How long should one wait after a divorce before 'openly' dating?

[zixxer]

I'm talking from a socially acceptable standpoint (i.e. you're friends with sister in law, etc and would rather not have people thinking you left the marriage for someone else)


(I'm not married, this doesn't have to do with me)

 

[Canai]

6 months? No idea, but 6 months is a good number.

edit: did you initiate divorce? or was it her or mutual?

 

[mordantmonkey]

how long were you married?

 

[PrinceofWands]

I have no concept of 'socially acceptable'. I know that pyschologically it varies based on a variety of factors. Other than random hookups I waited about 3 years, but it wasn't long enough to be healthy (after a 5yr marriage).

 

[K1052]

5 to 10 minutes generally

 

[Queasy]

Once the divorce is finalized and the former SO's attorney's can't hit you up for anything else.

 

[Specop 007]

Originally posted by: K1052
5 to 10 minutes generally

I was going to say 3-6 hours myself, but thats a goood time frame too.

 

[invidia]

Just continue dating the person that cause the divorce.

 

[GalvanizedYankee]

When a divorce happens, generally the female has been planning it for a year or more,
so she will be dating first. For the male, it generally comes as a suprise and he will
need several months to get it together.
You must remember that men plod a dirt road in thier brain, women use that super highway
as best they can Like in stealing the guy's money, goods and reputation
All her friends have been watching you be set-up for months. It's a great feeling when one finally
realizes this....NOT!


...Galvanized

 

[Kanalua]

bring a date to the paper signings

 

[Icanoutsmokeany1]

The day you get divorced you are supposed to hit up a bar, it's in the Bible.

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: zixxer
I'm talking from a socially acceptable standpoint (i.e. you're friends with sister in law, etc and would rather not have people thinking you left the marriage for someone else)


(I'm not married, this doesn't have to do with me)

People are going to think what they're going to think, and won't let a few facts stand in their way of their conclusions. "Socially acceptable" will be different for everyone.

 

[chairbornrangerx]

I started dating before my divorce was final lol.

 

[K1052]

Originally posted by: Specop 007

Originally posted by: K1052
5 to 10 minutes generally

I was going to say 3-6 hours myself, but thats a goood time frame too.

only long enough to be sure the ink is dry

 

[JulesMaximus]

I would like to think that most people have better things to do than evaluate the personal business of other people...I know that sh1t ain't the truth though. :roll:

 

[alkemyst]

I don't get these posts, they can't come from anyone that's been in many relationships.

It's not a death of a spouse...it's a divorce...you are agreeing to part ways (some maybe a bit one-sided)...

My money is on as soon as you get the papers and find out their is nothing you can do to halt the proceedings.

Makes no sense to wait.

 

[Fern]

Originally posted by: alkemyst
I don't get these posts, they can't come from anyone that's been in many relationships.

It's not a death of a spouse...it's a divorce...you are agreeing to part ways (some maybe a bit one-sided)...

My money is on as soon as you get the papers and find out their is nothing you can do to halt the proceedings.

Makes no sense to wait.

Yeah, thats what I'm thinking.

A death? Yeah, wait an acceptable time not to look like an @ss.

Divorce? Why wait if you're emotionally ready. Your're either the "dumper" or the "dumpee". Both have acceptable reasons for dating as soon as they feel like it IMHO.

Fern

 

[fLum0x]

whenever you feel ready IMO. some people it takes years to get over and others it takes minutes...also, it depends if you are splitting mutually or splitting as a one sided deal

 

[jjones]

Why wait until after the divorce?

 

[GasX]

It depends entirely on the reason(s) for the divorce...

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: zixxer
I'm talking from a socially acceptable standpoint (i.e. you're friends with sister in law, etc and would rather not have people thinking you left the marriage for someone else)


(I'm not married, this doesn't have to do with me)

the day you put in the papers

 

[SoulAssassin]

as others have said...why wait? It's a divorce, not a funeral....get back in the game.

 

[PrinceofWands]

Originally posted by: alkemyst
I don't get these posts, they can't come from anyone that's been in many relationships.

It's not a death of a spouse...it's a divorce...you are agreeing to part ways (some maybe a bit one-sided)...

My money is on as soon as you get the papers and find out their is nothing you can do to halt the proceedings.

Makes no sense to wait.

Sounds like you've had no 'serious' relationships or no understanding of psychology. A person carries a lot of baggage just from semi-casual relationships, marriage is many levels beyond that. It takes time to let it all go and move on. Again, we're not talking about random hookups after. You don't need much stability to stick it in and out for an evening.

 

[BoomerD]

Hit on the lawyer's secretary...on the way in to sign the papers...if your wife has a hot female attorney, hit on her in front of the ex...no sense wasting a good opportunity...

 

[Poulsonator]

Wait however long you need. Who gives a sh!t what anyone else thinks.