationship is already OVER. If you have to see someone to "help you work it out" that means you both are fcking pitiful and should be shot for even attempting to have a successful marriage. Buy a dog, build a cabin in the woods of Oregon and live off candlelight for the rest of your sad life. That's all your good for.

Not referring to you directly, Shockwave. That's just my opinion on "couples seeking help." Seek a lawyer and dump the bitch, you'll be better off in the end and less in debt for paying what amounts to a brick wall. That's all the counselor does. Listens to you both bitch. He/she tunes you BOTH out. Much like I did w/my ex and you do w/your wife. And she does w/you. Work it out in two weeks or less or END IT NOW.
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Man that must have been one evil b!tch.
 
All relationships start out great. Some end badly. Most end EVIL. No such thing as a "friendly breakup."

If you think you had a "friendly breakup" then you were never really in love to begin with. if you both just decide 'it's not worth getting upset over...we'll just walk away", then neither one of you was into it much.

Real love leaves gaping, festering wounds and promotes evil thoughts when it's over.
 
Originally posted by: MichaelD
IMO, if you have to see a marriage counselor, your relationship is already OVER. If you have to see someone to "help you work it out" that means you both are fcking pitiful and should be shot for even attempting to have a successful marriage. Buy a dog, build a cabin in the woods of Oregon and live off candlelight for the rest of your sad life. That's all your good for.

Not referring to you directly, Shockwave. That's just my opinion on "couples seeking help." Seek a lawyer and dump the bitch, you'll be better off in the end and less in debt for paying what amounts to a brick wall. That's all the counselor does. Listens to you both bitch. He/she tunes you BOTH out. Much like I did w/my ex and you do w/your wife. And she does w/you. Work it out in two weeks or less or END IT NOW.
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dude wtf. a lot of people just cant handle stuff very well, and talking with someone who has experience in the field can go a long way. just because two people have a hard time getting past certain issues does not mean its over. not sure what happened to you, but everyones situation is different.
 
Sorry, I have to agree with MichealD....if you need counseling the relationship is already over. It is kind of like slapping bondo over a rust hole....it will work for a while but eventually the cancer wins and the probelm is now worse.
 
Well, I've been thru stuff way too many times to waste my time anymore.

I don't give up easily, but when "it's time" then it's time. *gavel falls* Judgement rendered.

I refuse, yes, flat out REFUSE to go roundandroundandroundandround with any woman anymore. Differences are what make us unique individuals; but when you just can't live w/my differences or vice-versa, then it's time for you to make like a bananna and split.
 
M en the wife have our problems, yes. WE work through them together. In fact we just talked last night about some of our problems and got it all worked out.
*I* want a new job. I either wanna fly (Cant, bad eyes), be a marine biologist (Hard to do in Kansas) or sit aorund and listen to just how sh1tty some peoples lives really are.

Now, which of those 3 do you think I'll be most qualified for?
 
Oh.

You want to BE a marriage counselor? Well, I think you need at least a BA/BS in something...probably a MA to make the big bucks.

Hell, there are thousands of weak people that would pay you big bucks to listen to them bitch about their alcoholic husbands/frigid wives! :evil:
 
Originally posted by: Ronstang
Sorry, I have to agree with MichealD....if you need counseling the relationship is already over. It is kind of like slapping bondo over a rust hole....it will work for a while but eventually the cancer wins and the probelm is now worse.
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That's probably about the best analogy I've yet to hear. And most accurate...
 
I thought about this myself 😀 if I can listen to all my friends' problems and nod and shake my head at the proper times, why not get paid for it?

States vary in what kind of regulations they have. I'm sure that's to keep out the riffraff like us. Here in NJ, for example
Any applicant seeking a license to practice marriage or family therapy must pass an examination and prove to the Board that he/she is at least 21 years old, of good moral character, and has not engaged in any practice or conduct in violation of the Board's rules and regulations.

Applicants must have a minimum of a master's degree in marriage and family therapy, a master's degree in social work, or equivalent course work content and training to a master's degree in marriage and family therapy (measured by a curriculum specified in the Board's regulations) from a regionally accredited institution. The basic experiential requirement is five years of full-time therapy, two of which must be in supervised marriage and family therapy. Detailed information on the requirements for licensure can be found in the statute (N.J.S.A. 45:8B-1 et seq.)
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However, you can legally counsel people if you are, say, a minister - and you can get that thru the mail if you want.

