how many of u never kissed a girl? been on a date? gotten laid?

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imported_Lothar

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Originally posted by: Mr Pickles
Originally posted by: Lothar
Originally posted by: Aikouka
Originally posted by: Lothar
Now that I'm done with school, it may be time for me to start looking and I accept that it will be harder now since I'm now in the real world(working).
It almost feels like I'm being pressured by my mom now.

It isn't really harder. You actually have a steady job now and are established. Well, as long as you're not living with ol' mum. That seems to be a bit of a turn-off.

Also, about the nerdiest of nerds getting laid. It sure is easy not to when you spend all your time playing World of Warcraft like someone I know <_< >_>.

It's harder in that work is 8hrs a day, go home tired straight to sleep after work, less chance of meeting people, not seeing people you've been used to seeing almost everyday, etc...

I'm no longer in DC since I'm done with school now, and I'm now back in the suburbs at home browsing ATOT and studying for my board exam simultaneously.

Yes, I'm living with mom.
I see no reason for me to dump money into the trash by paying rent when work is just 20 mins drive away.
I also see no reason for me to buy my own house at the moment since I'm single(not to mention I don't have the down payment for it).
When I'm ready to start my family or get married or change job that might require it, I'll buy a house.

I find that I spend less and less time playing video games every year, which is a good thing I guess.
Gone are the days of Starcraft, UT Classic, and Diablo II Hell Baal/cow runs in HS and Undergrad. Man...I miss those days.
I wouldn't even touch WoW if someone gave it to me for free. I heard that thing is like crack.
Never tried it, never will.

Dude, you're hands down the most stereotypical loser I think I've ever witnessed. They make movies about people like you, bro. This is great. Thanks for the laughs.

What exactly was stereotypical about my post? :roll:
 

imported_Lothar

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Originally posted by: Jeff7
Originally posted by: BlahBlahYouToo
Originally posted by: Mr Pickles

Dude, you're hands down the most stereotypical loser I think I've ever witnessed. They make movies about people like you, bro. This is great. Thanks for the laughs.

does it make you feel better about yourself? seriously...
And Lothar probably knows where pickles come from.

Not from Cucumbers.
Cucumbers have more class than that guy.
 

Shadow Conception

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Mar 19, 2006
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I've never, and I'm 15. I've a lot of friends, but I've pretty much no luck with girls. Self-esteem is low around girls, and shyness breaks through like a monster.
 

clamum

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Originally posted by: Shadow Conception
I've never, and I'm 15. I've a lot of friends, but I've pretty much no luck with girls. Self-esteem is low around girls, and shyness breaks through like a monster.
STRAIGHT UP GROM
 

cdmccool

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Try dating someone below your "level" to build up confidence, and work on your social skills. Practice makes perfect!

Fear of rejection tends to disappear when it's someone you would never want a real relationship with.
 

imported_Imp

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Originally posted by: cdmccool
Try dating someone below your "level" to build up confidence, and work on your social skills. Practice makes perfect!

Fear of rejection tends to disappear when it's someone you would never want a real relationship with.

Usery... not a bad idea.
 

pontifex

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i've been on dates but i've never kissed a girl, well except for in like kindergarten or 1st grade, lol.

i'm shy, even around friends plus i have low self esteem, so the mixture is just a crash and burn type thing.
 

lucasorion

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Jun 15, 2005
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Originally posted by: alkemyst

so you just hang out together because she hates you?

It's clear you need to REALLY reevaluate your perceptions.

Also ABSOLFUCKINGLUTELY never assume or project thoughts into a woman's head. You are not a woman, they think very very differently than men and are easily swayed by situation over logic.

We were spending some time together before she started to date this other guy - but we have barely interacted in the last 6 months, since I found out. If she was dating almost any other single guy at the office, I wouldn't be so sure that we weren't well suited for each other, but this guy is such a bland aryan ideal type, that I don't feel like I'm missing out on such a great opportunity - for fun (outside of the sack) or anything more meaningful. The only problem is that she is still the most attractive woman I've ever laid eyes on, and I see her every day.
 

E equals MC2

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Apr 16, 2006
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Originally posted by: loki8481
had sex with 2 girls ("gf" in highschool, friend in college). it was weird and I don't plan on doing it again.

kinda still feel bad about the first (the whole relationship was really just a clusterfuck), but the second knew what she was getting into (she was like, "I'm horny" and I was all "what the hell, maybe it'll be different the second time with someone more experienced.")

girls are weird and squishy, definitely not for me.

UMMMMMMMMMMM... did you guys all miss out on this gem?????
 
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Originally posted by: E equals MC2
Originally posted by: loki8481
had sex with 2 girls ("gf" in highschool, friend in college). it was weird and I don't plan on doing it again.

kinda still feel bad about the first (the whole relationship was really just a clusterfuck), but the second knew what she was getting into (she was like, "I'm horny" and I was all "what the hell, maybe it'll be different the second time with someone more experienced.")

girls are weird and squishy, definitely not for me.

