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Triforceofcourage

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Went out with this hot girl for lunch today and want to go out with her again. How long should I wait before I call and ask her for another date. I want to set it up for next friday night. So do I do it Swingers style and wait 2 or 3 days?

Update.....
Just called and got the date :)

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Wait a couple days. If you seem overeager it'll make her think she's above you on the ladder & can do better.
 
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KarenMarie

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Monday or Tuesday at the very latest.

If you wait any longer she will have already decided that you are not interested and by the time you call she might be like... WTF, he is so casual, must not be important.

I dont know how the guys feel about this... but if oyu have her email address, drop her a quick note to tell her that you enjoyed the lunch.
 
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rgwalt

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Today being Friday, I would call no later than Monday.

Personally I see nothing wrong with calling the next day. I've done it before. It depends on what kind of mindset you have... I take the position that I don't play games in relationships, and as a result if I want to call a girl, I'll call her.

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Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage
Does calling on monday for a date on Friday make me seem to eager?
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It isn't a game. If you like her call her. If she wants to go out with you she will say yes.
If she says no but doesn't offer an alternate date, she doesn't want to go out again.
 
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Pastore

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It doesn't matter when you call (as long as it's not an hour after the lunch). If she likes you, she'll go out with you again, if she doesn't, she'll blow you off.
 
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Despite the fact that they play them a lot, girls hate it when guys try to play dating by the book. They like surprises... (good surprises, I should say)...

so what's so wrong with calling her now and telling her you had a good time. Otherwise she's going to wake up tomorrow and be thinking the whole time "Geez... I wonder when he's going to call me back... even if she doesn't expect it until a couple of days later."
 
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Triforceofcourage

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Originally posted by: Injury
Despite the fact that they play them a lot, girls hate it when guys try to play dating by the book. They like surprises... (good surprises, I should say)...

so what's so wrong with calling her now and telling her you had a good time. Otherwise she's going to wake up tomorrow and be thinking the whole time "Geez... I wonder when he's going to call me back... even if she doesn't expect it until a couple of days later."
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I want her to wonder when I'm going to call for the next date, the trick is to not have her wonder to long :) I guess I will call her on Monday because that gives me a few days and won't make me look to eager.
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rgwalt

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Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage
Does calling on monday for a date on Friday make me seem to eager?
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No. I asked a girl for a date on Friday the previous Saturday. There is nothing wrong with asking early. What if she wants to see you again, but she makes other plans because you don't get to her in time?

If I were in your situation, I would call Sunday evening or Monday evening.

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Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage
Went out with this hot girl for lunch today and want to go out with her again. How long should I wait before I call and ask her for another date. I want to set it up for next friday night. So do I do it Swingers style and wait 2 or 3 days?

Tri
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Date 1, Friday night
Date 2, Saturday night
today, married.

All those rules aer BS. If she likes you, she'll go on a second date. If asking her out makes you look desperate, and that's her logic to not going out again she's f'd in the head.

Bottom line is, if she lieks you, she'll accept the invitation. If not, waiting won't change a thing.

And besuides, if she called you the next day to set up another date, you'd be flattered wouldn't you?
 
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Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage
Originally posted by: Injury
Despite the fact that they play them a lot, girls hate it when guys try to play dating by the book. They like surprises... (good surprises, I should say)...

so what's so wrong with calling her now and telling her you had a good time. Otherwise she's going to wake up tomorrow and be thinking the whole time "Geez... I wonder when he's going to call me back... even if she doesn't expect it until a couple of days later."
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I want her to wonder when I'm going to call for the next date, the trick is to not have her wonder to long :) I guess I will call her on Monday because that gives me a few days and won't make me look to eager.
Any other suggestions?
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Yeah, stop playing a game. Call her before the guy she met on the way out the door does. ;)
 
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dirtboy

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I always ask at the end of the date that way I don't have to waste my time calling based on their response. If they had a good time they will agree and if they didn't, they will make an excuse.

I hate calling after dates, because often times you call, call and call again only to find out they aren't interested, but you call because there have been a couple times they have been interested and were too busy to call back. Asking at the end of the date takes care of that.
 
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Triforceofcourage

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Originally posted by: dirtboy
I always ask at the end of the date that way I don't have to waste my time calling based on their response. If they had a good time they will agree and if they didn't, they will make an excuse.

I hate calling after dates, because often times you call, call and call again only to find out they aren't interested, but you call because there have been a couple times they have been interested and were too busy to call back. Asking at the end of the date takes care of that.
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I'm pretty sure she wants to go out again because after I gave her a hug goodbye she said we should do something else again. I just don't want to look that eager. I guess calling on Monday should do the trick :)
 
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Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage
Originally posted by: dirtboy
I always ask at the end of the date that way I don't have to waste my time calling based on their response. If they had a good time they will agree and if they didn't, they will make an excuse.

I hate calling after dates, because often times you call, call and call again only to find out they aren't interested, but you call because there have been a couple times they have been interested and were too busy to call back. Asking at the end of the date takes care of that.
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I'm pretty sure she wants to go out again because after I gave her a hug goodbye she said we should do something else again. I just don't want to look that eager. I guess calling on Monday should do the trick :)
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See, I'm telling you that's a mistake. Short of calling her 5 minutes after your date, you won't come across as eager. If anything, it'll make her feel good because it will make her seem like she's that cute.

 
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Triforceofcourage

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Originally posted by: Injury
Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage
Originally posted by: dirtboy
I always ask at the end of the date that way I don't have to waste my time calling based on their response. If they had a good time they will agree and if they didn't, they will make an excuse.

I hate calling after dates, because often times you call, call and call again only to find out they aren't interested, but you call because there have been a couple times they have been interested and were too busy to call back. Asking at the end of the date takes care of that.
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I'm pretty sure she wants to go out again because after I gave her a hug goodbye she said we should do something else again. I just don't want to look that eager. I guess calling on Monday should do the trick :)
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See, I'm telling you that's a mistake. Short of calling her 5 minutes after your date, you won't come across as eager. If anything, it'll make her feel good because it will make her seem like she's that cute.
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I think Monday would be the sweet spot to call not to soon and not to long :)
 
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habib89

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i think the whole 3day thing is bogus... just call her whenever.. if you have something to do tonight, call her and ask her to go out with you tonight.. if you don't have plans for the weekend, call her out again on monday and ask if she wants to go to lunch again, and after that lunch, ask her out for a thursday or friday date
 
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Call her and tell her you had a good time and that you'd like to go out again. Don't bother setting up a date..just tell her you're interested.... Wait until Mon or Tues and setup a date for next weekend or maybe even a weeknight.
 
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