how long does it take to get over someone

[huberm]

broke up with my gf of 6.5yrs 9 months ago, and i still feel sad and lonely when i think about it. I met someone about a month after the breakup and we have been great friends, but she wants something more now and I don't know if I can because i still miss the ex gf?????


from your experience how long does it take to get over someone, and am I doing something wrong to still be like this after 9 months?

 

[krunchykrome]

1. Dinner with new girl
2. PIITB
3. Thank krunchykrome

 

[Lonyo]

Get with the new girl and it will help you forget about your ex.

 

[JulesMaximus]

65 days, 10 hours, 29 minutes and 33 seconds.

 

[Mucho]

Until you find another girlfriend.

 

[Rob9874]

You have to replace her first. Someone else has to come before her (no pun intended). And if you do replace her, but then break up with that person, she may once again become #1 on your prioritization, and you're back to missing her.

 

[MustISO]

Originally posted by: Mucho
Until you find another girlfriend.

 

[slsmnaz]

A new girl will always aid the healing process. Hit some strange just to get you over the hump before starting a new relationship.

 

[GuitarDaddy]

Originally posted by: Lonyo
Get with the new girl and it will help you forget about your ex.

:thumbsup:

If you like the new girl definately don't drive her away because your wallowing in self pity, it will only make you doubley sad. Your ex is gone dude, and she's not coming back!
Move on

 

[zoiks]

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
65 days, 10 hours, 29 minutes and 33 seconds.

He broke up 9 months ago.

 

[mordantmonkey]

you won't be able to move on until you move on. duh.

if you just keep thining about her you'll never stop. just forget about it, and focus on what you have now.

 

[daveshel]

5

 

[amdhunter]

Originally posted by: huberm
broke up with my gf of 6.5yrs 9 months ago, and i still feel sad and lonely when i think about it. I met someone about a month after the breakup and we have been great friends, but she wants something more now and I don't know if I can because i still miss the ex gf?????


from your experience how long does it take to get over someone, and am I doing something wrong to still be like this after 9 months?

For me, the second I finish masturbating about them I forget who they were.

 

[Whisper]

There's really no exact amount of time, or even an approximation, that can be accurately applied to everyone. It's all a matter of the seriousness of the relationship, the amount of disruption that the break-up caused (and the circumstances surrouding the break-up), your personal coping abilities, your level of social support, etc.

If you're still noticeably upset more than six months after the end of the relationship (to the point where it's interfering with your life), you might want to seek some form of help if you think it'll be beneficial. But like I mentioned above, it varies drastically from person to person.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: zoiks

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
65 days, 10 hours, 29 minutes and 33 seconds.

He broke up 9 months ago.

Well, he should be over her by now! WTF is wrong with the OP?

 

[Chrono]

ANOTHER GIRLFRIEND?!?! OMFG. I'm in a similar situation. My girlfriend of 3 1/2 years broke up with me like 2 weeks ago nearly, and I am fvcked in the head. Someone snap me out of this state. I can only rely on my friends so much since they're not always available. I just went to the gym, but that barely helped because I felt depressed beyond anything. It feels like I have been on an emotional rollercoaster for the past 2 weeks. HELP ME!!!!!!!
-_-

 

[mattpegher]

Look at it this way. You should accept that the new girl is ready to make things serious, give it a chance if things work out then you will be over her. You will probably still think of her from time to time but you won't be pining away for her. If it doesn't work out then who knows what the future may hold.

 

[Kaido]

I thought this thread was titled:

how long does it take to run over someone

 

[JS80]

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
1. Dinner with new girl
2. PIITP
3. Thank krunchykrome

fixed

 

[JS80]

Originally posted by: JS80

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
1. Dinner with new girl
2. PIITM
3. Thank krunchykrome

fixed

fixed

 

[LookingGlass]

There is no set healing time, that's all up to the individual. I would get out, like the others have said, keep busy. 6.5 years is a long time, do things that are good for you. Get busy, stay busy, discover what makes you happy again.

 

[randay]

I prefer the bottom, less work, and more jiggling.