SearchMaster
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- Jun 6, 2002
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I have three kids and I've loved every minute of it. I always loved kids and it was never a question for me...at family gatherings I'm the one goofing around with nieces and nephews.47, married, no kids, and completely by choice. I have zero regrets and I think I'd slit my wrists if weekends revolved around endless soccer games for Billy, music lessons for little Susie, and all that stuff, along with practices through the week.
Regardless of all of that, I'd like to hear from the childless married folks about how their families reacted. My family was 100% fine with my decision, while my wife's family poked and prodded for years until they finally got the picture that we were dead serious. My MIL went as far as calling us selfish, which is the dumbest and most illogical thing I've heard but unfortunately, seems to be the insult of choice towards people like us. After calling us "selfish," her very next comment was literally "Who is going to take care of you when you're old?" I'm so glad she showed us how "selfless" her intentions were.
But I absolutely respect people's right to choose their own path in life and I have no idea why there are people who think like your MIL. I know they want grandbabies but it's almost like they think you made the decision on a whim and didn't consider all the implications - there's no way anyone can be in a better position to make that decision than the people directly involved in it, right?
My wife came from a pretty messed up home life tbh. She has three siblings who chose not to have kids and two who did. My wife is an above average parent, her brother is an average parent, and her sister has kids in a pretty abusive household. Ironically one of her sisters who chose not to have kids would have been a great parent and her husband would have been even better (he's phenomenal with kids) but they are very passionate about their business and exploring the world and there's no question that kids would have put a serious damper on both.