How have you made a difference in somebody's life?

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Lifer
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What have you done to make a difference to someone? Anyone, can be a spouse, a stranger, or a friend. Have you donated a toy to a Christmas charity for disadvantaged kids? Saved a person from a burning building? Is there anything you're particularly proud of having done? How much did it cost you, financially, emotionally, or otherwise? Would you do it again?
 

Aves

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My wife says that without me she probably wouldn't have gone to college or quit smoking.

All I did was encourage her but it works for me. :)
 

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I once made a guy on CS call me a "lovely human with no skillz" after I killed him.
 

Rallispec

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when i was a lifegaurd i had to dive in a save a girl who jumped off the diving board who couldnt swim.
i like to htink i've impacted everyone around me in some way though. even if its just through dumb things like telling a joke at lunch.
 

gopunk

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i like to think that what i do in life has no effect on anybody else :)

whoa, rallispec just said like the exact opposite :p
 

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<< I once made a guy on CS call me a "lovely human with no skillz" after I killed him. >>



skoorb... you saint you. ;)
 

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<< when i was a lifegaurd i had to dive in a save a girl who jumped off the diving board who couldnt swim. >>

Was she hot and when you were doing CPR she woke up and then she wanted to make out and then you guys got together after?! :Q
 

aphex

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Not yet, but i hope to someday...
 

glen

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I have worked with hundreds of drug addicts and their childrem.
I work extensively with the children of crack addicts.
 

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<<

<< when i was a lifegaurd i had to dive in a save a girl who jumped off the diving board who couldnt swim. >>

Was she hot and when you were doing CPR she woke up and then she wanted to make out and then you guys got together after?! :Q
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yeah, but she was only 10 and i was 17 and her parents got mad and her dad came after me with a gun, but luckily he was slow and a bad aim- so i got away. i had to quit my job and move to mexico, where i havent been heard from since.
 

gopunk

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<<

<< when i was a lifegaurd i had to dive in a save a girl who jumped off the diving board who couldnt swim. >>

Was she hot and when you were doing CPR she woke up and then she wanted to make out and then you guys got together after?! :Q
>>



no, the girl was actually dead by that point, he just dryhumped her leg until the coroner arrived
 

Maetryx

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<< My wife says that without me she probably wouldn't have gone to college or quit smoking. >>



Good moves! I quoted you because this is very similar to my own submission to this thread. I too married somone and encouraged them to go to college. I got her to quit smoking before we even got together. Anway, GrimmX is graduating on Sunday, woohoo! 4-year degree in Russian Studies. She never ever thought she would go to college before we got together.

Her parents are arriving tomorrow. They love me! :)
 

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<< i like to think that what i do in life has no effect on anybody else >>



Yes, how true, how true. I can even call it my motto. Of course, I did donate some money to the charity, but it wasn't a lot of money, so I don't think it made any big difference.
 

Rallispec

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<< no, the girl was actually dead by that point, he just dryhumped her leg until the coroner arrived >>




no- it wasnt 'dryhumping' seeing as how she was just dragged out of the pool and was still wet. :)
 

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I've been told that I make people laugh and smile both in real time and online. I'm a good mother, a loyal and faithful friend or partner.I'm a good computer tech .I spent 15 yrs trying to bring some sliver of normal life to mentally ill clients and help to needy, abadoned cats.I try when I can to bring computing into the lives of folks who couldn't afford it otherwise. No big rescues or anything just trying to treat people in the same way I'd like to be treated :)
 

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For me, I may not have made too much of a difference, but some church mission trips to Mexico, doing construction work on an orphanage, a drug rehab center, people's homes... A little difference. Cost, a few bucks and some hard work. The return on the investment is immeasurable. Done it twice, would like to do it again, at the right time.
 

911paramedic

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Besides working as a paramedic (I have made differences here and there), I like to help out in other ways. I worked with Special Olympics for many years. I try to work at our local soup kitchen on thanksgivings preparing and serving meals. I have done several public service announcement commercials (for my employer, probably does not count).

I also try to hold doors open, say thank you, help when people need it in general. My ex-wife asked me how my day went once and I told her how I stopped at an accident scene (off duty) and helped everybody until the ambulances got there. She told me "you are the only person I know that would not tell me about that until I asked about it". Seemed like such a natural thing that I didn't even think about telling her about it. LOL

I think some of the best things are those that come naturally. Smile and say "hello" once in a while...
 