If this stuff appeals to you, you can get a lot of money by becoming a life coach. No boring license requirements, no regulations, just charge people a lot of money to coach their lives. People actually do this.
 
Originally posted by: MichaelD
All relationships start out great. Some end badly. Most end EVIL. No such thing as a "friendly breakup."

If you think you had a "friendly breakup" then you were never really in love to begin with. if you both just decide 'it's not worth getting upset over...we'll just walk away", then neither one of you was into it much.

Real love leaves gaping, festering wounds and promotes evil thoughts when it's over.
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You're so romantic :heart:.

My guess is that in a minority of cases a marriage counselor does have an overwhelming positive effect on a marriage, such that an otherwise doomed marriage is now worth having. But, I've no doubt at all that in most cases if you need to see a counselor you're just putting off the inevitable. Most people do not change very much, and although most of us can see the mistakes we make and pledge to do better, in most cases we just won't. That's human nature. Generally if you need a counselor you should give up, and 99% of the cases if you are going to try a separation first just stop kidding yourselves and sign the divorce papers already.

There would be less marriage problems - in fact less marriages - if people would go out for longer first, and when a relationship is getting really rocky just terminate it instead of keeping it on out of habit, which is what a great many do. Then they get married. Then churn out a couple of crotch dumplings. Then later get divorced and then their kids will probably just repeat the pattern.
 
Originally posted by: Skoorb
Originally posted by: MichaelD
All relationships start out great. Some end badly. Most end EVIL. No such thing as a "friendly breakup."

If you think you had a "friendly breakup" then you were never really in love to begin with. if you both just decide 'it's not worth getting upset over...we'll just walk away", then neither one of you was into it much.

Real love leaves gaping, festering wounds and promotes evil thoughts when it's over.
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You're so romantic :heart:.

My guess is that in a minority of cases a marriage counselor does have an overwhelming positive effect on a marriage, such that an otherwise doomed marriage is now worth having. But, I've no doubt at all that in most cases if you need to see a counselor you're just putting off the inevitable. Most people do not change very much, and although most of us can see the mistakes we make and pledge to do better, in most cases we just won't. That's human nature. Generally if you need a counselor you should give up, and 99% of the cases if you are going to try a separation first just stop kidding yourselves and sign the divorce papers already.

There would be less marriage problems - in fact less marriages - if people would go out for longer first, and when a relationship is getting really rocky just terminate it instead of keeping it on out of habit, which is what a great many do. Then they get married. Then churn out a couple of crotch dumplings. Then later get divorced and then their kids will probably just repeat the pattern.
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Crotch dumplings!

AHAHAHHAH!
 
Why not become a bartender? They do the same thing (not the good pay) but you may enjoy it. I missed my calling as a psychologist. Not that I just sit there and state the obvious but sometimes the obvious needs to be stated.

Of the three choices you stated (without knowing anything about your background) I would say you are not qualified for any. Each requires schooling (I'm assuming you don't have the schooling in any of those). If you can go back to school, full-time or part-time more power to you! That's wonderful! You may be happier in the long run, in turn making your wife happier and you won't need MichaelD's lawyer. 🙂 But you can also try to look at what you are doing now in a differ way.

Either way, good luck.

Oh, and you can't just walk into a deal like Dr. Phil, MAYBE you can get an Oprah type job but Dr Phil is basically a god to many women these days. Reasons I won't get into for fear of flaming high heal shoes flying my way!
 
My experience with a marriage counselor was not pretty. Turns our my wife (now ex) had an unhappy childhood and that we needed to buy a horse to make her happy. I sh*t you not!!! During that period I was willing to do anything to save our marriage.

Well, the horse did not make her happy - turns out it takes a lot of work to have a horse (duh!!!). Oh - and a lot of money too...
 
Originally posted by: Bowmaster
My experience with a marriage counselor was not pretty. Turns our my wife (now ex) had an unhappy childhood and that we needed to buy a horse to make her happy. I sh*t you not!!! During that period I was willing to do anything to save our marriage.

Well, the horse did not make her happy - turns out it takes a lot of work to have a horse (duh!!!). Oh - and a lot of money too...
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Reminds me of Lisa Simpson
 
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