How many ppl are in/have been in interracial relationships?

[NJArtist]

How did it work out? Did the parents accept it? Did your friends accept it? Did people stare?

I know that my friend (muslim) has yet to tell his parents that he's dating a hindu....it's sad.

My mom is cool about it tho...she's pretty open minded and says "happiness is the most important thing".

For me personally, I never noticed people staring, but my girlfriend always noticed it...I guess even in this day and age inter-racial/ethnic/religious relationships are still a little bit odd, and (dare I say it) taboo.

 

<< I know that my friend (muslim) has yet to tell his parents that he's dating a hindu >>


Seems more &quot;interreligious&quot; to me.

I went out with a lovely girl from bangladesh.
My parents are down with whatever, so no friction there.

And most of the time was spent in toronto, so there was not much social friction at all.

 

[Ulfwald]

There is far too much going on in the world for me too care weather or not people are of different races. If they love one another, who am I too judge? If they are not hurting any one, why should i get upset? Leave them to theselves.

 

[kassy]

Yep, Hubby is Japanese and I am a paleface.
It took my Father some time to accept it, although part of that was also the fact that Hubby and Mum are about the same age.
My take on it is, if people have a problem with it, its their problem not mine.

 

[xchangx]

I'm a korean guy dating a white girl. We've had no problems at all, and we've been at it for 3 years. She lives in a small city in Alabama and when I visit, there's I think only 2 asian people in the whole city. Ha! My parents are ok about it, but I know that they think I'll forget about my asian heritage. I've actually had a conversation with my girl's mom, and she doesn't consider us as an inter-racial couple.


Chang

 

[TripleJ]

I dunno about you but I find it hard to distinguish between races. I suppose I did go out with someone from a different race. Me, an Australian of English(anglo-saxon with a little polish and russian ancestory) decent went out with an Australian born girl who's parents came from Greece and Macedonia when they were children. Nobody batted an eyelid. She was just a regular, smart, good-looking girl. Make your own mind on that one.

 

[NJArtist]

You know what sucks is the crazy stuff happening in the Middle East, and that whole region in general (if you think about it, all that fighting basically boils down to race/ethnicity/religion/whatever stupid thing)...why can't we all just get along?

 

[gopunk]

um, well i've dated a white girl (i'm asian).... and a half asian, if that counts my parents know i'm not going to marry anybody at this point so i don't think they really care. well that and white and half asian isn't too far from asian. i have a feeling it'd be different if i dated a black girl. i don't know if people stared... if it was i think it would be more for what i was doing or saying than what skin color we were. then again i live in seattle... pretty liberal up here...

njartist, what races are you and your girl (or ex girl)?

 

[CattyKathy]

most of my relationships or the guys that I've dated aren't the same race as me (I'm Chinese btw) and I don't really see people staring at all

edit: also my mom doesn't care what race it is for who I date, she's said that &quot;it's YOU that's gonna get married and it's YOU that's gonna fall in love with that person, so it doesn't bother me as long as they treat you well&quot; well said mom

 

[gopunk]

<< You know what sucks is the crazy stuff happening in the Middle East, and that whole region in general (if you think about it, all that fighting basically boils down to race/ethnicity/religion/whatever stupid thing)...why can't we all just get along? >>


lol, because we're stubborn sobs

 

[NJArtist]

man, I can't even imagine living where everyday my life is in danger simply cuz I believe something different than you...I think if these guys would just stop fighting and realize how silly it is, everybody would be for the better...someone go smack em all

 

[gopunk]

yea i know, but i guess it's different since they've been fighting for generations. it's hard to stop when your family has lost blood to the other side. i dunno, i just thank god i'm not over there.

 

[CattyKathy]

Oh yea, my grandma told me this one time when we were talking, she said that if I ever marry a Japanese guy, she said that then there's no more grandma/granddaughter relationship between us... (cuz of WWII)

yikes:Q

 

[NJArtist]

I find it distrubing that most japanese kids don't learn about what happened during WWII (it was actually only a small period of a much longer war, but still). The japanese shouldn't shield the next generation from their mistakes and war crimes...what's the point?

 

[gopunk]

lol, funny grandmother eh kathy? understandable though, it's like if a jew married a relative of a nazi. i don't think that'd go over too well, do you?

 

[gopunk]

<< I find it distrubing that most japanese kids don't learn about what happened during WWII (it was actually only a small period of a much longer war, but still). The japanese shouldn't shield the next generation from their mistakes and war crimes...what's the point? >>


ah well, as long as they don't grow up feeling superior and entitled, i'm happy. don't the germans do a good job of anti-nazi stuff? maybe it's the guilt...

 

[Blayze]

I haven't been in a interracial relationship.
I doubt I would have any problem with one. Why worry with race if your happy.
My parents would probably have a problem with it, as would most of my family.
Growing up in the &quot;south&quot; sucks

 

[CattyKathy]

<< lol, funny grandmother eh kathy? understandable though, it's like if a jew married a relative of a nazi. i don't think that'd go over too well, do you? >>

yea, funny I guess, cuz at that time when she told me, I was going out with this half Japanese half Chinese guy, you think that would pass and she'll be cool with it?

Edit: I mean, why should it matter anyways, cuz they should forgive since it was their generation and our generation is different than theirs

 

[gopunk]

yea, funny I guess, cuz at that time when she told me, I was going out with this half Japanese half Chinese guy, you think that would pass and she'll be cool with it?

hmm... i dunno... do you think that might of been why she brought it up? just a little warning?

Edit: I mean, why should it matter anyways, cuz they should forgive since it was their generation and our generation is different than theirs

well yea i agree... but... i have to honestly say that if i lived in china when the japanese came and killed and raped everybody (i'm assuming your grandmother was in china during ww2), i think i would hate them for just about the rest of my life. might not be right, but i really think a traumatic event like that would cause me to hate them.

 

[CattyKathy]

<< yea, funny I guess, cuz at that time when she told me, I was going out with this half Japanese half Chinese guy, you think that would pass and she'll be cool with it?

hmm... i dunno... do you think that might of been why she brought it up? just a little warning?
>>

Nah, she doesn't know anything about me and guys, she was just saying that, only my cousins and brother knows about my personal life... yea I guess that if I was at that time, WWII, I'd hate what the Japanese have done to the women.

 

[BurntKooshie]

It worked out fine between myself (half chinese, quarter french, quarter Italian) and a Brazilian. Only problem was that she was an exchange student at the time, and was required to go back to Brazil :-\

 

[ace31216]

I'm not in one but I have seen my share of interracial relationships. I think it's cool but aren't there cultural differences when interacting with their family and friends?

 

[NJArtist]

Yeah, I took my gf to a Chinese New Year party...she was probably like one of 4 non-Chinese people there out of like 100+ people! Talk about sticking out!

She complains sometimes bout people talking in Chinese around her cuz she doesn't know what the hell they're saying and hopes it's not about her.

It's cool tho, she decided to take a Chinese (language) class at her college, I really thought she went the extra step and love her that much more for it.

BTW: she think's its cute when she speaks Chinese, I think it's funny

 

[Argo]

<< How many ppl are in/have been in interracial relationships? >>




I've had sex with a marsian before. Damn, their girls are easy.

 

[obiwaynekenobi]

I don't see a reason why there should be a conflict with interraical relationships. it's not up to the parents.

no matter the color love is a univsersal language that everyone should be able to understand.