how much do you fight with your gf/bf/significant other?

[dxkj]

Originally posted by: thahenchman
i fight with my g/f all the time. is this normal?

i love her, but the fighting has become ridiculous lately. she picks fights ever 2-3 days about nothing, and then i get the cold treatment. i guess we have different communication styles. we've been together for almost 2 years and didn't fight for the first year, but now they're so bad i don't know what to do.

is this normal? i don't know what to do. i don't want to give up on us, but i've been so stressed and unhappy lately because of all our fights.

Run away!!! I dated girls like that. It was always an effort and a ton of work just to spend time with each other in the end.


My wife and I never really fight. We have some clashes but they never turn into arguments, usually just misunderstandings or us being in bad moods.

Only 2 years married so far but it is great.

 

[alkemyst]

usually once each g/f I have, once they recover they kinda lose the desire to argue after that.

Nothing says "I love you about being concerned about my speeding" more then kicking them out the passenger door at 100mph.

:beer:

Fighting all the time and saying one is in 'love' is a lie you make to yourself.

Fighting never and saying one is in 'love' more than likely they don't live together or one person is the whipping boy.

 

[scsi drv1]

I believe that fighting is the true nature of man-kind. Without internal and welll as external conflict the universe itself would not exist. In other words, yeah my ex-girl and I still fight alot after splitting. I guess its a way of letting the other person know that you care enough for their opinion to matter.

If you can only acknowledge the good of a relationship then its probably one-sided.

 

[AdamSnow]

We hardly ever "fight" but we do disagree and debate a lot... but it's all good... We have fun doing it too, so it works out best for both of us

 

[sourceninja]

My soon to be wife (2 weeks) and I do not fight. We used to, but I taught her that I am not telepathic. Once we worked that out, everything is fine. She comes to me with issues and explains them and then we work for a solution.

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: thahenchman
i fight with my g/f all the time. is this normal?

i love her, but the fighting has become ridiculous lately. she picks fights ever 2-3 days about nothing, and then i get the cold treatment. i guess we have different communication styles. we've been together for almost 2 years and didn't fight for the first year, but now they're so bad i don't know what to do.

is this normal? i don't know what to do. i don't want to give up on us, but i've been so stressed and unhappy lately because of all our fights.

Hate to tell you this man, but I think I married your gf....

yeah, it's getting ridiculous here as well.

 

[Rudee]

My gf is my workout partner at the gym and It's not good for my health to have her pissed off at me when I have 315lbs of iron over my head.

 

[sonambulo]

Originally posted by: Cleaner
Married 5 1/2 years, dated for 6 years before that. Fight very rarely. Much more in the beginnings of our marriage. We were dirt poor and that was the main cause of our arguments. She's a money nazi and I'm a carefree spender. It took a long time for use to reach a middle ground. Its helps that we have a fair amount of surplus money now.

All things change over time. Make up a budget and stick to it.

wait a minute anawmaw?!?! queercakes, you said you were rich (many, many times).

wait, thats right. you're full of siht.


anyways, what's this about fighting rarely? remember that time you came into the channel crying and moaning about your inevitable divorce? must have been too drunk on amstel lights to remember.

make up a story and stick to it.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Every 28 days. When her friend comes to town.

- M4H

 

[dderidex]

For the first few years of marriage, I would have said we never fought, either.

But, then, I defined "fighting" as the type of blow-up-nearly-come-to-blows you see on TV.

Which we still have never done - indeed, I've never even raised my voice at her before. (It's rather not in my nature)

But, in retrospect...oh, we definitely "fight". Heated arguments abound - of course, about money (what else is there to fight about?), finances, properties, careers, etc.

Not much you can do about that - she's female, and will continue to have unrealistic expectations about reality and strive for a perfect fantasy world. As a male, I will continue to devote myself to trying to provide that for her, and, of course, as reality intrudes, fail to do so.

 

[deejayshakur]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Every 28 days. When her friend comes to town.

- M4H

wow, isn't that a chinese phrase? or am i being too sino-centric?

 

[Electric Amish]

Rarely.

 

[yobarman]

Relationship: 6 months
Fights: 0

 

[desteffy]

I have been dating my girlfriend for over a year and we have yet to fight. We spend tons of time together too, we just get along really well.

 

[thomsbrain]

i've been with my gf for about 4 months and we have yet to fight.

 

[shimsham]

my wife and i rarely fight anymore. weve fought once since we bought our home 2.5 years ago, and that was about 6mos after we moved in. of course we dont agree on every little thing ever, but weve learned not to argue about stupid shat. its just pointless.

we fought a good bit when we first moved in together about 10yrs ago, but thats because we were young and immature, and it takes time to adjust to the change from dating to full blown sharing your whole life together. we also believe that her being on the pill had a lot to do with it. after we had our second child, i got snipped and she stopped taking the pill. since then, its really been smooth as glass. has your girl changed her bc script recently, perhaps?

just because 2 people fight a lot doesnt mean the relationship is a failure or youre crazy. of course you can fight too much, but i know couples who fight like cats and dogs but have great relationships. i also know couples who never say a cross word to each other and are miserable as hell. as long as the 2 involved are honest to themselves and each other, its just a matter of loving each other and being happy, fights or no.

not to preach, but age really chills people out, and youll find if you guys stick together, chances are youll fight less and less as the years move on and you learn more and more about yourself and your partner. its just part of the process.

 

[Paulson]

Not too darn much, we're both pretty sarcastic so we get pissed at each other doing that once in a while but other than that we've only had a few fights in a year

 

[Geekbabe]

We don't fight much at all, he's much too big to fight with

 

[jamesbond007]

Originally posted by: DivideBYZero
Been with my current GF for 6 months. No fights yet

9 months here...none to count! for you and a for me!

Cheers! :beer:

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Every 28 days. When her friend comes to town.

- M4H

Oh, Aunt Flow? (Family Guy reference)

 

[DrPizza]

wife: virtually never.
Occasionally argue when I get on her nerves...
That usually follows harrassing her to no end for hitting a curb while going around the corner (driving)

As a result, I drive everywhere.

 

[Lumathix]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Every 28 days. When her friend comes to town.

- M4H

I hear ya brother. :beer: