how many of u never kissed a girl? been on a date? gotten laid?

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Bateluer

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This is going to be heavily skewed in ATOT, most people are going to lie out their asses.
 

alkemyst

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Feb 13, 2001
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Originally posted by: CrimsonChaos
Originally posted by: Fmr12B
You guys are unbelievable.

There is nothing more important than chicks for guys aged 14-17, how any of you passed through that critical 4yr timeframe without getting to at least 2nd base is beyond me.

Do you really need to pass judgement?

I had my first girlfriend when I was 15, but believe me it wasn't the "most important thing" to me -- and I hardly see it as some badge of honor. To be honest, I had no clue what I was doing, and the whole thing happened by chance.

Just saying, what's important to you may not be important to others. Perhaps they have other priorities, or maybe they are just extremely extremely shy and/or picky.

Well if he was really speaking about himself in truth, he'd have witnessed a ton of guys that were just clueless.

In reality, if you are not afraid to approach them offering something more witty than 'hey wanna give me a blowjob?', there are tons of girls available at that age.
 

lucasorion

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31 year old here, never been kissed or anything else, my life has been about as solitary as it can get without being stuck on a desert island. Teenage/early 20's depression + extreme shyness + poor body image do not add up to a good social life. Last year, an absolutely beautiful woman from work who I was friendly with asked me if I'd like to get together on the weekend, which I assumed was just a "hanging out", gender-neutral kind of scenario. Major miscommunication led to her thinking I was taking her out to dinner, while I thought we were just hanging out with our dogs and making it up as we went along - since she couldn't possibly see it as a date, I figured I should just act casual. We ended up watching an episode of mst3k, while I failed at grilling some burgers on my underheated charcoal grill, and then just cooked them on the stove. It was a very tense and awkward 2 hours together, probably largely due to the ambiguity of the situation. I think this ruined any chances for anything, since she probably assumed from my actions that I wasn't interested in a dating relationship.
 

alkemyst

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Originally posted by: lucasorion
31 year old here, never been kissed or anything else, my life has been about as solitary as it can get without being stuck on a desert island. Teenage/early 20's depression + extreme shyness + poor body image do not add up to a good social life. Last year, an absolutely beautiful woman from work who I was friendly with asked me if I'd like to get together on the weekend, which I assumed was just a "hanging out", gender-neutral kind of scenario. Major miscommunication led to her thinking I was taking her out to dinner, while I thought we were just hanging out with our dogs and making it up as we went along - since she couldn't possibly see it as a date, I figured I should just act casual. We ended up watching an episode of mst3k, while I failed at grilling some burgers on my underheated charcoal grill, and then just cooked them on the stove. It was a very tense and awkward 2 hours together, probably largely due to the ambiguity of the situation. I think this ruined any chances for anything, since she probably assumed from my actions that I wasn't interested in a dating relationship.

damn that was painful just reading it.

I feel bad for that chick.
 

imported_Lothar

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Aug 10, 2006
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Just turned 23 today.
Never had a GF, never been on a date, never kissed(One girl asked me to kiss her 6 years ago in my freshman undergrad year, but I rejected).
Kiss someone I've known for only 3 months that I only saw in my classes and cafeteria?
But then again, I was also only 17 at that time and "possibly" didn't know any better.

Now that I'm done with school, it may be time for me to start looking and I accept that it will be harder now since I'm now in the real world(working).
It almost feels like I'm being pressured by my mom now.
 

imported_Lothar

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Aug 10, 2006
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Originally posted by: Sawyer
I don't understand how anyone can go to college and not get laid. I have seen the nerdiest of nerds getting laid in college. If you can't get laid there then there is no hope.

It certainly doesn't help when I'm the 2nd youngest person in the classroom.
Am I supposed to go sit down in some undergrad Biology or Physics class pretending I'm a student there?
 

Aikouka

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Nov 27, 2001
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Originally posted by: Lothar
Now that I'm done with school, it may be time for me to start looking and I accept that it will be harder now since I'm now in the real world(working).
It almost feels like I'm being pressured by my mom now.

It isn't really harder. You actually have a steady job now and are established. Well, as long as you're not living with ol' mum. That seems to be a bit of a turn-off.

Also, about the nerdiest of nerds getting laid. It sure is easy not to when you spend all your time playing World of Warcraft like someone I know <_< >_>.
 