UMMMMMMMMMMM... did you guys all miss out on this gem?????

That isn't anything new IIRC.
 

rocadelpunk

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Jul 23, 2001
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Originally posted by: m1ldslide1
Originally posted by: Fmr12B
Originally posted by: pontifex
Originally posted by: Fmr12B
You guys are unbelievable.

There is nothing more important than chicks for guys aged 14-17, how any of you passed through that critical 4yr timeframe without getting to at least 2nd base is beyond me.

I think you're a little off on your age range. should be more like 14-death.

anyway, no one ever said it wasn't important that i've seen in this thread. its not easy for some people, for many reasons.

14 - death sure, but once you get busy with a full time job and proceed to have expensive hobbies/habits, money tends to reign supreme with lots of people and chasing tail becomes a close second in importance.


I don't understand any of the reasons, if I was 25 and had been dateless I would:

Hire a life-coach
get a gym membership
get plastic surgery
get a perscription to an anti-anxiety drug like Xanax, Paxil, Klonopin or ........
hire a craigslist hooker
get a toupee, plugs, or a membership to the Hair Club for Men
hire a personal stylist
go into debt buying designer clothing, shoes, car to boost self confidence
hire a maid to clean my bachelor pad
move out of my parents house
get a hobby other than video-games & anime
become religous and meet a nice church girl
stop denying the fact I might be gay and try switch-hitting

Best post yet. :thumbsup:

If you want it but don't have it, then you're effin' lazy.


Two thumbs up
 

lucasorion

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Jun 15, 2005
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Why would anyone lie about this? I would say it is like bragging about having a disability, but a disability is nothing to be embarrassed about or ashamed of - our social failures are completely on us. I'm in a support group for people with social anxiety, etc. and I haven't really even explicitly admitted that I'm a virgin, because of the stigma attached to such a colossal failure to fit into this world.
 

ultimatebob

Lifer
Jul 1, 2001
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Originally posted by: pontifex
i've been on dates but i've never kissed a girl, well except for in like kindergarten or 1st grade, lol.

i'm shy, even around friends plus i have low self esteem, so the mixture is just a crash and burn type thing.

Bah... I'm a lot like you, and even I somehow ended up with a girlfriend for awhile. I'm by no means a relationship expert, but my advice would be to:

1) Get out more
2) Keep looking for a woman you have something in common with... you'll stumble upon one eventually.
3) Alcohol. Drink more of it with your friends, and definitely more of it with your dates :) More alcohol = less shy!
 

atybimf

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Sep 17, 2005
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talking, kissing, being on a date, and having a gf at age 13
sex with a girl at age 16
loved a gf at age 16
 

thepd7

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Jan 2, 2005
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Originally posted by: alkemyst
everyone is a player here or openly admits they are a virgin (but had 'several opportunities' not to me)...unfortunately many of these players come to L&R only to ask retarded questions any dude that has been with a chick would know.

I am through 2 marriages, 4 financees. Couldn't list every girl I dated, nor even give you names of half the chicks I slept with. It's been a work in progress over the last 22 years. I started at around 6 or 7ish...but after getting my ass beat for fitting a jar's worth of BB's into my little girlfriend I didn't think messing with girls was worth it for about half a decade :)

financees? Is that like someone you paid to marry you?

And are you checking every person's posting history? How do you know all the players are going to L&R?
 

StormRider

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45 years old and never been on a date nor kissed a girl. Although, when I was in kindergarden a girl kissed me on the cheek once. Only when I was nearing 30 and still in graduate school did I feel I had a friendship with a girl. Before that I was pretty much invisible around girls but this girl was super nice and outgoing and actually made me feel almost "socially normal". I haven't formed any other friendships with women after her. I am still a virgin and will probably die a virgin. I have super low self esteem because:

1) I have a really small penis
2) I grew up with messages from media/hollywood/society that I as an asian man was the least desirable of all men. This has changed a lot now. Now I feel that being asian is not an impediment.
3) I felt I was "invisible" -- I got weird signals that I wasn't normal. Like when my family would visit family friends or relatives my aunts and uncles would always tease my younger brothers about "Do you have a girlfriend?" but ignore me. I remember wondering, "Is there something wrong with me? What's going on?"
4) My parents did things (like expecting me to always to there to help out in the restaurant -- they never made any attempt to hire anybody so I could have the freedom to pursue my life) that almost made me think they didn't want me to have friends or a social life. I used to think this was so I would always be there to take care of them. In other words, I thought they just thought of me as a helper but didn't care about my happiness.

