How many baby showers are too many?

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nerp

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And then there was the baby book shower my office threw us, the dinner party my parents organized for their circle of friends, etc. We didn't want/need any of that extra attention but had to attend because of the insistence of our family and social circles.
 

SAWYER

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Apr 27, 2000
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There is no way you would tell someone you actually knew irl this.

You don't know me then! I am extremely open, blunt frank etc with people I know. My wife gets on me about it all the time because i do not bite my tongue.
 

moshquerade

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Nov 1, 2001
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You don't know me then! I am extremely open, blunt frank etc with people I know. My wife gets on me about it all the time because i do not bite my tongue.
They must not take you serious then or else you'd have no friends.
 

dabuddha

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Apr 10, 2000
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What about a shower for the placenta!

1 is enough, after shower is just retarded.

A dinner party of some sort for after the babys born is ok though. Though I see how the 2 could seem similar.
 

moshquerade

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Nov 1, 2001
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What about a shower for the placenta!

1 is enough, after shower is just retarded.
Should have a placenta burying party! I think people actually plant a tree and bury the placenta near it. Might as well add that to the party list.
 

blackdogdeek

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Mar 14, 2003
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lots of people throw after birth showers except they usually wait a year and call it a birthday party.
 

gorcorps

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Jul 18, 2004
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No, fuck that. You get one baby shower than then birthdays thereafter. Unless you're splitting showers up between like friends and family or something, but you should only have to go to one shower and therefore buy one gift. Greedy and/or attention whoring is the only excuse.
 

KK

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Should have a placenta burying party! I think people actually plant a tree and bury the placenta near it. Might as well add that to the party list.

Who the hell would bury the placenta? I guarantee after you tasted one, you wouldn't waste another.
 

moshquerade

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Nov 1, 2001
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Who the hell would bury the placenta? I guarantee after you tasted one, you wouldn't waste another.
Just a little fyi:


Rituals and Uses of the Placenta After Birth

The placenta serves to nourish our babies before they are born, as well as forming a barrier to filter out substances that can be harmful to the unborn child. For the medical establishment, the placenta's job is done once birth has begun, and the organ that provided life for the child in the womb is to be discarded. However, for many cultures and some modern women, there are rituals surrounding the placenta that should be observed. These rituals vary, and can include consumption of all or part of the placenta, ceremonial burial of the organ, naming of the placenta, hanging it in a tree for consumption by scavengers, and making a print of the placenta as a reminder of its function.


Eating the Placenta

There is some anecdotal evidence that consumption of the placenta, either cooked, dried, or as part of a broth, can help prevent or ameliorate post partum depression. A number of cultures, including natives in Papua New Guinea and women in Vietnam and China prepare and consume the placenta, as do some animals, lending credence to this theory. Chemicals in the placenta may have the ability to repair some of the hormonal imbalances that occur due to childbirth, but they are probably not a complete remedy for all the effects that are referred to as PPD.



Burying the Placenta

Placenta burial is common among even more cultures. In a number of places, such as Kenya, Malaysia, and Nigeria, the placenta is considered the baby's twin, or thought to have its own spirit, and is buried with the appropriate rites. In Mexico, Nepal, and New Zealand, the placenta is honored as the companion or friend of the baby, and is placed in the earth reverently, but is not thought to have a spirit of its own. Specific burial rites vary by culture, and in some, the placenta will be placed high up, such as in a tree, instead of being buried in the ground. In modern Western culture, placenta burial is usually highly personal. It may be based of off the rituals of other cultures, or on the perception of those rituals, but will probably be altered depending on the individual's preference. It can be planted at the base of a tree or bush, for instance. Some mothers choose to get a special plant for each placenta they bury. Generally, if any time needs to elapse between the birth and the burial of the placenta, it is frozen until the time comes. Since the placenta is very nourishing, it will help the plant above it grow as it decomposes, returning to the earth. It may also be placed in its own container and buried with a marker.



Other Uses of the Placenta


Some people choose not to keep the placenta itself, or to engage in other rituals in addition to the burial or consumption of it. Making prints of the placenta, using either the blood that covers it or ink and paint, are not uncommon. Art done with a related substance – the amniotic membrane – has also been made. These are ways to have a keepsake of the pregnancy that reminds us of our connection with the earth. The placenta can be disposed of, buried, or consumed (provided no paint or ink was used) afterward, as the mother chooses.



http://www.hip-chick-pregnancy-guide.com/placenta.html
 

zebano

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We actually had one that we couldn't attend (my family is out of state) for our recent twins (despite the fact that they're babies 3&4) sometimes people do them just as an excuse to get together (IMO, very weird).
 

kalrith

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Aug 22, 2005
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We had one with all our friends and family, and each of our employers threw a shower for us. I could understand 4 if they want one for the family, one for friends, one for church, and one for work, or something like that. The after-birth one is definitely over the top.

What irks me more than this is when people have baby showers for every baby. If I were to have a second, I would need diapers and possibly clothes (if I had a girl instead of a boy), but some people will have 4 baby showers (with each respective group) for 4 kids.
 

amdhunter

Lifer
May 19, 2003
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It's not how many showers...it's how long you hold their heads underwater. :awe:
 

preCRT

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Apr 12, 2000
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Friends/family can throw as many showers as they want.

As a guest, you are a moron if you give more than 1 shower gift total.
 

preCRT

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We had one with all our friends and family, and each of our employers threw a shower for us. I could understand 4 if they want one for the family, one for friends, one for church, and one for work, or something like that. The after-birth one is definitely over the top.

What irks me more than this is when people have baby showers for every baby. If I were to have a second, I would need diapers and possibly clothes (if I had a girl instead of a boy), but some people will have 4 baby showers (with each respective group) for 4 kids.
Just because they are greedy enough to throw a shower for each kid does not obligate anyone to give them more than one [or any] gift.

Could you imagine if those clown car Duggars threw a freaking shower for each baby?
 

Sealy

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Aug 4, 2002
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Well basically the "etiquette" I was taught, was that you had a baby shower for someone who was having their first baby, and you didn't do it until after the baby was born (superstitious thing)

Then if that same person had another baby, you'd only have a shower for them if they had a different sex. If it was the same sex then no.
 

CraigRT

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Jun 16, 2000
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Lame... that is really too much. 1 should be the standard unless circumstances justify a 2nd.