Jeff7

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Jan 4, 2001
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Originally posted by: lucasorion
31 year old here, never been kissed or anything else, my life has been about as solitary as it can get without being stuck on a desert island. Teenage/early 20's depression + extreme shyness + poor body image do not add up to a good social life. Last year, an absolutely beautiful woman from work who I was friendly with asked me if I'd like to get together on the weekend, which I assumed was just a "hanging out", gender-neutral kind of scenario. Major miscommunication led to her thinking I was taking her out to dinner, while I thought we were just hanging out with our dogs and making it up as we went along - since she couldn't possibly see it as a date, I figured I should just act casual. We ended up watching an episode of mst3k, while I failed at grilling some burgers on my underheated charcoal grill, and then just cooked them on the stove. It was a very tense and awkward 2 hours together, probably largely due to the ambiguity of the situation. I think this ruined any chances for anything, since she probably assumed from my actions that I wasn't interested in a dating relationship.
The closest I have to that was when someone asked me if I was going to study for a physics final. Captain Honesty/Oblivious here answered, as modestly as I could, that I was already comfortable with the material, and wasn't really planning on studying.

About 8 hours later, it occurred to me that she was probably asking if I wanted to study with her.

But hey, I'm only 26, so I've got time - and I've got a sizable MST3K collection.:laugh: :eek:
 

imported_Lothar

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Originally posted by: Aikouka
Originally posted by: Lothar
Now that I'm done with school, it may be time for me to start looking and I accept that it will be harder now since I'm now in the real world(working).
It almost feels like I'm being pressured by my mom now.

It isn't really harder. You actually have a steady job now and are established. Well, as long as you're not living with ol' mum. That seems to be a bit of a turn-off.

Also, about the nerdiest of nerds getting laid. It sure is easy not to when you spend all your time playing World of Warcraft like someone I know <_< >_>.

It's harder in that work is 8hrs a day, go home tired straight to sleep after work, less chance of meeting people, not seeing people you've been used to seeing almost everyday, etc...

I'm no longer in DC since I'm done with school now, and I'm now back in the suburbs at home browsing ATOT and studying for my board exam simultaneously.

Yes, I'm living with mom.
I see no reason for me to dump money into the trash by paying rent when work is just 20 mins drive away.
I also see no reason for me to buy my own house at the moment since I'm single(not to mention I don't have the down payment for it).
When I'm ready to start my family or get married or change job that might require it, I'll buy a house.

I find that I spend less and less time playing video games every year, which is a good thing I guess.
Gone are the days of Starcraft, UT Classic, and Diablo II Hell Baal/cow runs in HS and Undergrad. Man...I miss those days.
I wouldn't even touch WoW if someone gave it to me for free. I heard that thing is like crack.
Never tried it, never will.
 

Mr Pickles

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Feb 24, 2006
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Originally posted by: Lothar
Originally posted by: Aikouka
Originally posted by: Lothar
Now that I'm done with school, it may be time for me to start looking and I accept that it will be harder now since I'm now in the real world(working).
It almost feels like I'm being pressured by my mom now.

It isn't really harder. You actually have a steady job now and are established. Well, as long as you're not living with ol' mum. That seems to be a bit of a turn-off.

Also, about the nerdiest of nerds getting laid. It sure is easy not to when you spend all your time playing World of Warcraft like someone I know <_< >_>.

It's harder in that work is 8hrs a day, go home tired straight to sleep after work, less chance of meeting people, not seeing people you've been used to seeing almost everyday, etc...

I'm no longer in DC since I'm done with school now, and I'm now back in the suburbs at home browsing ATOT and studying for my board exam simultaneously.

Yes, I'm living with mom.
I see no reason for me to dump money into the trash by paying rent when work is just 20 mins drive away.
I also see no reason for me to buy my own house at the moment since I'm single(not to mention I don't have the down payment for it).
When I'm ready to start my family or get married or change job that might require it, I'll buy a house.

I find that I spend less and less time playing video games every year, which is a good thing I guess.
Gone are the days of Starcraft, UT Classic, and Diablo II Hell Baal/cow runs in HS and Undergrad. Man...I miss those days.
I wouldn't even touch WoW if someone gave it to me for free. I heard that thing is like crack.
Never tried it, never will.

Dude, you're hands down the most stereotypical loser I think I've ever witnessed. They make movies about people like you, bro. This is great. Thanks for the laughs.
 
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Originally posted by: Mr Pickles

Dude, you're hands down the most stereotypical loser I think I've ever witnessed. They make movies about people like you, bro. This is great. Thanks for the laughs.

does it make you feel better about yourself? seriously...
 

Jeff7

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Jan 4, 2001
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Originally posted by: BlahBlahYouToo
Originally posted by: Mr Pickles

Dude, you're hands down the most stereotypical loser I think I've ever witnessed. They make movies about people like you, bro. This is great. Thanks for the laughs.

does it make you feel better about yourself? seriously...
And Lothar probably knows where pickles come from.