So, it was like the perfect storm that prevented me from having the courage to try and form a relationship with any woman. I had personal self-esteem issues about my penis size. Society told me that asian men weren't desirable. My Chinese up-bringing discouraged me from having non-Chinese girlfriends -- since I was raised in an all-white environment this was basically the same as saying, "no girlfriend for you". And I got these weird signals throughout my life that I wasn't normal (I was ignored while family/friends/relatives would question my younger brothers about whether they have girlfriends etc.) all my life that really lowered my self-esteem. Kinda weird.

Now I find myself avoiding social situations or small talk at work because I don't want my co-workers to discover my complete lack of a social life. I really do not feel comfortable around people in non-work situations.
 

JJChicken

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Originally posted by: StormRider
45 years old and never been on a date nor kissed a girl. Although, when I was in kindergarden a girl kissed me on the cheek once. Only when I was nearing 30 and still in graduate school did I feel I had a friendship with a girl. Before that I was pretty much invisible around girls but this girl was super nice and outgoing and actually made me feel almost "socially normal". I haven't formed any other friendships with women after her. I am still a virgin and will probably die a virgin. I have super low self esteem because:

1) I have a really small penis
2) I grew up with messages from media/hollywood/society that I as an asian man was the least desirable of all men. This has changed a lot now. Now I feel that being asian is not an impediment.
3) I felt I was "invisible" -- I got weird signals that I wasn't normal. Like when my family would visit family friends or relatives my aunts and uncles would always tease my younger brothers about "Do you have a girlfriend?" but ignore me. I remember wondering, "Is there something wrong with me? What's going on?"
4) My parents did things (like expecting me to always to there to help out in the restaurant -- they never made any attempt to hire anybody so I could have the freedom to pursue my life) that almost made me think they didn't want me to have friends or a social life. I used to think this was so I would always be there to take care of them. In other words, I thought they just thought of me as a helper but didn't care about my happiness.

So, it was like the perfect storm that prevented me from having the courage to try and form a relationship with any woman. I had personal self-esteem issues about my penis size. Society told me that asian men weren't desirable. My Chinese up-bringing discouraged me from having non-Chinese girlfriends -- since I was raised in an all-white environment this was basically the same as saying, "no girlfriend for you". And I got these weird signals throughout my life that I wasn't normal (I was ignored while family/friends/relatives would question my younger brothers about whether they have girlfriends etc.) all my life that really lowered my self-esteem. Kinda weird.

Now I find myself avoiding social situations or small talk at work because I don't want my co-workers to discover my complete lack of a social life. I really do not feel comfortable around people in non-work situations.

Just do it.
 

atybimf

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Originally posted by: Barack Obama
Originally posted by: StormRider
45 years old and never been on a date nor kissed a girl. Although, when I was in kindergarden a girl kissed me on the cheek once. Only when I was nearing 30 and still in graduate school did I feel I had a friendship with a girl. Before that I was pretty much invisible around girls but this girl was super nice and outgoing and actually made me feel almost "socially normal". I haven't formed any other friendships with women after her. I am still a virgin and will probably die a virgin. I have super low self esteem because:

1) I have a really small penis
2) I grew up with messages from media/hollywood/society that I as an asian man was the least desirable of all men. This has changed a lot now. Now I feel that being asian is not an impediment.
3) I felt I was "invisible" -- I got weird signals that I wasn't normal. Like when my family would visit family friends or relatives my aunts and uncles would always tease my younger brothers about "Do you have a girlfriend?" but ignore me. I remember wondering, "Is there something wrong with me? What's going on?"
4) My parents did things (like expecting me to always to there to help out in the restaurant -- they never made any attempt to hire anybody so I could have the freedom to pursue my life) that almost made me :laugh:think they didn't want me to have friends or a social life. I used to think this was so I would always be there to take care of them. In other words, I thought they just thought of me as a helper but didn't care about my happiness.

So, it was like the perfect storm that prevented me from having the courage to try and form a relationship with any woman. I had personal self-esteem issues about my penis size. Society told me that asian men weren't desirable. My Chinese up-bringing discouraged me from having non-Chinese girlfriends -- since I was raised in an all-white environment this was basically the same as saying, "no girlfriend for you". And I got these weird signals throughout my life that I wasn't normal (I was ignored while family/friends/relatives would question my younger brothers about whether they have girlfriends etc.) all my life that really lowered my self-esteem. Kinda weird.

Now I find myself avoiding social situations or small talk at work because I don't want my co-workers to discover my complete lack of a social life. I really do not feel comfortable around people in non-work situations.

Just do it.

great advice :laugh:. he obviously has the self esteem to "just do it"

start out slow and work on making small talk to build up your confidence
 

dr150

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Sep 18, 2003
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I've had sex with 3 models at once.

....Then my wife woke me up. :brokenheart:


I only know one 40 year old virgin. The only reason he is...is b/c he doesn't care to try and also has extremely high standards. It is what it is.