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How is "a widow that remarries" treated in modern-day churches?

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xboxist

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Just curious. I wasn't raised with a religious background at all, so I have nothing to go by. My grandma says that back in the day, even an 18-year old widow might have been expected to live the rest of her life unmarried, and be happy about it.

I'm guessing that today's churches might be a little more open to the idea of re-marrying? Maybe even support it? Or maybe things haven't changed at all? I don't know - was hoping you'd tell me.

Thanks.
 
as far as i know, and would think.... that after a period of "mourning" it would be ok to get remarried in the church (I am speaking about Catholics). Thats as far as i remember from my religion classes.

i would be intersted to know this as well!
 
Depends on the religion and the rules of that religion. In Christianity, you're allowed divorce if your spouse commits adultery (and one other thing, but I can't remember right now), but you're not allowed to remarry until they do lest ye be guilty of adultery as well.

However, how they're *treated* is just the same as anyone else who "sins."
 
Originally posted by: Linflas
You sure your grandmother is not confusing widow and divorcee?
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I'm sure.

And to clarify the title of this topic, I don't mean "how is the ACTUAL widow treated". I just meant the concept of a widow remarrying. Didn't know if it was frowned upon, or what.
 
Originally posted by: xboxist
Originally posted by: Linflas
You sure your grandmother is not confusing widow and divorcee?
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I'm sure.

And to clarify the title of this topic, I don't mean "how is the ACTUAL widow treated". I just meant the concept of a widow remarrying. Didn't know if it was frowned upon, or what.
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Not frowned upon at all. In Old Testament times, if a man diee, his brother was supposed to take the dead man's wife as his own wife (whether he had wives already or not).
 
Originally posted by: TNTrulez
Who knows. All I know is that if a woman gets divorced and remarries, she's commiting adultery according to the Bible.
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Not if the spouse is the one who committed adultery to end the marriage and gets married before they do.
 
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
as far as i know, and would think.... that after a period of "mourning" it would be ok to get remarried in the church (I am speaking about Catholics). Thats as far as i remember from my religion classes.

i would be intersted to know this as well!
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I'm free if you are shopping.
\looks around
sow how are the brake lines on the SO's car?
 
Originally posted by: Linflas
You sure your grandmother is not confusing widow and divorcee?
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Yeah, as far as I know widows remarrying has been a very common thing throughout church history, sometimes only so that the woman would have someone to take care of her fiscally. It's hardly been frownd upon by the church. Divorcees on the other hand still can't get married in my church unless it's to the original partner, which there is some biblical justification for (not sure if I agree with it, but whatever). There's absolutely no justification for widows not remarrying.
 
Widow and Divorce are two totally seperate animals. According to what I know about the policy, neither my Church nor my families Church would have problems with it barring any unusual circumstance (like when a large insurance policy is involved and the death is mysterious or you are getting married right after the funeral, that kind of thing).

A divorce is different because that is by choice and we (as Christians) are called to stay commited. However, if there is a serious problem (beating, rape, drug addition, threatening children, the like) then often the Church will support a divorce, I have seen the entire congregation be very supportive of someone in that situation.

If they are just annoyed with each other or don't like the others snoring or any other such trivial matters then the Church encourages counseling both with the pastor and outside services.

-spike
 
Originally posted by: Kenazo
Originally posted by: Linflas
You sure your grandmother is not confusing widow and divorcee?
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Yeah, as far as I know widows remarrying has been a very common thing throughout church history, sometimes only so that the woman would have someone to take care of her fiscally. It's hardly been frownd upon by the church. Divorcees on the other hand still can't get married in my church unless it's to the original partner, which there is some biblical justification for (not sure if I agree with it, but whatever). There's absolutely no justification for widows not remarrying.
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Ok, well thanks. Maybe my grandma is on some of that senior crack, or something.
🙂 Or she just remembers things differently. I dunno.
 
should be no problem at all in most churches, just don't get remarried immediately after the death of the spouse. 😛
 
Originally posted by: xboxist
Originally posted by: Kenazo
Originally posted by: Linflas
You sure your grandmother is not confusing widow and divorcee?
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Yeah, as far as I know widows remarrying has been a very common thing throughout church history, sometimes only so that the woman would have someone to take care of her fiscally. It's hardly been frownd upon by the church. Divorcees on the other hand still can't get married in my church unless it's to the original partner, which there is some biblical justification for (not sure if I agree with it, but whatever). There's absolutely no justification for widows not remarrying.
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Ok, well thanks. Maybe my grandma is on some of that senior crack, or something.
🙂 Or she just remembers things differently. I dunno.
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Well, doesn't mean the church she was at didn't frown on remarriage of widows though, I suppose.
 
Your grandmother may be a senile. I don't think widows remarrying were EVER an issue. There's a story in the bible about a man who asks Jesus who he'll be with in heaven if he marries another woman after his wife dies, and Jesus tells him neither, because it's heaven.
 
Originally posted by: xboxist
Just curious. I wasn't raised with a religious background at all, so I have nothing to go by. My grandma says that back in the day, even an 18-year old widow might have been expected to live the rest of her life unmarried, and be happy about it.

I'm guessing that today's churches might be a little more open to the idea of re-marrying? Maybe even support it? Or maybe things haven't changed at all? I don't know - was hoping you'd tell me.

Thanks.
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they kill her and label her a prostitute.
 
Originally posted by: xboxist
Just curious. I wasn't raised with a religious background at all, so I have nothing to go by. My grandma says that back in the day, even an 18-year old widow might have been expected to live the rest of her life unmarried, and be happy about it.

I'm guessing that today's churches might be a little more open to the idea of re-marrying? Maybe even support it? Or maybe things haven't changed at all? I don't know - was hoping you'd tell me.

Thanks.
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She's a WITCH!
 
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