 

Mr Pickles

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Feb 24, 2006
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Originally posted by: BlahBlahYouToo
Originally posted by: Mr Pickles

Dude, you're hands down the most stereotypical loser I think I've ever witnessed. They make movies about people like you, bro. This is great. Thanks for the laughs.

does it make you feel better about yourself? seriously...

I felt ok before I read this. My post has nothing to do with me.
 

lucasorion

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Jun 15, 2005
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Originally posted by: alkemyst
Originally posted by: lucasorion
31 year old here, never been kissed or anything else, my life has been about as solitary as it can get without being stuck on a desert island. Teenage/early 20's depression + extreme shyness + poor body image do not add up to a good social life. Last year, an absolutely beautiful woman from work who I was friendly with asked me if I'd like to get together on the weekend, which I assumed was just a "hanging out", gender-neutral kind of scenario. Major miscommunication led to her thinking I was taking her out to dinner, while I thought we were just hanging out with our dogs and making it up as we went along - since she couldn't possibly see it as a date, I figured I should just act casual. We ended up watching an episode of mst3k, while I failed at grilling some burgers on my underheated charcoal grill, and then just cooked them on the stove. It was a very tense and awkward 2 hours together, probably largely due to the ambiguity of the situation. I think this ruined any chances for anything, since she probably assumed from my actions that I wasn't interested in a dating relationship.

damn that was painful just reading it.

I feel bad for that chick.

She only had one bad (sort-of)date - I think she got over it pretty quick.
She actually went out with me to a dog park a few weekends later, which went a lot better, but I thought I had already blown the opportunity for anything more than friendship - so I didn't push it. It may have been a missed opportunity for something, but I don't think it was a missed opportunity for something special and long-term.
 

QurazyQuisp

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Originally posted by: lucasorion
Originally posted by: alkemyst
Originally posted by: lucasorion
31 year old here, never been kissed or anything else, my life has been about as solitary as it can get without being stuck on a desert island. Teenage/early 20's depression + extreme shyness + poor body image do not add up to a good social life. Last year, an absolutely beautiful woman from work who I was friendly with asked me if I'd like to get together on the weekend, which I assumed was just a "hanging out", gender-neutral kind of scenario. Major miscommunication led to her thinking I was taking her out to dinner, while I thought we were just hanging out with our dogs and making it up as we went along - since she couldn't possibly see it as a date, I figured I should just act casual. We ended up watching an episode of mst3k, while I failed at grilling some burgers on my underheated charcoal grill, and then just cooked them on the stove. It was a very tense and awkward 2 hours together, probably largely due to the ambiguity of the situation. I think this ruined any chances for anything, since she probably assumed from my actions that I wasn't interested in a dating relationship.

damn that was painful just reading it.

I feel bad for that chick.

She only had one bad (sort-of)date - I think she got over it pretty quick.
She actually went out with me to a dog park a few weekends later, which went a lot better, but I thought I had already blown the opportunity for anything more than friendship - so I didn't push it.

This may be a little childish, but I dare you to ask her out on a true date. Like out to dinner. She obviously has interest in you.
 

lucasorion

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She's been dating another guy from the office for a while now. He is so different from me, it makes it pretty clear that she and I aren't compatible personality-wise.
 

QurazyQuisp

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Originally posted by: lucasorion
She's been dating another guy from the office for a while now. He is so different from me, it makes it pretty clear that she and I aren't compatible personality-wise.

Maybe... but there is probably a reason why she showed interest in you first.

While every relationship may not turn out well, they are overall, quite fun/fulfilling. After dating my current GF for the past year or so I certainly prefer being in a relationship than not being, however, I feel like I've found an extraordinary girl who is near perfect for me. She's very unique and while we are quite different we compliment each other very well.

Also, if a women ever asks you out again, especially at your age when she knows you aren't married, it is very likely that she is interested in a date with you. Her biological clock has started to tick loud and she's ready to find a mate and settle down.

Also, if you are remotely afraid about the physical side of the relationship... don't worry it's pre-programmed in every human being. While you may not be amazing at any of it the first time, it improves with practice.
 

alkemyst

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Originally posted by: lucasorion
She's been dating another guy from the office for a while now. He is so different from me, it makes it pretty clear that she and I aren't compatible personality-wise.

so you just hang out together because she hates you?

It's clear you need to REALLY reevaluate your perceptions.

Also ABSOLFUCKINGLUTELY never assume or project thoughts into a woman's head. You are not a woman, they think very very differently than men and are easily swayed by situation over logic.