How long can you resist without lusting?

[platinumike]

Iam a Christian, and I have been struggling with lusting be it in person or in pictures/movies. I've found that the best method is to just act like a Women's gorgeous behind or rack isnt there and completely ignore it, also when it comes to p0rn and what not, I find the best method is to just keep busy at all time, and not actually surf the net, usually when i get bored i go look at p0rn or something. ---Now heres my question, how is a man supposed to contain himself sexually? if sex before marriage is wrong, masturbation is wrong, then there is no way for a man to relieve himself without sinning? The build up of sexual tension is so strong, that to relieve it is like a natural process just like using the bathroom or something. I think God intended us to all have wives at age 16 or so..so we wouldnt have theese problems in our later years.

 

[sixone]

You may disagree, but I don't believe it's the thoughts that get you in trouble - it's the actions. Going out of your way to get pron, spending too much time feeding the desire, etc.

 

[aberdeen5]

Why resist?

 

[NeoV]

5 minutes...

 

[BigJ]

Listen, if God wants to send me to hell for whacking off, then I don't WANT to go to Heaven.

 

[GagHalfrunt]

Originally posted by: NeoV
5 minutes...

5 minutes is pretty impressive, that's far longer than many priests.

 

[swimscubasteve]

Originally posted by: platinumike
Iam a Christian, and I have been struggling with lusting be it in person or in pictures/movies. I've found that the best method is to just act like a Women's gorgeous behind or rack isnt there and completely ignore it, also when it comes to p0rn and what not, I find the best method is to just keep busy at all time, and not actually surf the net, usually when i get bored i go look at p0rn or something. ---Now heres my question, how is a man supposed to contain himself sexually? if sex before marriage is wrong, masturbation is wrong, then there is no way for a man to relieve himself without sinning? The build up of sexual tension is so strong, that to relieve it is like a natural process just like using the bathroom or something. I think God intended us to all have wives at age 16 or so..so we wouldnt have theese problems in our later years.

Your post shouts "I WANT TO GET LAID!!"

 

[bradruth]

Originally posted by: platinumike
if sex before marriage is wrong, masturbation is wrong, then there is no way for a man to relieve himself without sinning? The build up of sexual tension is so strong, that to relieve it is like a natural process just like using the bathroom or something.

Have you thought about this one? Get ready for it, because it's a real bombshell, but maybe...just maybe...it's NOT a sin. :shocked:

 

[royaldank]

I don't think I want to go to heaven if that's the only people that make the cut.

 

[Shawn]

masturbate. you'll feel a lot better. seriously though, if you don't release that sexual tention somehow it will release itself in the form of violence.

 

[HardcoreRobot]

if you dont do it, hes gonna getcha in your sleep

may as well be the one in control

 

[NuclearNed]

One good answer to this and all questions regarding self-discipline (religious or otherwise) is to get involved with an accountability group. Find people you can trust who will hold you to your commitments and goals - then be honest with them, especially when you fail.

 

[Slimline]

Originally posted by: BigJ
Listen, if God wants to send me to hell for whacking off, then I don't WANT to go to Heaven.

Just think of all the nymphs in hell

 

[platinumike]

So..you believe that fantascizing about a women is not a sin? that brings on another question, you see...when I approach women at the grocery store,book store, etc. the approach is usually based 100% on sexual attraction. I usually feel my blood rushing, heart racing faster and will approach...is this wrong? because I couldnt possibly imagine finding a female any other way.

 

[nakedfrog]

If nothing else, your body will relieve itself via nocturnal emissions.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: BigJ
Listen, if God wants to send me to hell for whacking off, then I don't WANT to go to Heaven.

Heh.. .that made me laugh for some reason

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: sixone
You may disagree, but I don't believe it's the thoughts that get you in trouble - it's the actions. Going out of your way to get pron, spending too much time feeding the desire, etc.

Wasn't there a line about he who looks upon a woman wantingly has already comitted it in his mind? I can't remember exactly how it goes. Might have been more related to adultery.

 

[mercanucaribe]

What kind of twisted religion views natural instincts that have ensured the continuation of life for 3.5 billion years as wrong?

 

[drsafety]

Originally posted by: bradruth

Originally posted by: platinumike
if sex before marriage is wrong, masturbation is wrong, then there is no way for a man to relieve himself without sinning? The build up of sexual tension is so strong, that to relieve it is like a natural process just like using the bathroom or something.

Have you thought about this one? Get ready for it, because it's a real bombshell, but maybe...just maybe...it's NOT a sin. :shocked:

:thumbsup:

 

[latino666]

Originally posted by: platinumike
So..you believe that fantascizing about a women is not a sin? that brings on another question, you see...when I approach women at the grocery store,book store, etc. the approach is usually based 100% on sexual attraction. I usually feel my blood rushing, heart racing faster and will approach...is this wrong? because I couldnt possibly imagine finding a female any other way.

Dude you better get laid or do something because you are about to explode, literally.

 

[Shawn]

Originally posted by: platinumike
So..you believe that fantascizing about a women is not a sin? that brings on another question, you see...when I approach women at the grocery store,book store, etc. the approach is usually based 100% on sexual attraction. I usually feel my blood rushing, heart racing faster and will approach...is this wrong? because I couldnt possibly imagine finding a female any other way.

jeez, you must have grown up in a uber religious household. how else are you supposed to find a mate? usually when people marry they are both mentally AND physically attracted to each other. how else would it work?

 

[bradruth]

Originally posted by: platinumike
So..you believe that fantascizing about a women is not a sin? that brings on another question, you see...when I approach women at the grocery store,book store, etc. the approach is usually based 100% on sexual attraction. I usually feel my blood rushing, heart racing faster and will approach...is this wrong? because I couldnt possibly imagine finding a female any other way.

No, it's not. Your a human and a male with biological desires. Indoctrination isn't going to supress biology.

 

[latino666]

Originally posted by: Shawn
masturbate. you'll feel a lot better. seriously though, if you don't release that sexual tention somehow it will release itself in the form of violence.

That or one day he will wake-up and his bed will be all wet.

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: NuclearNed
One good answer to this and all questions regarding self-discipline (religious or otherwise) is to get involved with an accountability group. Find people you can trust who will hold you to your commitments and goals - then be honest with them, especially when you fail.

Wow, that's some great advice.

Originally posted by: platinumike
So..you believe that fantascizing about a women is not a sin? that brings on another question, you see...when I approach women at the grocery store,book store, etc. the approach is usually based 100% on sexual attraction. I usually feel my blood rushing, heart racing faster and will approach...is this wrong? because I couldnt possibly imagine finding a female any other way.

If you believe it's a sin, then you should find a way to distract yourself from those thoughts. Giving time and energy to them is what you have control over.

 

[sonz70]

Originally posted by: sixone
You may disagree, but I don't believe it's the thoughts that get you in trouble - it's the actions. Going out of your way to get pron, spending too much time feeding the desire, etc.

this is true...you can have alot of very dirty thoughts..that you never act upon