NikPreviousAcct

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Every morning, I wake up with the determination to make a difference in my own life. The only person whose life I can make a difference in is my own. By some chance, if my life shows someone else how they can better theirs, then it's a bonus that I don't deserve. :)

nik
 

911paramedic

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<<

<< no, the girl was actually dead by that point, he just dryhumped her leg until the coroner arrived >>




no- it wasnt 'dryhumping' seeing as how she was just dragged out of the pool and was still wet. :)
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Hehehe, that reminds me of a huge verbal blunder I made once to a patient. I once told a 20-ish woman (very attractive) that was just extricated from her crumpled car, while on the way to the hospital, that I needed to examine her chest. :Q

It was normal due to her injuries (I have had to needle a few chests from injuries) but it just sounded wrong at the time. The only good thing is that she had a head injury and retrograde amnesia, so she did not remember what I said after about two minutes.
 

ThePresence

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I was at a pool party, and a someones 3 year old daughter jumped into the pool. I was the only one who saw, jumped in and dragged her out. And that's how I learned to swim. The parents didnt even say thank you.
 

GermyBoy

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I make a special lady feel as if she's the only one in the world, every time she's around me.
 

RSI

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Honestly I can't think of how I make a positive difference to anybody. All I seem to do is negative. Day after day I get bitched at by my parents and everything I do wrong or everything I don't do that I should do is singled out and criticized, put down about how useless I am. No, I don't feel like I make much of a difference to anyone. I may as well not exist and it wouldn't make a difference to anyone.
 

911paramedic

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When people ask me this question I seem to remember one call in particular. It may be because the family sent me a letter after or because it was a terrible accident that should never have happened.

I just finished dropping off a patient at a hospital when I was dispatched for a head-on collision about 15 miles from where I was. (It was out of town on a rural road, and it was snowing) We got there quickly and were the second ambulance to arrive, which meant we get the most critical patient. It took about 30 minutes to extricate out patient, all the time we were working on getting an IV and airway established. She was breathing very badly and was not responding to any questions. We got her extricated, on a backboard, and into our ambulance. It was snowing (yes, it happens in las vegas) so we could not get the helo there(we were about 20 miles from the trauma center). The first thing I can really recall is that her right leg was, uh, all over the place. The other thing I really remember is that she kept trying to motion to us with her right arm but it was flopping all over from the elbow up. It was not a concern due to her other, much worse injuries, so we let her keep doing it. Long story short, she recovered after much treatment and rehabilitation. This is the letter I received from her family over a year later:


Letter from the family:

It was one year ago that Sarah was involved in a horrendous car crash when she was hit head-on by a drunk driver. When you look at the picture of Sarah's car, it is hard to imagine that anyone survived, let alon progress as well as she has. Sarah's injuries were a broken neck, a broken shoulder, broken left wrist, a lacerated liver, and her right leg was broken in several places including a compound fracture above her ankle and her knee cap and ankle were crushed.

For several days the doctors did not know if Sarah would survive. Sarah spent three weeks in U.M.C. Trauma Intensive Care, six weeks in HealthSouth Rehabilitation Hospital, two months on home health care, and a total of five months in outpatient physical therapy. Now, one year later, Sarah is back in school full time, and she celebrated spring break by taking a trip to San Diego.

We feel it was the grace of God that allowed the paramedics to be so close by, and they responded with the proper care that allowed Sarah to be romoved from the car without any further injury. We were blessed with skillful doctors and nurses that took such excellent care of Sarah.

After a year of recovery Sarah is still working hard to get stronger every day. After seven surgeries, Sarah has metal throughout her body. Sarah's neck was fused and she has a metal plate atteching her sping to the base of her skull, her wrist has a pin holding a bone graft together, a metal rod was inserted in her femur, a metal wire surrounds her knee cap, and a metal plate and screws is attached to fuse her rught ankle. Sarah has lost half of the movement in her neck, walks with a limp, and has trouble walking long distances, and suffers from ached and pains that will be with her from now on. Sarah's personality has not changed since the crash, and she has a positive outlook on her future and a wonderful smile that can light up a room.

Words alone will never be able to express how thankful we are for everyone that has helped us through this. Every one of you played an important part in Sarah's recovery and have allowed our family to come out of this with our sanity intact. We will never be ale to repay you for all the things you have done for us. You each hold a special place in our hearts and your kindess and thoughtfulness will be remembered forever.

A personal note written on the letter:

Thanks for all of your
help. Also thanks for the
birthday card and the
stuffed bear.

Alan, Diana, and Sarah




That is a long read, but it is the only letter or thanks that I have gotten in my five years of being a paramedic, that I have ever gotten that stuck with me.
I have received a few other letters of thanks, but this is special. I will never forget that call.



Just as a note, the other driver was killed. His six children and wife, that were in the van, were OK.


If I could get my scanner working again, I would show you a pic of her car
 

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i'm prolly not the only one, but i have helped people deal with suicide, online and in rl. I try to teach my brother good things to do, but he just will not ever listen to me. Some things that make me proud don't have to do with people. I like to help animals a lot. Currently we have a dog that someone ditched up the road, it was all ridden with the mange, and no one around here was feeding it, i took it in and now feed and water it everyday, have kind of a bond with it now.
 

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