how much do you fight with your gf/bf/significant other?

[thahenchman]

i fight with my g/f all the time. is this normal?

i love her, but the fighting has become ridiculous lately. she picks fights ever 2-3 days about nothing, and then i get the cold treatment. i guess we have different communication styles. we've been together for almost 2 years and didn't fight for the first year, but now they're so bad i don't know what to do.

is this normal? i don't know what to do. i don't want to give up on us, but i've been so stressed and unhappy lately because of all our fights.

 

[Megatomic]

I rarely fight with my wife. In the past if we argued it was over the kids and money. Now the kids are older and the finances are solid so we spend more time talking and less time arguing. :heart:

 

[thahenchman]

Originally posted by: Megatomic
I rarely fight with my wife. In the past if we argued it was over the kids and money. Now the kids are older and the finances are solid so we spend more time talking and less time arguing. :heart:

that's good to hear. we fight a lot about money, we don't have much and times are tough. i'm pretty absent-minded sometimes and last night i forgot to move my car to the other side of the street for street cleaning. this morning i found a damn parking ticket on my car for $55 and when my g/f found out about it she got really stressed and wouldn't talk to me for an hour. and then when she did, she snapped at me for being so forgetful. i apologized and said i'd pay for it, and she was still angry for the rest of the day. i know we don't have much money but damn, there's more to life than it.

 

[Landroval]

rarely and never for long. but we both try to note problems as they arise and talk about it, instead of letting them fester.

 

[dug777]

not much except for at sulky time

 

[Quasmo]

Its hard to fight your own hand.

 

[chuckywang]

My left hand hasn't slapped me in a long time.

 

[thahenchman]

Originally posted by: Landroval
rarely and never for long. but we both try to note problems as they arise and talk about it, instead of letting them fester.

how old are both of you?

we note problems as they arise too, it's just that problems have been arising more and more lately.

 

[Quasmo]

Originally posted by: chuckywang
My left hand hasn't slapped me in a long time.

Yeah I broke my right arm so now I've learned to control my left in times of need

 

[nageov3t]

I've never fought very much with my SO's.

only one really serious fight that I can remember with someone I dated in high school. it was a fight about religion and ended with me telling him that god is totally indifferent and apathetic to his existance, so he shouldn't waste his time with church

I guess two men can come to a mutal understanding a lot easier than a man and a woman.

 

[Landroval]

Originally posted by: thahenchman

Originally posted by: Landroval
rarely and never for long. but we both try to note problems as they arise and talk about it, instead of letting them fester.

how old are both of you?

we note problems as they arise too, it's just that problems have been arising more and more lately.

30s. Over time we have both leanred to compromise and have certain roles to assist with each other's weak points. I attribute it mostly to a lack of competition between us -- both sincerely want to help each other, so it's easy to forgive when something goes wrong.

edit: we have been together about 12 years

 

[SearchMaster]

Originally posted by: Megatomic
I rarely fight with my wife. In the past if we argued it was over the kids and money. Now the kids are older and the finances are solid so we spend more time talking and less time arguing. :heart:

Sounds like me and my wife. We never really argued that much to begin with, and even less now - I'd say 3 or 4 times a year, usually just when we're both really tired. I never would have married a woman who didn't let things roll off her back anyway, and my wife is pretty easy going (for a chick ).

 

[calisoldier83]

Damn I don't even have a GF. I argue with my ex-gf she shows up where ever I go and tries to get on all my guy friends. I dont even acknowledge her and she'll bring that up and start bitching. Everyone hates her. Drama ho!

 

[YOyoYOhowsDAjello]

3 years and 2 days later and we've never had a fight. Sometimes a little irritated tone with each other, but we've never raised our voices at each other.

(I'm 21, she's 20)

 

[Megatomic]

Originally posted by: thahenchman

Originally posted by: Megatomic
I rarely fight with my wife. In the past if we argued it was over the kids and money. Now the kids are older and the finances are solid so we spend more time talking and less time arguing. :heart:

that's good to hear. we fight a lot about money, we don't have much and times are tough. i'm pretty absent-minded sometimes and last night i forgot to move my car to the other side of the street for street cleaning. this morning i found a damn parking ticket on my car for $55 and when my g/f found out about it she got really stressed and wouldn't talk to me for an hour. and then when she did, she snapped at me for being so forgetful. i apologized and said i'd pay for it, and she was still angry for the rest of the day. i know we don't have much money but damn, there's more to life than it.

Now, I do have to admit that in the 14 years that we've been married we've come close to callling it quits a few times, and we've had some really bad arguements. But over time we've grown up and many of our bigger problems have been dealt with. Just give yourselves time and don't throw in the towel prematurely. You'll both have to come to grips with each others' quirks for this to work properly of course.

Originally posted by: Quasmo

Originally posted by: chuckywang
My left hand hasn't slapped me in a long time.

Yeah I broke my right arm so now I've learned to control my left in times of need

LoL

 

[Adica]

Sometimes we have disagreements, but we never fight.
It's always over within 5 minutes.

 

[Mucho]

I rarely fight with my gf I try to keep my cynicism and self doubt in check when I am around her. The thing I have come to realized is that she is more mature and emotionally stable than me so I usually give her the benefit of the doubt.

 

[DaTT]

Not often.....when I get pissed at her, I bottle it all up inside. One day I'm just gonna lose it. Watch for me in the news.

 

[Quasmo]

Originally posted by: DaTT
Not often.....when I get pissed at her, I bottle it all up inside. One day I'm just gonna lose it. Watch for me in the news.

BAM ZIP Staright to the moon

 

[shilala]

The wife and I have a fullblown fight about once every other month. They're pretty tame anymore though. Nothing's gotten broke for a long time.
We bicker in spurts.
Bottom line here...
I have to worry more about her than I do about myself. When I do, she likes me more and worries more about me. WHen we're both worrying more about each other, things are pretty damn awesome.

 

[StageLeft]

i fight with my g/f all the time. is this normal?

Yes, because most people aren't very good at relationships.

To answer your question: once in a blue moon. In ten years she's "screamed" at me once, maybe twice.

 

[shilala]

Originally posted by: Skoorb

i fight with my g/f all the time. is this normal?

Yes, because most people aren't very good at relationships.

To answer your question: once in a blue moon. In ten years she's "screamed" at me once, maybe twice.

What'd you do?

 

[ohtwell]

We used to fight a lot, but in the last few years our fighting has decreased tremendously. We probably fight, where we really yell at each other, once every few months, if even that often.


: ) Amanda

 

[TwinkleToes77]

My husband and I have had very few fights, but when we do they are doozies.

 

[Conky]

My GF seems to be picking fights lately. I think she thinks we don't fight enough or whatever. I wish she'd cut that out.