How Long Should You Wait to Have Kids?

[AreaCode707]

<< It is BEST when:

1) You are both finished school (university, master's, Med, whatever).
2) One of you has a stable enough career that will provide.
3) One of you is willing to stay home as you both agree best (variable - some might want one full-time parent at home, some want someone there when the kids get home, etc)
4) You both feel ready and want kids.


However, it is my personal and strong belief that if something unplanned happens, then even if the above conditions aren't in place, you go ahead and do the best you can. A child needs love and attention, so those are the only real requirements in the end. >>



Good conditions Optimus. I suppose we can take them as coming from one who knows, so that makes them doubly valuable. Has the little one cut into your AT time?

I'd add that you have a stable relationship - you don't want kids because you think they'll help repair your relationship (it amazes me how often it happens) and you're happy together.

 

[jjones]

I think Optimus said it best. We waited 6 years to have a kid but waiting is not what I would call it. Just say that the time was right and my wife and I mutually decided that we wanted a child; we weren't really waiting for anything.